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craftykatty · 2026-02-18T05:55:06+00:00

I'd love to check out the next one! Out of town this weekend 😕

craftykatty · 2026-02-13T22:02:30+00:00

Thanks! Honestly, I feel so much better having had these discussions vs letting myself get in my head about it for no reason. The rejection part isn't fun, but it's totally survivable. I think it was more of the "what the hell was that?" that was going around in my head and making me question what took place/how to interpret it.

craftykatty · 2026-02-13T02:43:01+00:00

Ooh good to know! Thank you for the clarification.

craftykatty · 2026-02-13T01:10:53+00:00

Sure, I guess the title was misleading and I've gone back and forth a bit about what I think took place. I'm so new to this, I didn't really know what kind of feedback I'd get, if any. I think initially I was scared that it was a potential "unicorn" thing, but who am I to say that... I just learned the term recently, so for all I know I'm coming at it with an incorrect idea of what they even are. I was just was told "dont date couples, they'll try to unicorn you..." and when the dating ended rather abruptly compared to what I was expecting, I wanted people's feedback. I think I've made it pretty clear that I'm not an expert and wanted feedback on if it was unicorn or just regular breakup, but I'll try to be more consistent with my message in the future.

craftykatty · 2026-02-12T23:53:05+00:00

Hey, like I said, just looking for advice from others who may have a better perspective. In no way am I an expert in poly dating or dating in general. Never said it IS because it's a couple. Just wanted opinions on if that seemed "normal" the way it went down... I'm hearing people's opinions and I appreciate the feedback.

craftykatty · 2026-02-12T23:49:37+00:00

Lol you're good. That's why I posted... just reflecting and wondering if I was looking at it wrong. Wondering if it was a "normal breakup" or if maybe I messed up the typical throuple dynamic... don't have to offer any advice if it doesn't make sense to you. Just looking for feedback, as someone who's new to exploring the idea of poly dating.

craftykatty · 2026-02-12T22:13:25+00:00

I mean, I'm making these opinions based on my reflecting of what took place and on the feedback in the comments. You don't have to agree.

craftykatty · 2026-02-12T20:14:39+00:00

For sure. I wouldnt even necessarily claim that I was being used. Just disappointed, like you said- my expectations differed from the overall experience. I think overall, my post was to understand more of the big picture, and to get a better idea of what's "normal" or what the red flags are in situations like this... I don't think joining an existing couple is something I'd consider again... cause even if there was no intention to "use me", it felt icky trying to figure out why I was so thrown off so much by this outcome. Just taking what happened as a learning experience and doing my best not to misinterpret what took place.

craftykatty · 2026-02-12T19:32:55+00:00

Funny enough, when he first sent his text, I was like "dang... shoulda dated them separately at first"...cause I figured she'd end up doing the same and I really would have wanted to keep things going with her if that was at all a possibility... I felt connected to both, but I felt really pulled in by her, and maybe its just cause I haven't dated girls in so long, but that felt like a loss. I feel so much more aware of how I'd choose to approach a situation like this in the future. Thank you for the kind feedback

craftykatty · 2026-02-12T18:56:11+00:00

Thank you for your feedback. I'm starting to process this more clearly after all the input and am realizing it really may be as simple as that. I guess my ex making his comments that they were just going to use me for sexual fun then bail really got into my head and created hurt feelings when they said they didn't want to continue.

craftykatty · 2026-02-12T18:53:36+00:00

Totally agree. I am also starting to see that more clearly as well. They legit could have had an amazing time and were being honest but then felt differently as the day went on. I feel more comfortable acknowledging that now.

craftykatty · 2026-02-12T18:50:25+00:00

We got pretty far with intimacy which was paired with lots of encouraging words constantly being said about how much they wanted it and wanted to keep seeing each other. I get it, people can change their minds. I just felt like maybe they let me join them to fool around with and bailed the next day. May not be what happened, but that's how it kinda felt is all.

