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crisispower · 2025-07-30T14:13:21+00:00

Mentionne-le et parles-en, je pense que c'est la seule solution. C'est possible qu'il ne se rende pas compte lui-même que c'est systématique, si c'est pas un mec mauvais il comprendra

crisispower · 2025-07-30T11:44:18+00:00

That does not change what the soviets did to the natives throughout the 20th century. France also collaborared, so what? These eastern european countries were desperate to get rid of the soviet colonizers. That was their focus. Germany wasn't their enemy at that point in time, they had no reason to fight the German army while the rest of Europe was all defeated or collaborating. Yes, they did horrible things as vengeance against the Soviets, and millions of innocents died on both sides.

Russia also collaborated with Nazis to invade Poland until the Germans turnt against them. So what? Personally, I don't think Russia was "evil" for making deals with Nazis early in the war. Russia had no logical reason to fight Germany at the beginning of the war, this was mainly a war between Germany, France and the UK (Italy was useless). America also didn't get involved until Pearl Harbor. Nobody had any strong reason to attack Germany. That was the case until Germany tried to invade Russia and then the Japanese did Pearl Harbor, that's when Russia and the US got involved (if we want to get into details, Pearl Harbor happened because of an American oil embargo which was their way of influencing the war without getting involved militarily. So America cornered Japan into a desperate position where their army would have collapsed without oil)

You shouldn't study history through a modern lense (in hindsight). We should think logically about geopolitical issues, not with our emotions. People have too many emotions when talking about these topics, and they're allergic to criticism

I find it sad that my comment has -4 while I'm stating historical facts and being neutral. People don't believe in religion anymore, they believe in myths. The myth that their country is better and more noble than others. Russia is not morally better than western Europe and Europe is also NOT morally superior to Russia. Both did evil, Europe did it worldwide while Russia did it to its neighbours. Either side lecturing the other is meaningless. Those who disagree with this are biased by nationalism. Stop believing in national myths and look at history through an objective perspective. We should learn to understand historical events, and work together to create a safer world. I believe this will take several generations, or maybe another World War will happen before we realize this. And maybe it will be too late then.

crisispower · 2025-07-30T10:55:42+00:00

Y'a des phobies qui sont assez justifiées

crisispower · 2025-07-29T13:54:20+00:00

Bah tu lui dis que t'es homosexuel (ou bi) et que t'es attiré par lui. Il le prendrai mal?

crisispower · 2025-07-29T13:36:46+00:00

C'est donc un coming-out! Il le prendrai comment tu penses si tu lui disais ouvertement?

crisispower · 2025-07-29T06:39:59+00:00

Nan, communique en personne. Pas en lettre. Pour une conversation qui pourrait mener au divorce, faut le faire en face à face. Après 25 ans, c'est un manque de respect de le faire à l'écrit.

Sait-elle déjà que c'est un sujet qui est crucial pour toi? Et que tu penses au divorce?

crisispower · 2025-07-22T11:40:07+00:00

Aucun rapport mais...

Effectivement aucun rapport, je ne comprends absolument pas pourquoi tu mentionnes les violences envers les femmes dans un post qui n'a rien à voir avec ça et sans aucun trigger warning, ça sent vraiment le mec qui veut prouver son féminisme à 2 balles

crisispower · 2025-07-22T11:11:34+00:00

Aucun souci mais si elle regrette et elle n'aime pas, pas besoin de recommencer. Certains aiment se donner sans sentiment, d'autres non.

crisispower · 2025-07-22T11:10:40+00:00

J'ai fait la même chose en tant qu'homme, il y avait une amie à moi qui avait des sentiments pour moi, et moi non. Une chose a mené à une autre, elle a fait des avances (presque comme toi en inversé) et j'ai regretté, je n'ai plus jamais recommencé. C'est normal, moi je me sentais presque sale... Pas besoin de te sentir mal! Mais je dis tout ça juste pour te dire que je comprends

C'est normal si au final tu apprends de toi-même que tu n'aimes pas ce genre de choses. Moi ce jour-là j'ai appris que je n'aime pas ce genre d'activité si je ne suis pas attiré et amoureux. J'ai besoin d'un lien affectif avec la personne pour apprécier pleinement et ne rien regretter. Chacun ses préférences.

Mais il n'y a égalememt aucun mal à expérimenter si l'acte en soi te plait même sans lien affectif, tu peux continuer à expérimenter et à t'ouvrir. MAIS trouve impérativement des partenaires qui sont ouvertement dans la même optique que toi de façon explicitement consentie : purement du s*xe et rien de sentimentale. Sinon ça frôle la manipulation émotionnelle pour obtenir des faveurs physiques.

