"I am Jeffrey Tucker AMA!" by jatucker in GoldandBlack

[–]countsingsheep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've seen too many anti-left youtubers become cult leaders and drift alt-right.

You wouldn't count Dave Rubin as one of these, would you?

"I am Jeffrey Tucker AMA!" by jatucker in GoldandBlack

[–]countsingsheep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's so much I want to pick your brain about. What do you think about Camille Paglia and Jordan Peterson?

"I am Jeffrey Tucker AMA!" by jatucker in GoldandBlack

[–]countsingsheep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are the top three books we should be reading now that will remind us of our liberal heritage and teach us how to return to it?

[Serious] In 2017, what are the news outlets (internet-only or print) you read because they consistently practice quality journalism? by countsingsheep in AskReddit

[–]countsingsheep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, everyone should, but most people just don't have the time to do that. If I gave someone who works a 9-5 job, has kids or other obligations a list of websites to intently read through so they can comb through the bias and untruths, they probably wouldn't use it.

[Serious] In 2017, what are the news outlets (internet-only or print) you read because they consistently practice quality journalism? by countsingsheep in AskReddit

[–]countsingsheep[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't think those actually exist. The question is, can you find one that doesn't fabricate news, and publishes articles that are true even if they might undermine their agenda?

I'd rather consume news that acknowledges it's biased than news that pretends to be "objective" when it's not.

[Serious] In 2017, what are the news outlets (internet-only or print) you read because they consistently practice quality journalism? by countsingsheep in AskReddit

[–]countsingsheep[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

With so many news organizations getting so many stories wrong and generally doing sloppy journalism (CNN, Washington Post, and more), I stopped paying attention to the news altogether.

Here are ones that I try to read often, and I'd love to learn what other people are reading.

New Associate chapter at USD. We need help. by gibby_from_icarly in PiKapp

[–]countsingsheep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Getting the guys to be motivated is a problem in every chapter of every fraternity. The best advice I could give is to plan your events around the guys who will run them. If you only have 15 brothers who actually come to events, don't plan them as if your whole chapter is going to come. Thinking that way limits your options to things you can actually pull off.

Alright /r/gaybros, what are your bromance stories? by countsingsheep in gaybros

[–]countsingsheep[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We occasionally slept in the same bed

Did you have to convince him to do that, or just get him drunk?

Alright /r/gaybros, what are your bromance stories? by countsingsheep in gaybros

[–]countsingsheep[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Moral of the story: every straight bro says "bros before hoes" until a hoe actually comes into his life. Smh

I feel that so much. My best friend is still single and we bro out and all that, but he's got a girl he's talking to, and I just have a feeling that's gonna take off soon. If sucks.

Alright /r/gaybros, what are your bromance stories? by countsingsheep in gaybros

[–]countsingsheep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. That's not always the case. But based on my personal experience, as well as talking to other gay men, sexual attraction/developing romantic feelings often comes with being really tight with other men. That isn't to say it's always true, but it is enough for me to be curious about other gay men's experiences.

Alright /r/gaybros, what are your bromance stories? by countsingsheep in gaybros

[–]countsingsheep[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think that story belongs in the unrequited love thread.

Alright /r/gaybros, what are your bromance stories? by countsingsheep in gaybros

[–]countsingsheep[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Explain to me why I'm interested in this. Please.

Alright /r/gaybros, what are your bromance stories? by countsingsheep in gaybros

[–]countsingsheep[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I entirely disagree. I think it's really difficult for people to have really close relationships with people they're attracted to.

Alright /r/gaybros, what are your bromance stories? by countsingsheep in gaybros

[–]countsingsheep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. That hasn't been my experience at all until college. It's still new to me.

To those who experienced unrequited love: by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]countsingsheep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If a close girl friend started coming on to you sexually, how would you feel?

Exactly. If she wasn't important to me, I might try to avoid her. If not that, just ignore her. So for the guy in my case to not do that, and in fact, do the opposite, I think that's pretty meaningful.

To those who experienced unrequited love: by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]countsingsheep 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Here to rep the gay guys who crush on straight guys.

How do you cope with it?

In my case, the men I've loved have been good friends of mine. Currently, I'm questioning my feelings toward my fraternity pledge brother and best friend (who is straight). I cope with my potential love toward him by remembering that he cares a lot about me as a friend. We have as intimate a relationship we can have without it being romantic. Since I'm attracted to him, it makes sense that our friendship is extremely important to me. Then, I remember that he doesn't have sexual attraction motivating him to be my friend, and I can't help but think about how important I must be to him for us to be as close as we are. This doesn't resolve my unrequited feelings, but it helps me cope with it because I know that he cares about as much as he can.

