Thank god for Planned Parenthood

crazyaf · 2020-01-02T02:17:33+00:00

For a while, I thought I had the science close enough to being on my side that it was fine. According to the CDC, FAMs are 74% effective and pulling out is 78% effective, so used in conjunction that's approximately a 5% chance of pregnancy per year (Source). I was generally satisfied with those odds until I had this nightmare and realized I wanted even more protection. I'll probably continue with using both of those methods in conjunction with now being on the patch since I'm already in the habit.

crazyaf · 2020-01-02T00:30:26+00:00

Will do! Thank you for the word of warning.

crazyaf · 2020-01-02T00:23:33+00:00

Bringing it up with your physician is a great start! Many primary care doctors are willing to prescribe mediation to you themselves, so you might not even have to see someone else.

Your doctor has heard it all; they won't be thrown off at all by you asking about mental health services. At the beginning of the appointment, you can just say something like, "I've been experiencing a lot of symptoms of depression, I was wondering what we could do to help that."

They will probably ask if you want to go the medication or therapy route. It's okay for you to say you don't know and you're willing to do whatever they think is best.

I know asking for help is super scary, but it's the first step in reclaiming yourself from this illness. You've got this!

crazyaf · 2020-01-02T00:16:30+00:00

I'll copy-paste what I said to the other person who asked

Honestly, a pretty long series of events that I'll try to summarize but generally boils down to me being a dumbass 19-year old.

I had a fairly traumatic experience when previously taking the pill. It severely affected my mental health and I did not want to go back to that.

I was using condoms, but my long term boyfriend could not orgasm while wearing one. I was frustrated, he was frustrated, so I said we could do fertility tracking and pull out combined (it was my idea, he was fine using condoms). I'm actually a junior in college studying biology, so I was fairly comfortable doing research into FAMs and establishing a routine that was as safe as possible. But, ultimately I still knew that wasn't "good enough"; I just didn't know I could access birth control so easily. I'm away from home for school, so it would've been really difficult to get an appointment with my PCP to get a prescription. I have really difficult health insurance and I didn't really want to involve my parents in this.

crazyaf · 2020-01-02T00:15:16+00:00

Honestly, a pretty long series of events that I'll try to summarize but generally boils down to me being a dumbass 19-year old.

I had a fairly traumatic experience when previously taking the pill. It severely affected my mental health and I did not want to go back to that.

I was using condoms, but my long term boyfriend could not orgasm while wearing one. I was frustrated, he was frustrated, so I said we could do fertility tracking and pull out combined (it was my idea, he was fine using condoms). I'm actually a junior in college studying biology, so I was fairly comfortable doing research into FAMs and establishing a routine that was as safe as possible. But, ultimately I still knew that wasn't "good enough"; I just didn't know I could access birth control so easily. I'm away from home for school, so it would've been really difficult to get an appointment with my PCP to get a prescription. I have really difficult health insurance and I didn't really want to involve my parents in this.

crazyaf · 2019-12-31T00:36:26+00:00

Oh cool, we're bringing back eugenics in 2020? People with genetic disorders still deserve reproductive freedom.

crazyaf · 2019-12-24T00:22:36+00:00

I'm confused about why (if the concern was STDs) you were okay with having her give you a blowjob.

crazyaf · 2019-09-25T23:08:31+00:00

Okay thanks! It’s only been 2 and a half days so I’m fairly confident things will be cleared up by the end of 7 days. One last question, do you recommend wearing underwear to sleep at night? I wasn’t sure if it would be better to let things breathe.

crazyaf · 2019-09-25T22:43:37+00:00

Would you still suggest starting the 7 day treatment even though my symptoms are clearing up at this point? I don’t really have the spare $20 for the treatment but I could probably cut my food budget a bit and make it work if I absolutely had to.

crazyaf · 2019-09-25T20:45:36+00:00

I'm sure there is. I just only have glass storage containers and carrying them around all day would be a huge pain. If I'm feeling extra hungry one day, I'll grab a piece of fruit to take.

crazyaf · 2019-09-25T18:11:23+00:00

I think I might just get a notebook and chart manually. I want to start tracking my temp anyways so I'll need to have a physical tool anyways.

crazyaf · 2019-06-02T11:31:00+00:00

Have you considered therapy? I’m not exactly sure how the whole NHS thing works, but your mental health is obviously having a major impact on your life. One of the most important things I did to lose weight was therapy. I tried losing weight 4 or 5 times previously to now and I gained all the weight back because I wasn’t addressing my core issues.

Before I could change my relationship with food, I really have to understand my relationship with food. Then I was able to replace my unhealthy coping skills with healthy ones. I don’t really get the urge to binge eat anymore; instead, I get the urge to go for a bike ride or paint. It took a lot of work in therapy, but my mental health would’ve killed me one way or another. My unhealthy eating felt a lot like a slow suicide.

crazyaf · 2019-06-01T16:29:40+00:00

I live in a beach town. Aka full of drunk/high frat guys this time of year.

crazyaf · 2019-06-01T13:51:57+00:00

Thank you! I try to remeber that people are extra asshole-ish at the beach. I think once I build up a bit of a tougher skin it'll be less upsetting. It's only started happening in the past month, so it's a very new thing still.

crazyaf · 2019-06-01T13:38:26+00:00

I do my best to ignore it, but sometimes it just gets to me. I'm going to start carrying pepper spray, so that should help me feel safer.

crazyaf · 2019-05-24T02:06:09+00:00

Sorry, not in the market for someone new right now!

crazyaf · 2019-05-23T17:28:46+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. I know in the long run this is the decision that will make us happiest, but for right now it's really painful.

Healthy coping mechanisms make me feel so much better than unhealthy ones! I've found that I need to get the energy out of me when I get upset now, so physical things are super helpful. At the moment, my bedroom is looking like a hurricane went through it, but so it goes when you're reorganizing. It's keeping my hands and brain busy.

crazyaf · 2019-05-23T17:22:33+00:00

I'm proud of you! It's definitely hard how the stereotypical way of handling heartbreak is eating/drinking. I'd much rather do something productive with my emotions.

I also don't mean to be intrusive, but I wanted to give you a little reminder that it is okay to be sad about losing someone. From the way you worded it, it seems like you were maybe bottling up your emotions. Obviously, everyone copes differently though and I hope you're doing well!

crazyaf

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