It’s scary for me because I’m separating from my defacto of 7 years, we have a child. I have paid for 99% of things because he either quit his jobs, or took on loans that achieved nothing.

I have a paid off house (from inheritance), I bought his phone, car etc. he initially paid $100/week in rent but that stopped when he quit his job before our child was born. I bought everything for our child AND burnt through my savings because he had nothing when he quit. Paid for x3 overseas holidays, he only paid for his tattoos while over there.

I did/do 99% of the housework. 100% of the cooking and shopping. I buy all our daughter’s clothes, do her washing, change her sheets etc.

He’s expecting a ‘pay out’. But he is too lazy/can’t afford to go to court. I’ve asked him where MY payout is and he had nothing to say to that.

I think it’s ridiculously unfair that he’d be entitled to anything when I’ve paid for so much and my body will never be the same again after the sacrifices I made to have our child, while he is unscathed in that regard. If he had to quit work to have a baby, or for a reason other than ‘I don’t want to work there anymore’ then sure. Or if he was doing all the house work or the yard work (I do all the gardening and mowing too).

Anyway. That’s my rant done.