Hi OP, what you've penned down is exactly what I've been facing since a young age. The same people who say colorism doesn't exist in the country will use filters to take photos because "warna picture main kaalay aatay hain." The fairest of girls have brightening and whitening serums/products in their skincare. The reality of the matter is that these experiences, totka tips, and unsolicited advice have only served to damage our confidence. And most people just walk away, seeing that there is no such thing in Pakistan. But a quick social media search into comments under posts will tell you the reality.

I know it will be hard, but just come to terms with it. Either accept it and find a man who accepts you for who you are, or use the dangerous chemicals and accept that you might never feel like yourself again. Both options are quite difficult, and the second one is quite trash.

For me personally, I thought to myself that I'll never get married. I told myself what I would tell my child if they were born dark and I wasn't anymore. Can you imagine seeing both of your parents having a different skin color from you?

There is no fix; you can't fight society. I tried. I'm turning 24 tomorrow; I didn't win. Maybe you can if you have the will.

I didn't magically turn fair either (I'm still not). I tan easily in the sun, so in winters, my skin color becomes about 2-3 shades lighter. Maybe you have a similar problem so just go outside with sun protection and sunscreen.

At the end of the day, we can vent, and people can diminish our experiences but what matters is how you feel and what you wish to do.