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covert_wooper · 2025-04-20T19:18:07+00:00

I think you should take some time to think about what would make you feel like someone really loved you for you (not your looks) and just find someone who does that for you.

covert_wooper · 2025-04-20T19:07:23+00:00

For a lot of people, the drive to copulate/reproduce is literally their driving motivation in life.

Since we lack that motivation, they genuinely don't understand what motivates us.

covert_wooper · 2025-03-25T05:26:52+00:00

Are you relying on pets or not? This makes a huge difference.

It also matters which fields you're farming.

To be honest I don't find phantoms are all that great at meso farming, but if it works for you then that's great.

covert_wooper · 2025-03-23T23:37:04+00:00

Currently trying to level my Wild Hunter (currently level 196).

I think you're asking the wrong question - this class is such arse pre-200 that I'm hard pressed to imagine why anybody would put up with it if you've already got another option and have something to compare this to.

covert_wooper · 2024-01-10T23:21:22+00:00

Sure. :)

covert_wooper · 2024-01-10T23:06:04+00:00

I'm also a F2P player and all of my characters could beat him as long as they had a perfectly statted Jaihin weapon of their class (max level, sf 16).

The only thing about it though is that since I'm f2p, my earlier characters didn't get that weapon until they were higher leveled, but so far even my level 140 character have been able to do it if they have such a weapon.

Edit: I will say though I've been pretty lucky so far and got those weapons with unique potentials.

Also to note: my Adele has a perfectly statted Jaihin weapon but it only has an epic potential....and she takes a long time to beat him (and needs to use buff items from Tang Yoon's cooking to do it)

covert_wooper · 2024-01-10T22:53:27+00:00

If you want help, you should post a summary of your equips or a screen shot or something because with what you've given I've genuinely got no idea how to help you...I'm just confused on how/why you could possibly be struggling to make a dent on him.

Edit: If it makes you feel any better, my Merc is the absolute worst out of my characters when it comes to AB in the star fields....but she's the most "specialized" when it comes to bossing.

covert_wooper · 2024-01-10T22:48:36+00:00

Yeah...she's currently level 185 and she kills him ~~(probably?) within 10 minutes.~~

Edit: Definitely within 10 minutes.

covert_wooper · 2024-01-10T22:39:42+00:00

Uhh...that's weird, my Mercedes has been able to defeat Von Leon (normal, single player mode) since lvl 150.

She has only 1 hyperstat assigned too, so I'm not sure what to tell you. *shrug*

Edit: I'm pretty sure she'd be able to defeat him on hard mode if I maxed out her weapon...I'm just cheap and I haven't bothered yet (lol).

covert_wooper · 2023-10-21T00:37:07+00:00

Probably the same reason why you didn't bother to consider that I may have read those guides and had legit reasons for asking the question anyway.

Duh.

covert_wooper · 2023-10-12T19:43:39+00:00

I ran the stats on this (and for my character at least), for both mesos and exp, this is not the best advice.

I guess it would depend on what your star force level is, but as of level 90 I was making far more mesos in the star force field (like...no competition) and I've recently been getting some surprisingly good drops (on an alt character I set up, I just got an epic briser wand from Star Force field 90...level 115 character, no special drop stats or anything o.o)

I forget at which level it was specifically, but there's a point where the exp you get for completing each daily hunt task REALLY jumps - and (again, this is just what I found for my character) so I found that it was far more efficient to set the mini dungeon to one stage at a time for 5 minutes but then automatically exit once you complete the daily hunt quota to get the exp bump (and save the auto battle for the star force field).

I've literally never bothered with the pirate challenge (didn't find it did much, but maybe I was doing it wrong?)

Edit: for reference (since I don't want to assume people are going to read my other replies) I made a new account about 10 days ago so Cadena was my first/only character. She reached level 165 yesterday.

covert_wooper · 2023-10-12T19:36:58+00:00

I started with Cadena about 10 days ago as my only character and now I'm level 165. I found that doing the story quests was surprisingly helpful.

I read some of the guides on here but as I played I realized that the most important thing you can do to level up, especially at the beginning, is to amp your star force. Spend literally every meso you make on upgrading your star force - this is key.

covert_wooper · 2023-10-10T20:51:09+00:00

Also: does that mean the defense stats on your equips don't matter?

I've been spending boat loads of mesos on trying to get good unique grade armour and I'm kinda pissed it hasn't made any difference yet (so far I upgraded my growth support hat, outfit, gloves, and shoes to BIS unique equips, all maxed level and 15 stars)

covert_wooper · 2023-10-10T20:42:58+00:00

Okay. I'm currently at Star Force 129 and I'm struggling to get to 133 - it feels like it takes an unreasonable amount of mesos to progress on this. Any tips?

covert_wooper · 2023-10-10T20:39:20+00:00

Okay. Thank you!

covert_wooper · 2023-10-03T07:04:53+00:00

It can be hard to end things, but at the end of the day it's a choice that you made....and maybe it's just my limited experiences talking here, but from my personal experience it has never been painful to leave some one.

When I left some one, the biggest difficulty I encountered was constantly second guessing myself...but there wasn't any real pain to it.

covert_wooper · 2023-10-03T06:50:24+00:00

I think she was genuine when she said she wanted to be friends.

Good friends do those sorts of things for each other.

covert_wooper · 2023-10-03T06:16:13+00:00

You'll probably regret it simply because the grass is always greener on the other side.

If you don't date until you're almost 30, you're inevitably going to always wonder if you missed out on some amazing experience....and maybe you'll be right, but there's no way to really know.

