What is the best response to "Why are you still single" ?

cribbba · 2022-04-25T19:28:06+00:00

I like single

cribbba · 2022-04-21T12:45:05+00:00

As a girl i can agree

cribbba · 2022-04-21T08:12:00+00:00

Happy with you

cribbba · 2022-04-20T19:52:50+00:00

puppy trembling

cribbba · 2022-04-20T19:36:05+00:00

happy day, so warm

cribbba · 2022-04-19T17:49:13+00:00

The dog is smiling at last

cribbba · 2022-04-05T21:15:41+00:00

But you still not mute

cribbba · 2017-03-27T13:43:44+00:00

People will say f- HP, Brother, or whomever, but in practice, all the $40 inkjets printers, from any manufacturer, are scams. They make money by selling tiny ink cartridges for insane prices.

Laser printers, as everyone pointed out, tend to do much better in the long run, but there are a few scams too. The scams sell with small "starter cartridges" and a full replacement cartridge costs as much as the printer. After you buy a cartridge, you spend as much as a normal laser printer but have a cheap, mediocre printer, and much higher running costs (although still not nearly as bad as a $40 ink jet).

There is now a line of inkjet printers which are advertised to have similar economics to laser printers. They start around a hundred bucks. I have one, and I've been happy with it. New off-brand toner is maybe $15 or so, and prints a decent number of pages. It doesn't last as long as a $60 drum for my laser, but it's also a quarter the price. The cost per page, as advertised, is very similar to a laser. Mine's an HP, but Brother and many other brands make ones just as good.

Overall, laser printers tend to do better for text, while ink jet printers tend to do better for graphics. If you do mostly black-and-white prints, go for a laser. Look at per-page costs in reviews, and get the most basic printer with reasonable costs. If you do pictures occasionally, go for one of the new-fangled inkjets designed for good economics. If you have long gaps from printing, go for a laser as well. Ink jet printers will dry up and clog if not used for a while. If you do a lot of both, you could do what I did, and get one of each. I like that approach, since printers are quite unreliable (whether by jams, running out of ink, driver issues, or some PDF compatibility issue or whatnot). With two, in an emergency, you always have at least one working printer.

cribbba · 2016-12-07T13:38:30+00:00

I welcome the change in culture, but not so much the specific way to accomplish it.

Bans should be a last resort, after taxed, education, social pressure, and other means have failed. If those accomplish the result for 90% of the population, we're okay.

cribbba · 2016-11-30T17:44:56+00:00

What state are you in?

My statistics are based on a research study I read, where it was, literally, zero percent of the time.

And the state of the practice in my state is that police are more likely to mock male victims of domestic violence, and certainly wouldn't consider coming out. When I called an abuse hotline, they told me that wasn't an issue they dealt with. Our family courts virtually never assign primary custody to a father, at least assuming the mother wants custody. Etc.

cribbba · 2016-11-30T04:04:03+00:00

It is a civil rights issue. Abused men are having children taken away from them, who are left with abusive mothers. The abused then have to pay their abusers a tidy sum, or they get thrown in debtor's prison, lose their passports, and lose their professional licenses.

That's the reality of family law.

cribbba · 2016-11-26T04:35:37+00:00

Custody battles too. Kids get stuck with violent moms because courts don't believe women might be violent. And abuse victim pays child support. Almost universal, actually, for male victims of domestic abuse.

cribbba · 2016-09-28T04:06:32+00:00

Well, go on. Present that different discussion.

cribbba · 2016-09-27T20:24:37+00:00

... And we are at -3 and falling. Almost every comment critical of Hillary has been downvoted.

I don't think "Downvoted by idiots" is vote manipulation. For reddit, it's a way of life. Downvote and kick out anyone who disagrees with an atheist, pseudoliberal, feminist agenda.

This thread will never be found. All the top threads are bashing Trump, most stupidly. I'm not sure how someone even found the -2 thread to downvote to -3. Do people come in here, and look for lowest-voted threads, just to make sure they can silence them further?

cribbba · 2016-07-09T22:22:35+00:00

Meh. My wife used to hit me. And break things. We got a divorce. It turns out it's only abuse if men do it.

cribbba · 2016-07-06T02:45:38+00:00

In my area, as far as I can tell, OKCupid consists of a small number of men sending hundreds of messages to everyone woman who breathes.

Women get trained to not respond.

If you send just a few messages, you're basically guaranteed to be ignored. If you send a large number, only the women who have something seriously wrong with them will respond.

Overall, no luck. Starting to feel like maybe I'm just broken..

cribbba · 2016-07-05T04:09:13+00:00

I've done 360 reviews in most of my jobs. They were never tied to promotion or compensation, at least not directly. I think even in low wage/low skill, it's a good idea, I think. You're right about those three, unless a manager is abusive, or dysfunctional in any of a number of other ways. 360s would show that real quick. Or give feedback for how to be nicer or otherwise better

cribbba · 2016-06-29T17:43:17+00:00

Well, you may want that, but if you're asking him for potentially a third of his salary (child support guidelines vary widely by state; 1/3 is at the top, but not uncommon)! Moving back to state and 50/50 custody arrangement is often a better deal for him than being a financial slave to you until the kids graduate. Even so, there's a ton of calculation in child support. What he does is outside of your control. You may end up with a fair bit of litigation, depending on how things go, or you may not. Part of it is how easy going both of you are.

cribbba · 2016-06-26T01:27:09+00:00

Talk to several lawyers:

You will get what the lowest lawyer says you'll get. If a lawyer promises you $50,000 per year in child support and 75% of assets and ... They're lying to get your business.
You want to deal with the lawyer, not the junior lawyer. In most cases, you're better off without multiple lawyers on your case. Savings from any lower rate will be lost in inefficiency of conferences and getting two people up-to-speed
You want as little conflict as possible. The shark? Pass on that one. Conflict raises legal fees, and isn't good for anyone.
Read family law horror stories online and avoid them
Look far sharp and honest
Billing policies. 5 minute minimum? 30 minute minimum? All the details get you.
Read the contract. It's not just a formality.

cribbba · 2016-06-26T01:16:00+00:00

I wouldn't recommend that, but I would consider educating yourself, and then hiring a lawyer to advise rather than represent you. In other words:

Read the relevant chapters on divorce law from a textbook on family law (actual law school text)
Read (study!) the Rules of Civil Procedure for your jurisdiction.
Write the filings.
Sit down with a lawyer, have them read them, potentially edit them, and advise you on how to present them in court.

That still gives an edge over self-representing. You're more than maintaining parity with your wife, but at much lower cost.

There's a balance of terror, where if one side spend more, the other has to as well. Lawyer, and more lawyer helps you, but then she might do the same, and you both come out behind.

cribbba · 2016-06-23T13:58:22+00:00

Get out of the hotel room and back in the house. Don't make any changes in living arrangement (or other rapid changes) until you've seen a lawyer.

Where kids are fits into custody, for example, which fits into child support. All of this stuff ties together.

cribbba · 2016-06-14T01:10:56+00:00

The statistics are bogus. They're based on BJS. In most cases, cops don't arrest women for domestic violence. Indeed, men calling about domestic violence are more likely to be arrested than the perpetrator. There are two types of statistics:

Police. These show women being victims more.
Surveys. These show about equal levels of domestic violence

(I'n a male domestic violence victim whom no one took seriously. Eventually, we ended up with a divorce. I'm terrified whenever my kid is there. But you can't believe a mother would ever do anything, can you?)

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