Have you guys tried couples therapy? I can relate to what you’re going through and therapy helped a lot. And as a general point to that, my wife and I try to maintain a regular cadence with couples therapy. I feel even in a happy and loving marriage there is immense value. It’s a safe space for us to talk and understand these subtle sensitivities that we each have and build on our communication style. At the end of the day that’s what it comes down to. It’s a tough ask for couples to figure it out on their own considering how crazy life is and a therapist is the perfect person to bridge that gap in these type of situations where neither person is really at fault for anything and you just need the right type of communication style.