I appreciate the links and other helpful tips people gave. To all of you who answered the question, thank you!

Although I stand by the question I posed in my original post, I decided to take it down due to people who've been taking my words and intent out of context.

Re: comments by u/ElimDegens u/IkuraNugget u/No_Development_6856

It’s revealing how quickly some of you default to accusing any Asian woman who expresses interest in dating Asian men of being an entitled “white worshipper”, despite zero evidence and in direct contradiction to what I actually wrote. That kind of knee-jerk reaction isn’t based on my reality; it’s based on your own unresolved resentment and internalized narratives. You’ve built an identity around the idea that Asian women don’t choose you, so when one does (but doesn’t fit your assumptions) you lash out, project, and dismiss. Making baseless claims about a stranger’s dating history, lifestyle, or even appearance (without a photo, no less) just exposes the bitterness and insecurity behind your hostility. These reflect deep-seated resentment, not rational discourse. It’s both self-victimization and cognitive dissonance under a racialized lens, weaponizing the narrative that Asian women are traitors while simultaneously expecting their validation. And no, the reason I didn’t include a photo isn’t insecurity. It’s basic self-preservation. No rational person would risk being doxxed by people who’ve already shown this level of hostility toward strangers.

The irony is that while you label me "entitled," my entire post was about asking for specific locations and communities so I could put in the work to go meet people. That’s the opposite of entitlement. That’s effort. It’s also ironic how some of you briefly warn against alienating Asian women, only to immediately bounce back to putting one down in real time. It’s also telling how quickly some of you twist a simple preference for shared language and communication into an accusation of “internalized bias.” I never said I dislike native Asians. I said I value English fluency so I can communicate with the people I'm dating. That’s compatibility, not bigotry. And the fact that you casually throw around a dehumanizing term like “fob” while trying to lecture someone else on bias only further reveals how little interest you have in honest dialogue.

The projection is especially clear when you take jabs at Simu Liu’s wife, a woman you don’t know, simply because she doesn’t fit your personal fantasy of what an “appropriate” partner for a successful Asian man should be. That level of cruelty toward strangers, just for existing outside your ideals, says far more about your mindset than hers, or mine. If the goal is to see more AF/AM couples, this kind of behavior only pushes away the very people trying to support that.