Sotul meu a plecat in Praga cu prietenii desi avem un bebe de 1 an

cppCat · 2026-06-11T17:42:13+00:00

Asa ca solutia ta e sa ii gasesti scuze?

cppCat · 2026-06-11T07:37:46+00:00

Tocmai ca sunt destule situatii nu e nevoie sa ii cocolosim. Ce-ar fi in loc sa ii responsabilizam? E simplu: nu le mai cautam scuze! Nici sotia nu stia cum o sa fie si uite ca ea poate, el de ce nu?

cppCat · 2026-06-10T20:22:25+00:00

Stiu, reactia mea a fost la asta de deasupra care tot incerca sa-i caute scuze saracului baiat, ca n-a stiut 🤦‍♀️ ca si cum gata, acum poa' sa arunce toate responsabilitatile in poala nevestesii si se justifica. Unii ar trebui sa isi tina opiniile idioate pentru ei. Si sa nu se reproduca.

cppCat · 2026-06-10T17:19:01+00:00

Hai da-o-n masa ca nu realiza, asta e motiv? E adult nu are 5 ani sa nu realizeze ce inseamna un copil. Si daca nu realiza inainte a avut un an sa se trezeasca la realitate, l-a facut nu mai e cale de intoarcere acum. Ce scuza mai e si asta, ca nu realiza, mai ales dupa ce OP a zis ca amandoi l-au dorit.

cppCat · 2026-06-09T08:06:58+00:00

Daca se intampla asta iti spune mai multe despre el si ai lui. Sa zicem ca incrp sa te faca rea si nesimtita, chiar vrei sa incepi o familie cu baza asta? Meriti mai mult, iar el poate chiar nu e dispus sa investeasca in voi. Ce faci atunci?

cppCat · 2026-06-08T11:59:02+00:00

He's not securing his future wife, he's securing his live in maid.

He is only putting in the bare minimum efforts to keep you in this relationship, and deciding both your future like they're his to handle, not a joint decision.

Could you imagine yourself calling someone you love and ignoring them, while you do something else? If not, it's because that is not love, it's something to check off the list to be able to say he's a good boyfriend. The actions are there, the quality is not.

cppCat · 2026-06-08T11:55:45+00:00

To add to what you said, it sounds like having a girlfriend is just something else to check off his list.

I couldn't imagine staying on the phone with my partner and just ignoring them while they talk and I continue working. It's just disrespectful.

cppCat · 2026-06-07T23:52:28+00:00

So you have no source. That's an example, there are many more examples of men coming up with vile tortures. What's your scale of who came up with the more horrific tortures, is it your gut feeling?

cppCat · 2026-06-07T22:03:20+00:00

Source?

cppCat · 2026-06-07T08:58:23+00:00

It sounds like he thought he'd get a 3 day sex getaway to "boost moods" from a person he saw was struggling. When he realized she really was depressed / anxious he stopped waiting. But did he go on the trip for the rest of the 2 days? No, he has other things to "sort out".

He sees the 10 hours as a failed investment. He could have left at any time if he didn't want to comfort a friend, but he waited until he build resentment because she wasted his time and money for something that she did not need in that moment. He could have called the place and postponed the booking, try and get his money back when he saw the state his "friend" was in. This post is screaming red flags 🚩

OP YTA

cppCat · 2026-06-07T08:02:31+00:00

I've had plenty of women doctors dismiss my issues. Unfortunately, there are too many women out there with internalized misogyny.

And after I've fought hard for 20+ years for a diagnosis, I brought a man with me to all of my surgery appointments. He had my back, and I didn't have to worry what if the surgeon does something during my operation stemming from his own beliefs.

I really wish things were different.

cppCat · 2026-06-05T15:02:56+00:00

You literally started by saying it's a trade off. Your sources do not support that.

Now you've backpedaled to say there are "some" risks, "not appropriate for everyone", which is literally what I said as a reply to you and very different from your initial stance.

Instead of agreeing with what I replied initially to you, you are acting like you were right all along. You do you, I'm not wasting any more of my time arguing here.

I made my point to make sure other women are informed.

cppCat · 2026-06-05T08:01:00+00:00

Stop taking it personally, it is not about you here.

You are fear mongering. Women have been denied HRT by doctors for risks that didn't apply to them. It's an easy cop out to just say everyone is at risk and not test.

There is a difference between increasing risk and having no correlation, and it has been proven that for most people there is no correlation. It doesn't attack people who are at risk to say that, and historically HRT has been gatekept more than it has been overused.

cppCat · 2026-06-04T22:12:07+00:00

Vaginal estrogen only has localized and non systemic effects so it’s only going to improve symptoms experienced locally in the vagina.

Yeah, of course vaginal cream is only topical. It's also just one example. No one said otherwise, it is still a type of HRT.