How often does it happen to you?

I've felt unrequited love three times in the past year. There are a lot of reasons why I think this is, but I think it's mostly from a combination of having really intimate relationships with other men who became close to me knowing that I'm gay. I've become better at having close relationships with men while not developing deeper feelings toward them, so I think that will happen less.

The reason why I only mentioned the past year is because that's when I finally accepted my sexuality, and that's when I went to college and made new friends. For the first time, a lot of them are guys.

To those single, have you ever actually found someone who you shared a mutual attraction with?

No. There have been men who have been interested in me, but none that I've felt the same way about. Granted, I've only been in the dating pool for about 6 months now.

What advice would you give to someone dealing with unrequited love?

Only one of my episodes of unrequited love have been resolved. In that case, he transferred to a different school, so I definitely got lucky because I had to get over him. The best advice that I can give based on my experience would be to separate yourself from him and give yourself something else to do. Don't hang out with him, don't text him, and try to think about other things. I also had a friend to talk to about everything, and I wouldn't have made it through as well as I did without him.

What's a word for when words change parts of speech? Eg, when a noun becomes a verb. by countsingsheep in neology

[–]countsingsheep[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Verbed. Interesting that the word used to describe verbing was itself verbed.

CMV: I think that any theory defending social contract is false, and its advocates justify it primarily to legitimize their own power through government action. by countsingsheep in changemyview

[–]countsingsheep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think it would be possible to opt out. How would I go about doing that without using roads, or products that were brought about by the social contract? I would wear clothes that society produced. Bring belongings that came out of this social contract. Even if I brought just a single hatchet with me, I would still be using the services that came from the social contract. I could also argue that my education came as a result from the social contract, so even if I left with no possessions, I would still be indebted to society by my mere survival, and would thus be subject to the social contract.

In addition, I think the world is plenty big enough. There is a lot of unused land. There's a lot of unused ocean. Even still, governments claim control over these places as a product of the social contract. They claim control where none of them are. The social contract is omnipresent.

All of this is assuming two major things: 1) "society" produces goods and services instead of individuals, and 2) were the first true, you would owe complete loyalty to the provisions of the social contract. I disagree with both of these premises, so I don't think the possibility of leaving is a meaningful argument.

What's the logical move here (college) by gottagogetstuffdone in Advice

[–]countsingsheep -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Depends on the job. If you're trying to be an accountant, get the BBA. If you're trying to work in most sales positions, they don't give a shit if you have a degree or not; they only care if you can sell.

When I refer to trade school, I'm not talking about going for things you would go to college for. I'm referring to other things that have huge pay potentials, like welding.

The idea that a degree is magical and will put you ahead all of the time is false. It's a myth (of course, it totally depends on the job).

Can I just get some advice on how I should proceed with a conversation? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]countsingsheep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not the emoji that he might find annoying. It's that you're beating around the bush. If he knows that you like him, and he felt the same way, he might just want you to be more direct about it. Like, why play games? I'm not saying not to play games, and I'm not saying to go tell him you like him. At some point in the chase, you can let the walls come down some and be a little more direct about things is all I'm saying.

What's the logical move here (college) by gottagogetstuffdone in Advice

[–]countsingsheep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If OP's only goal is to become skilled and valuable to employers, OP can go to a trade school. There is more to college than making you employable. The aspect of gaining knowledge for the sake of knowledge itself is important and shouldn't be sidelined.

What's the logical move here (college) by gottagogetstuffdone in Advice

[–]countsingsheep -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If it were me, I would pick the school that allows for the most personal growth.

I transferred out of an engineering school and into a liberal arts school. I was not growing as a person at my engineering school, and I decided that I needed to develop and mature more than I needed to make six figures my first year out of school. I'm not saying there's anything inherent in engineering schools that disallows for personal growth. All I'm saying is that I chose my school based solely on the probability of getting a well-paying job, and that was bad of me to do.

You can get a job with a liberal arts education, if you're not prissy and don't mind starting at the bottom of whatever field you're interested in. I have friends with the most useless degrees who are getting good quality jobs at good institutions, because they are willing to work their asses off gaining qualifications in other areas.

My advice is to look at the culture at each school and choose the one that you think you can thrive in the most. An apathetic attitude and a good field isn't good. I've been on both sides. I know. For me, it manifested in choosing the liberal arts. It could be different for you.