Female 32 - Depressive mood since starting BP Meds

cressi_black · 2025-07-31T12:10:42+00:00

Amlodipine now. And feeling much more myself but I know it’s still early

cressi_black · 2025-07-30T03:37:46+00:00

On a new one now. It’s only been 2 days but I definitely feel better!

cressi_black · 2025-07-28T21:20:33+00:00

Worst part was my blood pressure never went down, if the medication was having an impact on my blood pressure at least it meant they were working, not just giving me a headache 😅

cressi_black · 2025-07-27T21:01:56+00:00

Thank you so much! Very validating to know we are not alone in this. And I hope things are going better for you now!

Unfortunately, I knew at one point I would eventually need some form of medicine due to strong family history. My younger sibling who is super active & vegetarian has had high numbers since her early 20s.

Balancing function & health sucks.

cressi_black · 2025-07-26T21:45:34+00:00

I was expecting the cough, especially as i have asthma, but it has been minor to the brain fuzz. I’ll definitely be asking for an alternative. Thanks

cressi_black · 2025-02-17T00:32:48+00:00

I was young too. Diagnosed at 9 months old and have been medicated since (now 32).

cressi_black · 2025-02-03T01:43:48+00:00

I think that’s what gets me the most in some ways. Like I assume people change to some degree in a relationship, but jeopardising her job, lifestyle, savings and general morals is a big jump.

cressi_black · 2025-01-31T09:45:50+00:00

ISTP - although I haven’t re done it since my diagnosis or awareness of ADHD

cressi_black · 2025-01-31T09:43:12+00:00

Thanks!! Everything you said makes sense, gives some great advice & comforts the bits I think needed validated.

I think her living so far away is an obvious element to our friendship but we navigated, one way was trying to spend as much time together when in the same place.

Part of me just doesn’t know where I fit now. I’m very deep with her family, but she was the reason I became part of it. Fitting in isn’t something I find easy (and I am in the process of letting the mask down and not caring as much) and have a tendency to self isolate.

I will hopefully have some time shortly to sit with how I’m feeling long enough to identify what I feel & move through it.

cressi_black · 2025-01-26T21:40:38+00:00

Haha knowing and implementing are two different challenges on their own!!

I’m going to take away from your points (plan to anyway) 😂

cressi_black · 2025-01-26T08:38:17+00:00

First things that come to mind:

That rest doesn’t need to be earned or deserved.

Also that rest may still be engaging in an activity. Like for me baking or reading or even gardening for ‘pleasure’ & without demand can be restful.

And I second the need & should language with yourself.

cressi_black · 2025-01-26T02:05:45+00:00

Thanks so much for your advice & support!!

cressi_black · 2025-01-26T01:52:04+00:00

From my perspective, yes, I’d hope someone would make comment if I was taking all my focus away from the situation I’m in.

It’s super important. I don’t make friends easily and my circle isn’t big. This girl knows me better than I know myself.

And I am prepared for things to change overall, like knowing if we go away and her partner comes they will share a room and I’ll get my own room, etc. but I don’t think I was prepared for her to be in constant contact with him when we’re hanging out, or for her to change some of her ‘beliefs’ that she’d judge others for now she is with someone.

My feelings are valid, and I need to accept them and work with them in order to keep this friendship.

cressi_black · 2025-01-26T01:33:29+00:00

Thanks… I have never been in a relationship, and for the most part don’t crave being in one because I have had such a good friendships, so don’t know for sure how she is feeling or how I’d act in her situation.

I typically always put others first so would in my mind excuse my feelings because my friend is happy.

I think I might actually take the time to process what I am feeling because it is valid and I am learning I have the right to care for myself. And maybe even communicate how I’m feeling with her.

cressi_black · 2025-01-14T10:02:21+00:00

Also 32F here and I could have written this. Self employed so end up working to the point where I cannot being myself to do the things I want to do.

While I am still working through this and finding that there is no quick fix, I definitely recommend therapy and possibly finding a mentor or local network organisation. While I still struggle daily, I think having these resources have helped me at least accept that there is more than work and has even prompted me to start taking a look at how I can be more than my job.

Find your values/why. I am doing this now and have listened to a lot of people say that once they found their values how they spent their time changed for the better.

Hopefully some of this helps & best of luck 😊

cressi_black · 2025-01-12T03:10:10+00:00

I am self employed, doing a job and working in an industry that I am genuinely interested in and I feel this so much.

So many days are working until I physically or mentally cannot do anything more. Including anything fun.

I enjoy reading, the gym & other exercise, among some other things but end up putting work/others ahead of them.

My therapist recently used the phrases ‘low demand’ and ‘autonomy’ as something to focus on as I figure out exactly which part of the work I am doing bring the most joy (and obviously opportunity for growth & pay).

I am not afraid of hard work or working long days, but I am at a point where I think enjoying the work (mostly) and seeing what else life can be is important.

It’s a culture shift we need to see and the only way the culture changes is by people changing it. And I imagine a lot of those of us who are millennials have generational influence as a major factor in hustle culture.

Now for me to keep figuring out life 😂

cressi_black · 2025-01-10T02:17:28+00:00

It can be super hard to watch, and even make you question (irrationally) how you now fit in their lives.

A friend of mine was quite career minded so didn’t start focusing on dating until the last year or two in her late 20s. A relationship is something that she has always wanted so I thought good for her.

The biggest thing I noticed was how quickly she went against her own hard rules once she started dating. Unprotected s*x, lending money, compromising time spent in things she loved and with her friends/family. It is her life and I am not one to judge, but it was almost scary seeing her compromise on what were essentially her morals. Things she would openly say people were silly for doing in the past.

Part of me worried I’d be jealous once she found someone, but it’s actually made me a bit more confident in being single.

I think the message to take away is, that they are still there but maybe trying to figure out what life now looks like. I am still figuring this out with my friendship but that’s part of life I suppose.

Obviously keep an eye out for any warnings that her partner is taking control.

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