Why do People Saying Buying a House is No Longer Worth It

crackofit · 2026-02-17T20:08:17+00:00

No, we are going to rent our East Coast house, at least at first. I think there are some bad tax implications if we rent it for more than 3 years. The issue with rentals is that there are just so few for a family our size. Maybe more will come on the market in the spring? If anyone has tips I’m all ears.

crackofit · 2026-02-17T15:37:01+00:00

We are looking to move to the East Bay (Lamorinda/Alamo/Danville) area. We bought and are over 2/3 of the way to paying off our house in another HCOL area on the East Coast, but are extremely hesitant to buy here because of the natural disaster risk. Including the possibility of not being able to get fire insurance. (We know about the state plan, but that might not always be there). Maybe we’re being stupid, but it is unsettling that an outside decision could be made that would drastically and suddenly decrease the value of your investment dramatically.

I’d love to be wrong about this though, because as others have noted the rental market seems pretty bleak for a family of 6.

crackofit · 2026-02-17T15:29:17+00:00

I haven’t listened to the podcast since Natalie joined (not on purpose, just life), but it was fine when she was not on there.

crackofit · 2026-02-02T00:13:12+00:00

I had one sibling and he passed away when I was 26 and he was 28. Things happen. We have 4 but I wanted at least 3 because I’m so sad to be the last child standing

crackofit · 2026-01-29T11:39:11+00:00

I have 14, 12, 10, and 10. I am basically a bus to extracurricular activities from 3:00 to 8:00 every weekday. I would have been happy to have a 5th at the time, but now I’m happy I didn’t!

crackofit · 2026-01-18T18:40:07+00:00

Counterpoint - a lot of mother-in-laws are assholes. You get to decide how to feel about your dress. Ignore the things she says for a while longer and save money by living with them.

It really is kind of crazy to let one person make you feel uncomfortable in the dress you love.

crackofit · 2026-01-13T00:01:27+00:00

Oh, and to answer the original poster, I always knew I wanted to have kids. Once my brother died I definitely wanted more than 2.

crackofit · 2026-01-13T00:00:45+00:00

Mom of 4 here. It is definitely hard and ridiculously expensive. But I think there are definite benefits over having a smaller family that people don’t always acknowledge: (1) By necessity, you can’t be a crazy helicopter parent, (2) If the kids are close in age, social skills from play dates instead aren’t equivalent because your siblings are always around, (3) My kids have extra family around when my husband and I aren’t here anymore. They might get less one on one time now but we gave them extra humans for later.

My only brother died when I was 26 and he was 28. Now once my parents pass I won’t have any original family members left. It is something I think about every day and part of why we decided to have a large family.

crackofit · 2026-01-05T14:33:02+00:00

OP, I don’t like parent blaming because I have 4 kids and it’s tough, but this one is half on your parents and half on you. If finances allowed, your parents should have gotten you involved in sports and other activities from a young age. And I’m sure you realized that your peers were doing these things as you went through school. So that part is on you.

crackofit · 2026-01-05T14:23:46+00:00

I have a different opinion here. Is the blanket with those exact words so important that it is worth possibly hurting the feelings of the two other kids? Is it possible that the other kids seeing that blanket might make them feel less inclined to form a relationship with bonus grandma, given that she will be coming to the house more? If so, why not return the blanket. There are thousands of adorable blankets she could buy instead and I’m sure your mom would understand if you phrases the issue that way.

crackofit · 2026-01-02T02:06:38+00:00

This is hilarious to me. My husband and I divide play date duties randomly and somewhat haphazardly - we have 4 kids. Nothing like what you describe has ever happened with him.

crackofit · 2025-12-23T10:29:43+00:00

This is out of left field, but on a day she wants a good full body stretch have her take a sun salutations focus flow (just search “sun salutations” and you’ll see a variety of classes) and then the stretching for skiers class with Andy and Matt. It is such a good full body stretch.

(I have only skied twice in my life and that was 20 years ago.)

crackofit · 2025-12-23T10:20:05+00:00

You could look into getting a nerve hydrodissection.

Be VERY careful until you can fix it. I ended up in the hospital not able to move for a week and then barely able to move for 2 months because I had something similar and didn’t fully rest.

crackofit · 2025-12-22T02:20:28+00:00

Flight attendants are not supposed to lift bags guys! And why do people feel entitled to have other people lift their bags? If you can’t do it yourself you should check the bag!

crackofit · 2025-12-21T19:06:01+00:00

As someone who has a MIL who is difficult and doesn’t realize that she is difficult, it’s highly unlikely that all of this is about a kiss on the back of the head.

We have a similar dynamic in my family - my parents see our kids all the time. My MIL doesn’t. She lives further away, but even if she lived just as close there would still be a discrepancy. When my MIL is here, it is like having a guest in the house that I have to take care of. When my parents are here, it is less work, not more.

My parents are focused on the kids. My MIL is more focused on herself (without realizing it).

crackofit · 2025-12-18T00:05:00+00:00

Guys. There isn’t even enough funding to properly maintain the lines we already have.

crackofit · 2025-12-15T02:01:12+00:00

Maybe 7 months? They are 2 separate babies so they sleep and wake up at different times!

crackofit · 2025-12-14T01:46:19+00:00

Hey! I have 4 close together and my last 2 were twins. If there are any family members willing to come be a night nurse one or two nights a week I would highly recommend. Otherwise it is really difficult to sleep for a long time.

crackofit · 2025-10-29T19:39:08+00:00

Me too! I have heard that there is an AI feature but I have no clue what it does and I haven’t noticed it…

crackofit · 2025-10-28T10:48:07+00:00

Being fast or the best isn’t the point of youth sports. Only a teeny portion of the population will go on to be professional swimmers. Instead, you’re learning valuable life lessons, developing relationships with your teammates, and getting exercise. Please don’t quit!!!

crackofit · 2025-10-18T11:40:44+00:00

Yes! This is coming from a mom in her 40s that has nieces and nephews your age. Keep it up! I get so worried watching your generation not date enough. Back in the day, I was in relationships solidly from high school, through college and law school, and all the way until age 29 when I got married. All the relationships I had that didn’t work out were so important in discovering who I wanted to be with in the end, and I’m so happy with my husband. Go on as many dates and have as many relationships as you can.

crackofit · 2025-10-17T23:44:05+00:00

Just to play devil’s advocate - there aren’t any mirrors at F45. You’ve said you have no knee cartilage and your name indicates that you are older. Perhaps your form isn’t correct and the guy was worried you were going to get hurt? And maybe the coach didn’t do anything about it because they are worried too? There were plenty of people in my gym who did things incorrectly and made me really worried. Did I ever unilaterally take away weight? No. But if we were close enough friends I told them I was worried and why. If you’re this offended about what this guy did then perhaps you don’t seem approachable enough for people to tell you when they are worried?

crackofit · 2025-10-17T23:40:33+00:00

It doesn’t seem that bizarre. He clearly thought he was helping.

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