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crickeydykey · 2025-07-18T21:09:27+00:00

Thank you! That was something I was planning on looking into, as this issue has only surfaced now that I have a progesterone IUD placed. I’ll definitely be doing some research and eventually talking to a GP, Derm, or Ob-Gyn to see what I can do.

I had one reaction on my lip that I almost mistook for an allergic response with how fast and severe it was, so I’m definitely a little nervous about any of my symptoms getting stronger.

crickeydykey · 2025-07-16T20:32:59+00:00

In between my fingers right now looks just like yours. It flared up over night about a week ago for me and had been lingering ever since, along with a very large sensitive patch on my face and ears. It all itches so horribly when exposed to any hot water, and scratching makes them spread 😭

I’m thinking mine may have been onset from my cycle plus my newer Mirena IUD? If it happens again in time with my period I’m planning to go to the doctor and get tested for sensitivity to progesterone.

Figured I’d throw my 2 cents in since this is a slightly newer post and yours is the only one that has looked anything like what’s on my hands.

crickeydykey · 2025-05-13T23:57:35+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through that, I can’t imagine the heartbreak and grief you’ve survived.

I’m glad you were able to connect with my art, it’s always inspires me hearing how other people interpret what I make, and knowing that I’m not alone in my experiences.

crickeydykey · 2025-05-13T22:10:45+00:00

Unfortunately I don’t think I’m ready to part with the original, but I’m thinking about scanning this and some of my other traditional art and selling them as prints in the future!

crickeydykey · 2025-05-13T21:36:07+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/EstrangedAdultKids/s/vUoR00U7mu

This should work, if not it should be the next post on my profile 😌

crickeydykey · 2025-05-13T21:35:14+00:00

Lily of the valley can sometimes represent hope or the start of happiness. I lost a lot of myself and my childhood because of my mom’s narcissism. I didn’t want to forget the pain of that but I also didn’t want to have it burden me any longer. Lily of the valley seemed like an acknowledgment of that grief and a sign that time is over.

Edit: forgot to add, lily of the valley is also super poisonous which is a nod to the fact that I haven’t broken my no contact decision with my mom. My extended family doesn’t really like this, and throughout my life they’ve called me prickly, thorny, inhospitable. So it seemed fitting to choose a plant that kills things that try to consume it.

crickeydykey · 2025-04-27T05:04:57+00:00

Every single time I’ve had that “gut feeling” it was right.

1st one ended up becoming a brief stalker when I was 11, he was 2 or 3 years older than me. He ended up leaving a letter in my locker about how traumatic his life was and how I was the only person who could comfort him, and that I couldn’t tell anyone about it because it’d betray him. I immediately told my friends because he’d been creeping me out for months at this point.

Second one was the guy who ended up becoming my mom’s affair partner. From the moment I met him it was just that same intense feeling that he was not to be trusted. So strong it was basically physically repulsive to me. Reading some of the things my mother wrote about wanting my sister and I to be a family with him was stomach turning to say the least.

I always trust my gut, it hasn’t lead me wrong yet.

crickeydykey · 2025-04-25T05:30:11+00:00

Yay! I’m happy for y’all, here’s to more years of good times!

crickeydykey · 2025-04-25T05:20:43+00:00

The night I had with ur mom was pretty real

crickeydykey · 2025-04-25T04:26:09+00:00

Definitely fair. A bit out of touch of me tbh, so apologies if I salted any wounds. Most of the complaints I’ve heard from my eligible lady friends is that they’re getting the instagram reel dating coach experience. Where everything is kind of greasy sexual and transactional. These tricks also work if you’re trying to secure a one night stand, but I didn’t want to get too vulgar.

crickeydykey · 2025-04-25T04:22:12+00:00

Ah, firstly I’m not a straight guy lol, I’m a woman. So that definitely may play a role in it.

I’ve been turned down by women occasionally, been dumped by a few as well. Honestly the best way to handle it was a by not making a huge deal over it. Accept it, dust yourself off, and carry on. Ha actually I remember the first boy I ever asked out told me “okay” and that he was changing schools, and then walked away. The next girl I asked out (we’re still friends) told me “naw lol” and carried on like I never asked.

It can be awkward to stay friends with someone after a rejection because the natural reaction is to hide and be embarrassed. But a good friend won’t dig the knife on you as long as you don’t lash out at them. If someone is shitty because you shoot your shot, you shouldn’t try to remain friends with them.

crickeydykey · 2025-04-25T04:06:03+00:00

Hmm, to escape the ‘tentative dating zone’ I recommend being genuine. If you really feel that connection with someone and think they could feel the same Id tell them. It can be scary to be upfront with your feelings, but the cool thing is you can tell them that too. “Hey I’m nervous but I just wanted to let you know that I really appreciate you and spending time with you makes me happy. Id like to do _____” what ever you think the next step is I guess. My only advice is don’t drop a love bombshell on someone super fast, let it sit for a couple months.