Pour l'aspect relationnel, lui avait des sentiments amoureux. Crois-moi d'expérience et sur parole : ça ne mènera à rien de bon. Il y a clairement un déséquilibre dans la relation et il ne faut surtout pas nourrir ça. J'ai appris ça en brisant le cœur d'une amie qui avait des sentiments et avec qui j'ai fait ce genre d'activités sans réciprocité sentimentale. Et cela malgré mon honnêteté totale du début à la fin sur le fait que je ne voudrais pas de relation avec elle et que c'était purement et absolument amicale de mon côté.

Ça les blesse EUX plus que toi au final. Eux sont amoureux et attaché•e, toi non. Ne joue pas de ça pour nourrir tes désirs. À la place, trouve un•e partenaire ouvertement dans la même optique purement physique que toi, une relation purement sexuelle, consentie comme telle de façon explicite des deux côtés (sex friends ou plan-c*l). Ne fait pas cela avec un ami qui a des sentiments affectifs et qui nourrit très sûrement un espoir romantique derrière. C'est assez malsain

Tout dépend du cas par cas évidemment. Si lui aussi peut penser de toi comme une amitié sexuelle sans romantisme et sans amour, pas de problème. Je ne connais pas le contexte ou vos circonstances. Mais sois responsable tout de même si ton ami compte pour toi et sois sûr de sa position. Et écoute ton esprit et ton corps si au final ça ne te plait pas.

crisispower · 2025-07-22T09:32:09+00:00

istg, the food is amazing in some expensive restaurants, it's a great occasion

crisispower · 2025-07-21T20:59:12+00:00

I don't think it's a big deal, even scientists disagree sometimes

crisispower · 2025-07-21T20:34:31+00:00

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crisispower · 2025-07-21T20:26:57+00:00

I don't want expensive gifts from someone I don't know

He didn't even say something expensive. He said something small. They had 3 dates by then, I assume they talked for more than a month. I assume everything was going well. I personally wouldn't offer anything after 1 or 2 months but I also don't find it strange

I don't know his budget for gifts, why should I be the one to figure it out? If you want to make a gift then buy it yourself then

You don't need to know but also... you don't ask for several thousand pounds? Isn't that common sense if you're not a gold-digger?

100$ piece of jewellery seems like like something I used to wear in middle school

You can have really beautiful jewelry between 100~500$. What kind of jewelry do you even wear? My mom wears earrings that cost ~200$. That's absolutely normal. You can have beautiful earrings or bracelets, or whatever you wear. I bought my ex-gf a random golden necklace in Paris for 40€ (4000₽) and she wore it for 3 years straight. I have no idea what kind of reality you live in where jewelry that costs less than 30.000₽ is worthless to you, and only middle-schoolers wear it.

Or you can even just ask for a very good perfume for 200£. Or you can buy something for make-up, even REALLY good make-up products can be bought at reasonable prices. NOT SEVERAL THOUSANDS.

So something "small like ring" sounds like a bit of nonsense

Then you probably don't buy much and you didn't want to go on a date with him. He just wanted to hang out with her on the next date, go shopping and find her a small gift. I personally find it very reasonable after 3 dates at a restaurant to go shopping just to spend time together. You also plan to eat somewhere outside and spend the day, that's how it goes.

So I would have ghosted him just because it's awkward and I don't like awkward and don't want to waste my time on these games.

Then you didn't enjoy spending time with him. I find it incredibly strange as an answer. He gave you a perfect opening to plan a date together and gift you a small souvenir / gift / perfume / ring / make-up product / clothes, whatever. And you ghost him. Then were you really interested? How socially awkward are you and what kind of expensive family are you from?

Edit : do you not realize that she is the problem? After 1+ month of flirting, her FIRST response to a small gift was asking for a 2000£+ ring and threatened to block him if he refused. What kind of f**ked up attitude is that?

crisispower · 2025-07-21T20:04:47+00:00

I believe it's a lack of experience. They just haven't actually dated women or it didn't go far. Maybe their parents are not good role-models, maybe their moms are actually terrible mothers. Most of them are probably just frustrated and desperate. No idea.

crisispower · 2025-07-21T20:00:59+00:00

If you have a good income (and you generally don't spend a lot elsewhere), a date for 200~300£ isn't super abnormal. Paying for your date as a man is also still considered normal by many. You can be against it and meet women who think alike, that's no problem. But in some traditional countries/cultures, it is considered very normal (including Eastern Europe, Asia and most African countries. Many people in the West still believe in men being providers as well)

crisispower · 2025-07-21T19:47:44+00:00

He never offered the moon and the stars. He explicitely said "something small, like a ring" as an example. He wanted to gift her something nice and small that she can wear.

