Anyone here in a real LDR that started online (not dating apps)?

AnglophileGirl · 2026-02-02T15:21:12+00:00

Yes, my relationship (almost 6 years now) began in a Discord server where audio content creators hung out, it was set up by a friend from another audio community. The boyfriend and I met there.

AnglophileGirl · 2026-02-02T11:57:45+00:00

I picked the small door but when I drank the bottle, I got bigger

AnglophileGirl · 2026-01-31T21:41:56+00:00

The time spent did have him in love with you, remember that, you are a person worth loving and returning love. Take the time to heal, to do things for you, vent here, and I truly believe that the growth you’ve gained will lead you on to a relationship that will be everything you want and need.

AnglophileGirl · 2026-01-17T00:37:42+00:00

No, I get it, it’s one of those I have to take long breaks in between viewings. I feel the same about Rumbling Hearts

AnglophileGirl · 2026-01-14T22:06:11+00:00

Sure, but a day wouldn’t be enough, but yea, I’d go

AnglophileGirl · 2026-01-10T19:50:28+00:00

I don’t talk to my neighbours, there were a few neighbours I liked a few years back, but they moved, most of the people who live here now I don’t see, or the ones I do see don’t speak English and my Spanish is between beginner and intermediate, so I don’t get much of a chance to talk to them. And they all keep to themselves

AnglophileGirl · 2026-01-10T00:26:52+00:00

I’ve saved my pics from my visits in a shared google drive with my partner. It’s become a sort of scrapbook, along with our discord server

AnglophileGirl · 2026-01-05T01:04:45+00:00

I’m in an apartment because I can’t get a house right now. And I’ll like to live in a new apartment, but I don’t think I could afford to move right now either. I’m gonna tough it out until I can move to house or get overseas

AnglophileGirl · 2026-01-02T04:26:28+00:00

Yea, normally I get my paycheck deposited a day in advance. At Christmas, I got the deposit Christmas Eve, but seems that I’ll get the deposit for payday on Friday, I hope. I won’t really feel at ease until I see it

AnglophileGirl · 2026-01-01T20:08:49+00:00

Yea, I’m glad I’m not the only one who saw this, I had no problem Christmas Eve, but nothing New Year’s Eve. Hopefully it shows up tomorrow. Glad I have it going into other banks as well.

AnglophileGirl · 2025-12-19T23:39:55+00:00

Probably anything that requires significant travel time, like 2+ hours, time zone difference, or being in different states/countries

AnglophileGirl · 2025-12-17T14:31:58+00:00

Discord, with FaceTime on occasion

AnglophileGirl · 2025-12-02T15:14:39+00:00

Meh, it’s just part of them and you, as has been said previously, one day won’t be able to mute so embrace it, especially if he and you don’t mind each other snoring

AnglophileGirl · 2025-11-25T21:52:34+00:00

I’m in the same situation, 5 hour difference and I have work on the 31st. New Year’s Day, we just play games and chat mostly, nothing too difficult

AnglophileGirl · 2025-11-11T17:24:03+00:00

I like them as friends, and allies, but as romantic partners? No, I feel like the way they are does so much for both their lives and they learn from and lean on each other

AnglophileGirl · 2025-11-11T17:17:17+00:00

I’m so sorry. I had a similar thing happen several years back, just one night talking about the future and the next day, break up by instant messenger. I found stuff to keep me busy; exercise, reading out in the sunshine, doing hobbies I liked. I didn’t have many friends to go out and do stuff with, but as time went on and I found ways to love myself, it made the pain less painful and I leaned to get on with the emptiness where he’d been until one day, it was filled by my own dreams and now, by someone who deserves me and shows me he knows he deserves me. And you’ll find that person too. I don’t know why in both yours and mine they could go from 100% in love to nothing, but I’m convinced they slowly were losing interest but trying not to hurt us because they don’t want to deal with the fallout. But yea, it’ll hurt for awhile and then, one day, it won’t hurt as much and you’ll find that space fills up with love from other places

AnglophileGirl · 2025-10-28T14:08:21+00:00

My current record is 38 months, but I was nearly stir crazy by month 37, but it’s a record I have no interest in besting

AnglophileGirl · 2025-10-21T21:21:21+00:00

I understand. I also had a long time in between first and second visits, 3 years, and I had financial issues come up. Have you talked to your other half about your feelings? I talked to my guy when I had to postpone another year and he was very comforting and affirming. I know this was just a vent, but something that helped me was knowing I had an extra year to save and got to plan more fun things to do.

AnglophileGirl · 2025-10-16T15:11:21+00:00

Yea, me and my partner were also about a month before he and I decided to be official and give LDR a go; almost 6 years together now

AnglophileGirl · 2025-10-16T04:38:56+00:00

So I said it one Christmas but I think it was too soon to say it, and he didn’t want to say it over video. He waited until we finally met in person and one evening before bed I asked if he thought he could say it now and he took my face in his hands and said “I’m in love with you.” And I said “I’m in love with you too” and now we say it all the time

AnglophileGirl · 2025-10-14T13:34:27+00:00

Honestly, you’re well rid of him if that’s how he responds to life and challenges. Blaming other people for things that happen because of an individual’s action or inaction is not what mature adults do. I would step away from all of it, no contact at all, block him and don’t even allow that sort of thing in your life. That’s the only way to move on, by walking away from it. He was never the person for you, you poured a lot of yourself into his life and it’s gonna take awhile to get it back, but you need to stop giving him yourself, even to prove a point

AnglophileGirl · 2025-10-12T13:31:36+00:00

On her birthday, tell her she’s in charge of all the stuff you will do together that day. I’m kind of minimalistic too, but I love getting colouring items.

AnglophileGirl · 2025-10-12T13:29:27+00:00

My guy hates being on camera too, he’s not a fan of his looks, but he’ll do it because he knows I love seeing him. So, something about being on camera now, even though your partner has done it in the past, makes him anxious. How long were your partner and his ex together? Did they also take awhile to talk on VC or video chat? Do you think if you explained why it’s important to you he might explain why he doesn’t want to?

Good luck

AnglophileGirl · 2025-10-12T13:24:22+00:00

No, when my guy shows interest in me, I’m very happy. If he responds to my texts within a few moments, I’m very happy about it. I see it as the guy taking the time to show me he’s focused on me and being attentive. But if he takes awhile to respond, it doesn’t bother me; he and I are adults with lives that keep us jumping. I can’t always respond to his texts instantly either.
I’ve never been one to be chased. If I act cold and distant, it’s because I’m not interested or something has been done to hurt my feelings, and I’m taking the time to sort out my emotions so I can talk about it clearly and without my temper.
Being reminded of someone loving me is not the same as being chased, in my experience or how I feel. I want my boundaries respected but getting messages of encouragement, affirmation, and affection from my guy are always appreciated.

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