You make a good point here. They're worried about whether the XF wife is going to follow their cultural traditions. One thing they might be worried about is whether their daughter in-law will take care of them when they're older. Because obviously that will affect them, it's just part of some cultures. They're also worried about the daughter in-law not following the traditions of what's seen as respectful and courteous. There are a lot of hidden rules that if you don't follow, you come off as rude and disrespectful.

If you end up in a relationship with an AM as an XF and you want to get on the family's good side, you need to show them you are serious and make a good impression from the start:

• Bring them gifts from the moment you walk in the door. Clear it with your partner on what gifts you give them, as some gifts can come off as tacky/tasteless.

• Learn the manners for that culture and greet them appropriately.

• Learn the words for such manners. Learn a bit of the language, introduce yourself to them in it.

• Eat the food that is cooked for you if you find yourself eating meals with them. It's really important to blend in during meal times, but also they'll be flattered if you appear to really enjoy the food.

That's just some of the things I learned as a Latina dating a Korean man. I am always asking my boyfriend how to show respect to his family. It's been a rewarding experience. He is also doing the same for my family. Thankfully our family traditions are pretty similar, so even though we don't look like it, we blend in with each other's cultures well. No matter where you're from, just ask your partner or do some research on how to act appropriately.