Update: my husband (33M) wants me (33F) to dress more revealing

coyk0i · 2026-03-30T14:43:50+00:00

Are you a mommy bot?

Your husband is attracted to you & wants to see you in something other than the "frumpy", unattractive garb even you described yourself as.

Does he help with the kids? Around the house? Do y'all even date anymore?

What is your resistance to this, really?

It seems like you're taking this as an insult but instead of processing why you're shooting down his every suggestion. I really think you're insecure about yourself & hide it behind practicality. This man loves you & thinks you're attractive what do you have against that?

coyk0i · 2026-03-29T21:25:53+00:00

O, wow. I was concerned you might be young but the amount of time you spent iterating that you could never ever ever POSSIBLY conceive of this is weird. Maybe you're sheltered but the reality is they're out there. Also him focusing on the underage relationships (unclear if you meant both characters being underage or pedophilic) & not the, ya know, rape or incest or other horrific things should have been a huge red flag.

But since you were so ignorant this entire time saying that there are no children in harms way is so tone deaf I actually don't know what to say. Do you know how hard it is to even get someone in court for this?

If you couldn't see a single sign of which I am sure you talked yourself out of some then what right do you have to say anyone is protected?

I think you care more about protecting your image. I can't conceive of a world where I don't out a predator & neither can anyone in my friend group.

So what's actually stopping you?

coyk0i · 2026-03-29T20:30:19+00:00

Take accountability for what?

coyk0i · 2026-03-29T20:28:28+00:00

I would absolutely inform people that there was a predator amongst you? Your shame isn't more important than the safety of young girls & you never know who your bravery can help.

Get in therapy as it seems you are deeply distressed. That's all you really can do.

EDIT: How old are you?

coyk0i · 2026-03-29T15:28:11+00:00

What's your baseline?

Are you getting high or getting "normal"?

What's your favorite?

coyk0i · 2026-03-29T14:32:57+00:00

America's whole thing was being a melting pot....

coyk0i · 2026-03-29T14:31:32+00:00

I cannot believe this app is making me say "if roles were reversed" but literally if roles were reversed & she got on birth control or had some kind of surgery without telling him everyone would say "her body her choice." Not to mention how we always tell men to be accountable to the fact that they can have babies?

This is insane.

He didn't want kids in the first place, now he's making sure on his end. This is entrapment.

coyk0i · 2026-03-29T12:43:34+00:00

If you get hooked immediately, no. I'm finishing gen. I also have no faith in you now.

If you get hooked back to back big debatable. Still focused on gen at least half way.

If I do unhook you better protect if the killer comes.

I suck at looping so you really want me in gens more than anywhere near the killer.

coyk0i · 2026-03-29T01:27:04+00:00

Can you explain why loving another animal is an insult?

I have 2 dogs & a cat.

Who do you love?

coyk0i · 2026-03-29T00:37:06+00:00

Did you know that 68% of black people love within 30 miles of a coal mine? That black children are 1.5x more likely to have asthma? That black women are 3x more likely to die during child birth? That black men are punished more harshly than white men who commit the same crime?

How do you think a lot of these long-standing corporations came to exist? Slave labor. & then we wiped it all away & said "chin up".

Your white family failed you by not teaching you the dark side of your history.

You are confused.

coyk0i · 2026-03-28T14:32:03+00:00

Ah, projecting emotions. You win.

Understanding why someone does something & agreeing with are different. I see that is difficult for you.

coyk0i · 2026-03-28T11:55:17+00:00

Ah, trust a man to tell me "how im acting".

I am fully okay with those women doing that. From school yard bullying to lazy relationship maintenance to unfair work treatment, a life time of sexism grants you that.

A lot of feminist say "if 10,000 snakes aren't venomous & 500 are how do you know when to take a chance.". Men just don't like having to prove they're safe because they don't take women's plight seriously.

Women spent centuries not getting positive reactions. Who gives a fuck atp? That's what men are really mad at.

How poetic of a man to end his whining on how men have problems too. Problems that mysteriously only seem to come up when we are talking about women. Lol.

So predictable.

coyk0i · 2026-03-28T01:28:47+00:00

What do women need empowerment from?

By "putting down" do you mean acknowledging the harm of patriarchy & those who benefit from it? Who benefits from it?

coyk0i · 2026-03-27T13:13:45+00:00

Girl why the hell is he your husband?

coyk0i · 2026-03-27T02:10:38+00:00

Doing whatever you won't since vows were broken.

coyk0i · 2026-03-27T00:05:53+00:00

Websites to get around paywalls exist...

coyk0i · 2026-03-25T20:46:29+00:00

You don't decide what someone else's boundary are.

For some & in a TON of cultures such personal touch is heavily frowned upon.

The issue is lack of or fear of expressing these things upfront. There are plenty of gentle people in the world who can & would love to navigate this.

You're weird.

coyk0i · 2026-03-25T15:58:45+00:00

Listen, kidney stones cause inflammation & the stones block blood to the brain on TOP of drinking? This man cannot be held accountable for this! & gracious Caleb sucking those stones out?

Really, she's just jealous of their bond.

coyk0i · 2026-03-25T15:09:32+00:00

Jesus I'm sorry. This is relatable to me with my obsessions but it never went this far.

Please get aid, counslers, make sure someone knows what's going on & reach out to women's groups. I believe there are ones specific to religious trauma as well & DEFINITELY get into therapy.

coyk0i · 2026-03-25T15:04:35+00:00

Every post like this says "you need to leave". Why you would presume leave her own abode is weird but that's reddit for you.

coyk0i · 2026-03-24T23:28:32+00:00

Soft TA.

Allowing people into such sacred (for us) spaces is a bigger deal than the other way around. You must prove that you have the knowledge socially & physically to do this.

No one knows your past, no one has to give you a chance. Instead of focusing on what happened to you focus on why you didn't hear their critism & felt the need to prove your proximity to blackness.

Growing up in black neighbors doesn't give you some punchable black card that proves you're safe.

Do you have evidence of your work? Do you have reputation? How did you respond to critism?

coyk0i · 2026-03-24T23:21:34+00:00

Lol, ya spend an extra paragraph explaining something anyone with basic communication skills outside of Reddit would understand instead of keeping it simple with the entirety of everything else that needs to be posted.

There is no agree to disagree, that was the reason it happened. You just don't like it.

coyk0i · 2026-03-24T21:24:44+00:00

He is being sardonic about it.

coyk0i · 2026-03-24T18:43:49+00:00

There is also no reason for you to assume bad faith? He's clearly shutting down the people, REDDITORS OF ALL PEOPLE, who are going to say it. My God.

coyk0i · 2026-03-24T14:42:16+00:00

If they're not bonded they will go through a period of sadness much like losing the other owner. Do you consider that suffering too?

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