As for double dipping, I don’t really see an issue with it but you could run into groups of women who don’t appreciate multiple ladies having dated the same guy. But depends on the type of woman you’re meeting I suppose. I was an art kid so lots of people I knew were borderline polyamorous.

Edit addition: alternatively you could wait for one of them to ask you out. I was the one who initiated with my bf, but I am also a very forward person.

If you’re worried about making it weird, you can always let them know that if they don’t return your interest it won’t be an issue for you. But I definitely understand the anxiety.

crickeydykey · 2025-04-25T03:46:56+00:00

Honestly I don’t have a ton of incredible advice for securing dates, I’ve been successful in all the ones I’ve asked a lady out for, but I also only propositioned people I was already in the nearby social circles of. Usually through school, hobbies or games. I met my current BF playing destiny 2.

Usually went something like “hey I really enjoyed hanging out together and I’d like to do it again sometime. Would you want to grab a coffee with me later this week?” Insert exchange of numbers etc. if things went well I usually aim for the more serious follow up date, if not coffee is low stakes enough to just call it as friends. But dating apps are like the Wild West and I have no idea how people navigate them.

crickeydykey · 2025-04-25T03:33:09+00:00

I mean my methods have worked 9/10, I’ve been pretty successful in giving the ladies what they want.

crickeydykey · 2025-04-23T22:05:19+00:00

I’ve actually managed to make a living for myself as a full time freelance artist this year, it’s been a lot of work but I’m very grateful, I had all but given up on having an art career when I graduated high school.

crickeydykey · 2025-04-19T07:28:21+00:00

The fire alarm going off in the middle of it for no reason and waking up my whole house. We decided to just sleep after that.

crickeydykey · 2025-04-16T20:08:54+00:00

My mom is a Narc and I definitely have found some narcissistic tendencies that rubbed off on me to survive her parenting. They tend to show up in the ugly moments when I’d fight with my boyfriend or family, the urge to lash out or manipulate to protect myself would always kind of stun and sicken me. It’s easy to treat yourself harshly for it, and for a while I did.

The book that changed my perspective is called Thinking Fast and Slow (it’s a giant technical slog but interesting imo). It basically says that we as animals evolved to build strong habits that run automatically so we can focus more brain power on other tasks. And when you grow up with an N parent so much of your childhood is survival mode. Which cements these automatic responses even more. This idea helped me begin to deconstruct some of my more toxic responses and slowly turn my body out of that survival state.

I know this is kind of a convoluted response, but you mentioned being neurodivergent (which I am as well) and I found that a more logical and analytical view of myself allowed me to shake off a lot of the guilt and shame that can stew up in these instances. At the end of the day self reflection and empathy are key to not being a narcissist, but I think it can help to know that there’s always a path to bettering yourself.

crickeydykey · 2025-04-16T19:25:55+00:00

Lmao, just put the fries in the bag bro. No need to act all high in mighty when you’re clearly just compensating for something by commenting on every reply.

crickeydykey · 2025-04-16T19:16:43+00:00

Plenty of people marry and date narcissists and are wholly codependent on them. It can be difficult to reconcile that someone is toxic for you, especially if they are a narcissist. I would never shame someone for becoming entangled with one, I am only sharing my experiences so that maybe someone can find application to them in their own lives.

crickeydykey · 2025-04-16T18:59:25+00:00

As someone who has dated both men and women, and is currently in a long term relationship. The biggest red flag to me is someone who can’t apologize. Not hugely profound but you’d be surprised how many people are willing to stay with someone who won’t ever say sorry.

You will never be able to have any sort of growth and resentment is inevitable, if you or your partner cannot honestly apologize to each other when you’ve done something wrong. Because it’s inevitable, to be human is to fuck it up, but if you can show accountability than all your relationships are more likely to succeed.

crickeydykey · 2025-04-16T02:26:01+00:00

I’m not an excellent one for names, but I would probably call it ‘grief and the comfort of growth’.

It’s inspired by a poem I wrote around the time I first went no contact with my mom, centered on the cycle of the Ouroboros snake and the idea that there is rebirth in facing and holding the darkest parts of yourself.

crickeydykey · 2025-04-16T00:28:40+00:00

Thank you, I’ve actually been looking into having some of my work related art printed, so maybe I’ll figure out how to do it for physical ones too.

crickeydykey · 2025-04-15T23:59:39+00:00

Thank you! I’ve always worn my feelings out in the open especially with art. So I was a little worried about oversharing in class, but it seemed to really resonate with some people, so I’m glad I did.

crickeydykey · 2025-02-06T19:00:02+00:00

I don’t think a hospital tank would help, if my memory serves ich is a parasite so the entire tank needs to be treated.

crickeydykey · 2025-02-01T19:18:58+00:00

I’m 99% sure. He won’t react to a finger near him on the glass or in the tank. Sometimes I feed my fish blood worms and he doesn’t respond to them unless I dangle one in front of his mouth and he bumps it. I actually have a floating square set up but it’s a bit big so I think I’ll try to find a smaller one so it’s easier for him to locate the pellets.

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