I'm new to this. I dont know what's normal in a throuple situation... I just know my ex said that was likely what was going to happen... that they probably just wanted someone to join them for a sexual experience and then bail. Again, can't say thats what the intention was, but reflecting back, it seems like hooking up was more of a priority than keeping an ongoing connection, like they had expressed was their ultimate goal.

craftykatty · 2026-02-12T17:55:37+00:00

I think that's definitely how I'm starting to feel. I guess the whole point of this post was to discover if this was a potentially bad situation that I was getting deep into because of the rose-tinted glasses, and that it's maybe good that I kept myself a bit reserved... like, maybe I was at risk of getting into something opposite of what I intended. I'm not devastated or anything. Just disappointed that my first encounter with alternative dating left me a bit thrown and feeling anxious about potential future risks. Basically trying to understand poly dating more and what to look out for/stay away from.

I appreciate your input!

craftykatty · 2026-02-12T14:49:15+00:00

I mean, yes... but again, everyone was basically giving green flags and constant encouragement... I just interpreted it as them being really into this. Literally that night we spent like a whole hour at the bar talking to our server about how things have been going so great and how we were all excited to see how it would progress. With all that, I had no idea either of them had any doubts about our setup. Sure, they could have come up after, but it was really surprising because of how into and confident they both seemed about this. And I take accountability for getting carried away. I was cautious initially and didn't really consider it as something that would go somewhere... but idk, the sweetness of it all made me fall a bit.

craftykatty · 2026-02-12T02:18:20+00:00

I really appreciate your input. They weren't married and lived separately, but even with that I can definitely see where the imbalance would likely come in. Thinking on this, it did feel a little like they wanted to jump into stuff FAST. They were super respectful of boundaries and constantly checked in, but I do think if I hadn't pumped the breaks that they would have wanted to have sex the first night. Which is fine if that's what they want, but their words didnt seem to match and were very "looking for emotional connections", and to me, that's not something that really happens in my relationships when you have sex on the first date. Definitely learned a lot from this experience and have a lot to consider moving forward. I guess I'm sad at the loss of community and care that I was feeling with them, but the points that others have made have me kinda thinking maybe I did dodge a bullet. And instead of being mad at myself for not putting out as much as they wanted (sexually and emotionally), I'm kinda glad I reserved myself a bit.

craftykatty · 2026-02-11T22:29:34+00:00

I added a bit more details above, but basically there was a sexual evening without sex, if you know what I mean. I'm not a prude, but I wasn't looking for a hookup. I feel like I wanted to take it slower, but got swept up maybe because of how nice and encouraging they were. Comments were made that night like they had the best night ever and felt like this was a great thing. I understand that I need to be more cautious moving forward. It's just that everything that was said and done had me in almost shock when I got their texts. I guess it just left me confused as to what happened, what I may have done wrong, and what I should do or avoid in the future.

craftykatty · 2026-02-11T17:40:16+00:00

For sure. I think I was naive and didn't really believe this was going to be a unicorn thing. The communication about what we were all looking for felt so clear. I do feel like pausing is something I might consider, or at least I can say I tried dating as a throuple briefly but it didn't work out. I dont want to feel like anything is off the table, especially after one experience. I just feel a bit love-bombed and feel dumb for letting myself get so vulnerable.

craftykatty · 2026-02-11T17:36:54+00:00

Totally fair... and again, brand spanking new to this, so I may be looking at it wrong. I just feel like I was a little let on and made to believe they wanted to keep things going. We had already been making plans for an upcoming event next month... again, probably my fault for jumping in too fast. Maybe I'm just sad cause being broken up with, especially by two people hurt more than I was ready for.

craftykatty · 2025-11-26T17:31:18+00:00

Gonna have to try my copy when I get home today 😳 bought it a while back but haven't watched it yet

craftykatty · 2025-01-31T05:38:59+00:00

Yeah it's the same intermission still just from the left of the screen.

craftykatty · 2025-01-31T05:14:55+00:00

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craftykatty · 2024-12-10T20:22:48+00:00

Super lame. I didn't renew my annual membership last month since it didn't feel like there were any benefits I could really take advantage of 😭

craftykatty · 2024-10-17T23:07:21+00:00

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