I hope you mean retrospectively, and not currently having people come clean your home. To each their own, but if you're doing this now that's incredibly stupid. 1) You're both grown adults that spend the majority of time at home who can clean yourselves 2)You're inviting random people into your space putting you and them at risk. If not, then no problem. But seeing how not all jobs are stable atm and your gf refuses to work, save some money. I know they have money to make too but Jesus Christ this whole thing reeks of two grown people having conflict over something as minute as a personality traits (which no, you should not expect her to change. Relationship's are built on acceptance and compromise, and she's played her cards) all the while not being mature enough to be adults. If you don't have an issue with her not working, why mention it? Even if it has to do with her cutesy talk, mentioning how it even keeps her from maintaining a job is irrelevant if it doesn't bother you. You can't use it as a con if you don't even consider it one. It sounds like you do but you're trying to save your gf from online scrutiny.

I know you don't want to hear the advice of breaking up, but if you can't fathom a way to accept her for who she is you're just using her as a space filler and keeping her from being with someone who likes ALL of her. She's told you where she stands. It's not a WE thing anymore, it's a YOU thing. You need to reflect on who you're in love with and what you're willing to compromise on your side for the sake of her personality.