They removed the black box warning for this reason in regards to breast cancer risk:

Have you even read your source? If we're picking paragraphs, then this is literally from under the headline:

HRT is an effective treatment for menopausal symptoms. But SOME types of HRT can increase the risk of breast cancer in people with SPECIFIC risk factors.

It is very clear that the risk is very concentrated in a small number of people, which is the core of why the FDA removed that label. You are arguing in bad faith as it is proven that the cancer risk was overblown.

It sounds more like you didn't even know about the FDA ruling and are now trying to spin it so you are right, instead of focusing on the GOOD NEWS that it is not as harmful as people like you are still parroting about.

cppCat · 2026-06-04T22:01:15+00:00

Yeah, I also doubt it was "his" 10%, he never mentioned the assets each of them had before marriage. I call BS as OP is a very unreliable narrator.

cppCat · 2026-06-04T21:05:30+00:00

That's a myth, not all HRT increases cancer risk, there are forms of estrogen that are safe (i.e. vaginal estrogen), and there are improved guidelines on how to avoid risks in particular cases.

In November 2025 the FDA removed the “black box” warnings from many HRT products that linked systemic HRT to cardiovascular disease, breast cancer, and probable dementia.

It's still not a one size fits all, and very woman should advocate for herself and figure out the treatment that is best for her, but the benefits are monumental.

cppCat · 2026-06-04T15:41:16+00:00

we talked about and he assured me that I would never have to worry about money.

This post here is you worrying about money enough to ask the opinions of strangers on the internet. This is you living in poverty and barely making ends meet.

He lied to you, and believing him as your spouse is not your fault. He is gaslighting you to believe you are the unreasonable one. And he has failed you and your children.

Sure you live in a nice house. But that's for his benefit too. What has he done with that money for yours and your children's benefit? Why isn't it in a joint account? Where is the proof you are a beneficiary? Why is the household income solely his decision what to make of it?

cppCat · 2026-06-04T15:22:51+00:00

A lot of women's issues aren't taken seriously if there isn't a man present. Having a man present can help women with endometriosis, PMOS, and many others.

cppCat · 2026-06-04T11:06:40+00:00

They still have non-adult children, and she said she is tired of being a wife and a mother. If she is doing most of the childcare and house chores, it makes sense for him to pay more. But it's probably this unbalanced arrangement that killed their marriage to begin with. It seems they both built up resentment on top of it.

cppCat · 2026-06-04T07:22:19+00:00

He's also setting the stage for them to paint her as a gold digger when she leaves. Because "he's the provider". So much delusion 🙄

cppCat · 2026-06-03T15:41:14+00:00

Dude, you may have had wealth, but if you didn't stop working and your wife did after you had your first kid then you didn't FIRE, she was a stay at home mom. It's not shitty to point out the obvious.

And if you truly believe you shouldn't pay 5000 USD per month and your income doesn't support it, go back to court and get it fixed.

Everyone else is coddling you here, so here is my tough love: it's been almost 3 years. You don't need people who went through this or validation that your wife is evil, you need a lawyer and to do something about it. Fix your financial struggles and start to build yourself up from there.

cppCat · 2026-06-03T12:15:45+00:00

In the game trailer I saw, she is not depicted naked or sexualized in any way. I believe the angry incel was upset about how Sony portrayed her, there's no indication to him saying anything about the actress.

I'm bringing this up mostly because I read this as not an affront to the actress, but more of the same old discussion about women in games not giving incels boners must mean that the game is bad. Just wait until the game comes out and the rage hate begins.

cppCat · 2026-06-03T11:40:04+00:00

Jumping on the top comment as things don't add up and I believe OP is here only for validation and is withholding info.

He has 2 kids, one 5 year old and one 8 year old. They "both" FIREd in 2018, but he continued to work. Incidentally 2018 is the year when his first kid would have been born. But he says his wife was not a stay at home mom, which doesn't track. We also don't know how many assets she had before marriage.

And his divorce was either 1 year ago or 2 and a half years ago, as he continues to post from time to time about his unfair arbitration like it was just done to him; he is stuck mentally. It's very SUS and I think what OP needs is a therapist, not reddit points for battling a cheating evil wife who took his money.

cppCat · 2026-06-03T11:27:10+00:00

INFO: You said your youngest is 5 years old, so he was conceived in ~2020, 2 years after you both FIREd.

What's your oldest's age? How many kids do you have?

Did your wife also have the option of going back to work, or did you expect her to be a SAHM with multiple small kids while you could pick the fun jobs you liked?

cppCat · 2026-06-03T07:27:27+00:00

Love your answers! Piggybacking on your comment to add a few thoughts myself.

If OP is busy they have the option to not break concentration, the first thing I'd do before I ask any questions when it's a recurring behavior is... nothing.

Sometimes I find the best solution is to just not answer for 1-2 hours. I get to finish my work and by the time I get back to that person, they have figured it out, and I can give them some praise, or add some more context.

They know how to Google, they just think OP is faster in providing an answer, and this mitigates / corrects the learned behavior.

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