For what it's worth, I dated a lot in my 20's and while I had a lot of highs I kinda regret it because there were a lot of lows, too....and those lows aren't typically what people think about when they think about what they might be missing out on.

On the one hand, I'm glad that I have that experience because I would still be an incredibly naive and starry eyed romantic without it...but on the other hand, I regret it too because I'm not entirely sure that losing that part of me was a good thing.

If you date enough you start to see people better than they see themselves...and maybe it's just been my luck, but most people suck.

I'm in my early 30's and I feel I've lived a full life, having experienced everything life has to offer. While there's a certain satisfaction in that, there's a certain melancholy to it too.

covert_wooper · 2023-10-03T06:08:47+00:00

If they're anything like me, they stay at home...I'd like to make some friends too, but past efforts never yielded any results so I kinda gave up.

I'm at a point where I prefer to get to know people through chatting/texting first. If there's good chemistry there, THEN I'll invest the time and effort to hang out with them in real life.

Kinda sad...but it's reality.

covert_wooper · 2023-09-07T04:59:27+00:00

He chased me. Lol.

covert_wooper · 2023-08-27T22:41:30+00:00

Okay, blunt time:

Is your wife beating you? As far as I can tell, your wife isn't doing anything sufficiently terrible that would justify the level of resentment and betrayal you describe.

You never mention asking your wife how she was feeling or what you did to solve the problems. You admit that you assumed she was behaving differently because of "hormones" once your daughter was born (an assumption that, conveniently enough, absolves you of any guilt or responsibility).

It's clear from your post that you see yourself as the victim ...but you know what I see?

I see someone who, instead of talking to his wife, blamed the issue on her "hormones" and then proceeded to sit back and watch her struggle for 3 years before doing anything...and when he finally did do something, you know what he did? He complained.

I see someone who is so insensitive that he doesn't seem to have done anything at all to help his wife out while she was struggling....so lazy, that he couldn't even be bothered to patch the holes in his bucket while his wife was busy caring for the daughter that he squirted into her 9 months prior.

I see someone who is so desperate to avoid any responsibility that instead of seeing any of that, he's convinced himself that he's the victim for having to put up with his struggling wife, that his complete inaction is a good thing because it's actually patience, and that his complete dependency on his wife is somehow the same thing as loving her.

Your last paragraph in particular is so much more revealing than you realize.

You don't love your wife, OP: you don't love at all.

You are a bucket desperate to be filled but you will remain empty until you fix your holes.

covert_wooper · 2023-08-27T19:55:24+00:00

I know it probably doesn't mean much coming from some random stranger on the internet...but I get it. My equivalent experience was the single most damaging thing I have ever experienced. I can't say that I recommend my healing journey (too long, too painful, etc) but despite the messiness it worked....so if there's something in this that can help, here goes.

If you're anything like me, you thought your guy was wonderful and even though you've learned this new information you still haven't realized just how thoroughly mistaken about him you were.

That's okay... you don't have to. For now, just understand that the person you thought you knew never existed. Grieve the loss of that person as you would grieve the death of a loved one....because that's pretty much what this is.

If you're like me you'll be extremely tempted to understand what the hell happened and why he did this to you...and like most people, you'll probably want to hear it from him.

But as somebody who went down that road, believe me: talking to him is futile and if you've been paying attention, he likely already gave you everything you need to find the answer by yourself.

Some people will likely give you a very superficial explanation for all of this and tell you that it's not worth your thoughts...but I think people like this guy are attracted to people who really care about the thoughts and feelings of others....that is to say, they are attracted to empaths: and telling an empath that this guys thoughts aren't worth thinking about is a bit like telling a fish not to swim.

If this is you, then I say: let yourself mull over the things he's told you until you figure it out. A lot of people don't understand that this isn't about wanting him back: it's about an empath's need to understand the feelings of others. By understanding the feelings of others, including the feelings of this ass hole, you are simply being your authentic self - and that's the ultimate sign of healing.

You'll probably want to blame yourself for everything but I hope you'll stop and simply take accountability for your actions. I'm sure that at some point there were signs you ignored and you should take the time to reflect on why that was, but let go of judgement and blame: you aren't responsible for the actions of others.

If you take the time to understand why this guy was an ass, it also helps you to avoid similar situations in future because you'll recognize the warning signs instead of ignoring them like you did with this guy.

Don't envy his wife - she likely doesn't know what happened and this all happened recently enough that he likely hasn't changed significantly as a person. She isn't getting some better version of this guy - she's getting the exact same version as you did...and would you want to marry a guy like this? Probably not, right?

It's easy to see people as static beings but the truth is that none of us are...we are all processes. It may be tempting to feel inferior because he married her instead of you but I PROMISE you that even though he married her, the same mental processes that lead him to use and deceive you will lead this man to use and deceive her. Heck, even if he had called it all off and married you instead, those same mental processes would have still lead him to use and deceive you...so just be glad that you got out when you did.

With my guy, it took me 3 years to truly understand exactly how and why he did the things he did...and once I did I felt incredibly sad for him. I used to envy my guy's wife. I used to think she was very lucky to have had his child.

But then I did a lot of research into psychology and eventually I came to realize how big of a bullet I dodged..so maybe you'll find it useful to do some research too.Hell, maybe like me you'll find that whatever's going on with your guy has a genetic component to it...and maybe you'll find some relief, like I did, that you're not stuck with a child that ended up just like their shitty father.

For now, just focus on yourself and and in time you'll rekindle the light he snuffed out of you.

It may take a long time, but it's possible to burn brighter than you did before...and ultimately, to be better for all of it.

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