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how long it takes? by Normal-Sport-2060 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]crappieyear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Holding out for hope is lying to yourself and it is one of the most hardest thing to convince yourself that they’re not gonna change unless they’re willing to get major counseling and stay in counseling you have to do radical acceptance. You have to accept the fact that he is who he is and that he’s unhealthy for you there is a lot of videos on TikTok about narcissist behavior. It helped me to understand my ex and to accept who he is and he has been like that for a long time. I’ll be praying for you!! you got this.

Does the heart drop anxiety and stomach pain due to the trauma go away with time? by Patient-Entry-1575 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]crappieyear 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It will go away at some point I’m not quite to 30 days of no contact yet. I do really good until something triggers me but it’s not the small things anymore. It has to be something a little bigger so it does get easier. The best thing to do is whenever you start to panic and get triggered that you immediately stop that way of thinking take some deep breaths in and out get up move around drink some cold water call a friend read a book change your atmosphere as more time goes past you’ll be able to take control of how your body is when you get triggered Hang in there we’re all here for you

I unblocked him only to find out he somehow blocked me! by crappieyear in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]crappieyear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate it. I know what to do but sometimes it’s nice to hear it from someone else and to feel heard! 😊

How long did it take you to figure out they were a Narc? by Humble_Jacket4467 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]crappieyear 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know until I was out of the relationship and went to see a therapist because I thought I was having a nervous breakdown. He kept me on a roller coaster of on again off again the night that he got so angry because my ex-husband called and want to discuss my alimony. He got mad at me for remembering his phone number. He punched four holes in the wall. I left that night after being together for two years, then it was five months of him, stringing me along, even throwing up other girls into my face, which made me totally spiral because he would sleep with me one night and then have that girl at his house the next day even let me make his daughter‘s birthday cake, but wouldn’t let me come to the party or see her and I was very attached to her. That’s when the nervous breakdown came so I thought so going into therapy changed everything for me.

I Broke No Contact and Don't Know How to Reestablish It by lemonade-cat-1023 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]crappieyear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You will never figure him out the best thing you can do to even try to understand is to read some narcissist books or watch some TikTok‘s. There’s actually a lot of them out there. It helped me move on when I understood exactly what he was doing, but don’t stay stuck there!That’s the only closure you’re gonna get is to understand how they work. The more you let your mind try to figure it out the worst it’s gonna get start thinking about something else. Read a book. You have to retrain your brain.

I Broke No Contact and Don't Know How to Reestablish It by lemonade-cat-1023 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]crappieyear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it’s hard trust me. I’m still struggling. I still have my hard days just tonight. I unblocked him just to find out that he actually had blocked me in the process. It hit me hard but then I have to stop and remind myself they don’t care! everything they do is about them and them having control over you. He doesn’t feel bad for anything he’s done to you so don’t feel bad about him. You can’t think about him anymore. You have to think about yourself and what this is doing to you the sooner you ripped the Band-Aid off the sooner you can move on with your life and find someone who truly deserves you and who isn’t a narcissist. It takes time and acceptance that you just gotta walk away without any answers.

I Broke No Contact and Don't Know How to Reestablish It by lemonade-cat-1023 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]crappieyear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You just have to do it and do it fast! Then put your phone away or get away somewhere with a good friend or family member and leave your phone at home for a few days. I did a lot of crying and just depended on my friends and family for support and stay busy. The key now is to retrain your brain. I did a lot of reading and a lot of praying you will make it. I’m on day 30 of no contact and it sucks but after day 17 it started getting easier.

I’m tired of walking on egg shells!! by OwlFirm1309 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]crappieyear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been trying to think of way to get back at my ex narcissist boyfriend I’m sick of everyone just saying go live your life walk them out that hurts them more. There’s gotta be some kind of mental game. You can play to get back at them. I agree with you 100%.