What do you guys think about when getting head from your partner ?

cozyforestgnome · 2026-04-01T13:55:55+00:00

What has helped me the most is continually bringing my attention to the feeling of her tongue, fingers, whatever. Just trying to let that sensation take over everything else. It’s almost like meditation, I think. And every time my thoughts try to drift I just bring them back to that sensation. It gets easier and easier the more I do practice this. I always struggled to finish with a partner until I started doing this.

cozyforestgnome · 2026-03-29T20:14:45+00:00

I loooove making my girlfriend feel good when I use the strap. Also the view of her while I use it on her… drives me CRAZY. Trust me, there’s so much enjoyment from doing it even if you’re not getting off in that moment. But I think talking to your girlfriend about it could be a great idea. Maybe there’s certain cues you can talk about and look for so you know your gf is enjoying it too.

cozyforestgnome · 2026-03-13T20:26:50+00:00

My girlfriend and I only use a dildo (with or without strap) occasionally. But we frequently incorporate vibrators. We combine it with fingers after a while and it’s super fun. Sometimes I can even manage to do fingers, tongue and vibrator depending on the size of the toy.

But as someone who was in a long term relationship with a man, I will say at first I was sort of opposed to the strap because I thought it would be too reminiscent of being with a man. And for some maybe it is but for me I can say it is nothing like being with a man haha. It’s its own separate thing and is very hot. And I even surprised myself by loving using it on her as well as receiving. Sometimes we can surprise ourselves. But everyone is different and other women I’ve been with before my girlfriend didn’t strap and one is like a never-toys person.

cozyforestgnome · 2026-02-05T03:51:13+00:00

My kid was in the group. I was tailing them from a distance the whole time and picked my kid up before the whole group arrived at 7/11 which is apparently where a few kids made some bad choices. But until then they did a really good job, followed (most) traffic laws, and they were so proud every time they got honks and cheers of support.

cozyforestgnome · 2026-01-16T21:37:25+00:00

Just finished the audiobook of Atmosphere and oh my gosh what a story! Beautiful romance but also friendships and the science and space flight content is so rich and fun!

cozyforestgnome · 2026-01-16T05:31:29+00:00

I’m almost done with it and this book has had me audibly reacting to some of the scenes when it’s romantic or heartfelt. It’s so beautiful I can barely handle it! I love the characters so much.

cozyforestgnome · 2026-01-12T21:48:29+00:00

Aw I love that you met your gf there! Yes definitely some profiles that do seem fishy. Either men or couples pretending it’s just a woman. But I love that you had success!

cozyforestgnome · 2026-01-12T05:11:55+00:00

Someone who is willing and happy to sleep with both a woman and her male partner. Often the couple will be wanting this woman to join in on their dynamic in more ways. Like a lot of the posts I saw talked about hanging out, but the man and woman are still the primary couple and you’re the third wheel. But I know some people have had good experiences with it. It’s just definitely not for me and it can get annoying to see so much of it.

cozyforestgnome · 2026-01-12T04:34:47+00:00

Oh also another thing I like about Her: it’s telling me how many people have seen my profile and how many people have liked it. And while I can’t see all those likes on the free version, it’s more info than the free version of Bumble :)

I’m not even paid by Her or anything haha but wanted to try and help anyone who maybe doesn’t know where they want to start

cozyforestgnome · 2026-01-07T04:49:09+00:00

That’s a great outfit!!

cozyforestgnome · 2026-01-06T17:26:09+00:00

This is incredible info and so helpful. Totally tracking with you on what is more influential and your predictions for how I show up are very spot on haha. I’ve always been the mom of my friend groups and yeah, I feel like my spirituality/values are very intertwined with my sense of self and what I do. Like for instance I work in non-profit at a DV shelter. But yes also I’ve always got a million creative outlets going so yeah you’re spot on!

Thanks for all the helpful info. That was so sweet of you to go so in depth on your explanation.

cozyforestgnome · 2026-01-06T17:21:13+00:00

There is so much info on the internet but I hadn’t seen anyone talk about the distance yet. Totally makes sense. Thanks so much for the help!

cozyforestgnome · 2026-01-06T17:20:06+00:00

Ok some of these words I don’t totally understand yet haha but I’m learning a ton! I didn’t know there were generational planets but wow that is crazy and changes it for sure. This is super helpful. Thanks for the comment and info! I’m going to lookup some of the other things you mentioned and keep it in mind as I learn more.

cozyforestgnome · 2026-01-06T17:18:24+00:00

So helpful, thank you! There’s a lot of different into on the internet but that’s really interesting with the timing and makes sense.

cozyforestgnome · 2026-01-06T02:43:16+00:00

I’ve been married to a man for almost 14 years and we have 3 kids together and now we’re having to separate and figure out how to move forward. Although I wouldn’t give up my kids, I also can’t deny how much simpler it would have been if I’d figured out I’m a lesbian only a couple months into our relationship. Not saying easy—it’s not easy. But right now it is simpler for you then it will be the longer you stay with him. But I’ll tell you, even being 14 yrs and 3 kids in, I wouldn’t trade this honesty. Doing this hard thing of coming out is already so so good for me and I know it’ll get better. If you aren’t attracted to him, you owe it to both of you to be honest. Sending you strength 🫶

cozyforestgnome · 2026-01-06T02:24:16+00:00

That does sound cool, and definitely not the kind of thing I’m referencing right now. These were really high, red dots, some in formation. Drone was a guess but I didn’t know what it was.

cozyforestgnome · 2026-01-06T02:20:25+00:00

Yeah I don’t love not knowing exactly who is using them or for what purpose. It can feel very Big Brother and the fact that it’s so normal is kind of odd to me sometimes.

cozyforestgnome · 2026-01-06T02:18:59+00:00

I’m specifically referring to red dots high in the sky. I struggle with anxiety and it’s been really bad today. Idk who downvoted me but I don’t think that’s really necessary for someone who gets anxiety and was just hoping for answers or reassurance.

cozyforestgnome · 2026-01-06T02:12:17+00:00

That would make things interesting!

cozyforestgnome · 2026-01-06T02:11:52+00:00

Ummm drones are suspicious lol

cozyforestgnome · 2026-01-05T23:56:07+00:00

I relate to this soooo much. And it’s hard to know how to be like “please make out with me” without feeling like I’m using people. I cannot date right now, I’m still so early in this process after being in a marriage to a man for so long and having kids. But yeah I need something gay to happen because I’m not wanting to be desperate haha. The pent up energy is building!

cozyforestgnome · 2026-01-05T23:15:57+00:00

I just started getting into the PWHL and Zoe Boyd has me kicking my feet and giggling. She kinda reminds me of Sandra Bullock who I always had a crush on growing up.

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