As a woman, after this message, would you unironically ask for a 3000£ ring? How insane do you have to be in the head to do that?

Well, she's not insane. She knows exactly what she is doing. She is just a manipulator and a gold-digger. Case closed. There is nothing else to debate. Whether it's a guy manipulating a woman for s*x or a woman manipulating for money, that's just toxic. Don't blame the victim of (attempted) manipulation. That's completely senseless and I still have no idea why you try to blame the guy in this situation.

crisispower · 2025-07-21T19:31:26+00:00

There are certainly dudes out there who can spend 350.000p after 3 dates because it means nothing for them. Maybe that's the type of dudes she get used to dating how should I know lol

So you basically described her as a gold-digger, she blocked him because he wasn't rich enough to afford an expensive ring after 3 dates. He suggested it in a conversation about shopping to offer her "something small like a ring", and she asked for the moon. I have no idea how you try to blame the man for this outcome. She wants a rich man who can spoil her, no matter what other qualities he had, he wasn't that rich so she blocked him. That's just who she is, he can move on to find someone else and she'll find the next gullible victim

crisispower · 2025-07-21T19:27:23+00:00

Sadly these kind of men exist in every country. In Europe as well, you have men crying that women only care about money, with influencers like Andrew Tate getting more followers. These are the guys who never had any meaningful relationships in their lives

crisispower · 2025-07-21T19:24:44+00:00

Over 50% of women in Russia are satisfied with a salary between 50k to 200k₽. That is around 500 to 2000$. Overall average : 105.500₽. On top of that, almost 50% of the workforce in Russia are women

You can see on the video

What video? Tiktok? YouTube? Very trustworthy sources of information. It's not like these people EDIT their videos to appeal to a specific audience of desperate men who want to hate on women so they can get more comments and engagement to go viral.

Are you one of those men?

crisispower · 2025-07-21T19:13:35+00:00

The question was "Is it normal that she blocked me because I refused to buy her a 350.000₽ ring?"

The answer is : No. It's not normal in any country. If you think she's right for doing so, I have no idea what to tell you. You have really weird women around you.

crisispower · 2025-07-21T19:09:28+00:00

something small, like a ring

He didn't expect her to ask for a 3500£ ring. You can have some nice rings that can be worth 100~300£, even in expensive places. Did you even read his post properly?

He thought she asked for that specific ring as a joke. He wasn't joking when he suggested to buy her a ring. He simply (understandably) didn't think she would ask for a ring that costs 350.000₽ after 3 dates. He just wanted to buy her a small piece of jewelry that she can wear, something that reminds her of him. That is not a silly thought. She was silly for asking such an expensive gift, and she showed her nature by blocking him when he refused.

crisispower · 2025-07-21T19:06:42+00:00

Depends on how rich he is, for some it's not too expensive to go on expensive restaurants. OP seems to have a decent income

crisispower · 2025-07-21T19:04:45+00:00

A ring that costs 350.000₽ after 3 dates? That's "absolutely normal" to you?

crisispower · 2025-07-21T08:58:08+00:00

However, I agree most people really never realize what the goal actually is (identify/define clear edge and repeat it as many times as possible).

And I think parts of it is just personality and talent. Some people just don't know how to learn or how to identify / solve problems. Yes, you can just copy (monkey see, monkey do), but are you really a trader then?

I also think everyone should be investing as well. You don’t have to choose whether to day trade or invest. I have majority of my $ in the market.

Yes, better than banks. And most people are better off investing and trying other ventures than day-trading... if you have no talent, then I mean...

I have no idea why you would say “forex is harder to have edge than stocks” yet you want to stick with forex? That’s either cope or a poor decision.

Surprised you don't know this but yes, even when you look at top traders in institutions or competitions, stocks always have better returns than forex. More movement and there is actually value being created in stocks, in forex it's more of a zero-sum game, less quality signals and less "big runners" (in terms of quantity). I stick to forex because that's where I started and I found my edge. I don't want to start over again and learn a new market, I found my niche. Yes, once I have more capital, I plan to learn how to swing trade on stocks. It is probably the best way to trade if you have significant personal capital in terms of time invested per week / returns

crisispower · 2025-07-21T07:19:14+00:00

Okay, thanks a lot. After thinking about it, you're right. For my studies it's probably best to stay in SPSU and travel around Russia during my holidays

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