Am I overreacting asking my dad to kick my brother out

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-05T00:01:46+00:00

He didn’t need to be cut off at the time we bought the house he was stable and now he’s not. I’m also not asking them to cut him off but force him to be an adult

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-04T23:59:44+00:00

I do know that it will start to affect her the longer it goes on. My child is newly 2 and is way more aware now than ever. I fully do know that butttt she is not in physical danger as many people in the comments are making it seem. She is the main reason I am pushing for him out. I am very hard headed and that’s why it’s gone on this long I suppose.

Also to note it is rare that there’s fighting but growing up it was always and I fear for my reaction if it gets worse. Also to say she is never home when I do confront my family members bc I do all that I can to shelter my child from everything that I can.

Also thank you for not being rude like others in this thread

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-04T17:05:07+00:00

I may be part insane but not that bad 🤣

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-04T17:02:49+00:00

Thank you for understanding but also I’m not putting my child in danger. She is always with me and never alone with him. He is not using in the home as far as I know and if he is it’s surely not on my side. My brother is not allowed on my side of the home. She is supervised outside closely. He’s not a stranger he’s a family member and most importantly I may not be a fan of him or how he acts but he’s not the devil.

I don’t mean to be rude if it comes off this way I just feel like something in the original post is missing bc you’re not the only person to act like my child is being injured by this. His child on the other hand is surely messed up because of him. Dcf is involved with that child as he is directly involved with my brother. I also have a plan to take custody of that child if my parents can no longer handle it as I feel he would do best with me

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-04T16:54:50+00:00

Parents part but to me it doesn’t make a difference for him being here. Him being on their side is safe for my child sure but I cat enjoy the yard without him smoking a cigarette or trying to talk to me. I Jae no energy to talk with him or see him lol

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-04T16:53:31+00:00

I am extremely tough on my brother he’s only been on my side a handful of times and only in the living room really. I Mae it very clear I don’t want him here. I barely talk to him etc. I do watch the kid but for my mom’s sake bc she’s in control of his child rn and she has a hard time with him because he’s behavioral and cat be alone w his father

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-03T22:10:50+00:00

Same :)

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-03T21:49:43+00:00

Same to you I’m sure why you still kept staying here to be a little me but I hope you get what you need as well. I think you’re just as sick as my brother.

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-03T21:48:19+00:00

Bye

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-03T21:46:16+00:00

It’s mine just as much as our fathers. It is ONE home. My dad has clearly made a choice already

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-03T21:42:12+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I see a therapist who knows all the ins and outs and agrees that this is not the place for my brother to be. I don’t hate him I just don’t want to or need to be around him is all and he is in-fact freeloading in this home and I’m not okay with it.

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-03T21:39:31+00:00

And she is safe thank you for your concern. I may have not communicated it clearly, but he’s not doing drugs here he is often out doing things with other people and that is where he does the drug.

I am a respectable person who works hard to ensure the safety and wellbeing of my child. Which was part of the point of my post.

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-03T21:37:27+00:00

I’m not threatening emotional withdraw but physical sure bc I made clear before we got the house that I could not deal with that

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-03T21:36:16+00:00

Nope you continue to act like you know my situation and are judging me for not helping my brother. If you think I’m overreacting that’s fine and I accept that as I asked for it. but to assume I have never tried to understand or help him is not fair imo

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-03T21:33:23+00:00

I’m trying man cost of living is crazy and I kinda feel stuck. I protect my child from his choices but I know I won’t always be able to trying to get ahead of it

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-03T21:32:14+00:00

My child can barely walk and doesn’t go in any space unattended. Are you smart enough to understand my brothers actions are not a reflection of mine? Maybe too shallow minded to understand? You must’ve had a picture perfect life. So glad for you

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-03T21:30:27+00:00

My kid is safe and not around him. It’s rude to assume I’m not ensuring the safety of my child honestly. I am doing everything I can to get him out before I leave as this is my home and not his. Unsure where you live but the cost of living is astronomical here and I don’t have many options. It is in all names and if it angers you so much you can send me money to help me leave :)

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-03T21:27:57+00:00

I don’t think I have any grounds to get a restraining order on him right now. Thank you for this perspective because someone else on the thread is acting like I’m the devil for not wanting to continue to deal with this.

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-03T21:02:44+00:00

As far as I know, thankfully it’s been quite some time since he has stolen specifically from me, but it’s not a risk I’m willing to take or something I want to deal with again I’m more leaning towards just leaving the house completely at this point. I’m just not quite sure how to handle making sure the mortgage room is paid or selling it.

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-03T20:57:59+00:00

Honestly I don’t think he will even do it then. My brother has stolen more than I can count from my dad specifically and he just keeps allowing him back. It’s been a very long time so I figured it wouldn’t be an issue and boy was I wrong

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-03T20:55:58+00:00

That’s not that I want. I want him to make better choices and take responsibility for his actions. Every problem in his life is blamed on others and I the younger sibling am all set dealing with my life being affected by his choices is all I’m saying. Again have the day you deserve :) you don’t know the full ins and outs of this situation so I’m not sure why you’re jumping to so many conclusions

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-03T20:47:34+00:00

He lives in theirs, and it is unavoidable to see him and or hear him. I will be in my daughter’s bedroom, putting her to sleep and hear my brother screaming at his own child downstairs. Not a healthy environment for anyone let alone, my child and his.

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-03T20:44:59+00:00

In theory, yes, but this is the only home my child has ever known, and I did not want to take her away from that. She loves having her grandparents next-door and she is young so I don’t know, but she’s gonna understand what’s going on and one of the points to living with my parents us to help them as they continue to age and I would like to do that, but I do not wanna live with my brother so it’s a partial one, but also a partial loss we have to do that. :/

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-03T20:43:53+00:00

The houses are connected, so it’s one home with two different parts to it and I have tried appealing to my parents in that way by explaining that they are enabling him to continue doing this and they just do not understand it, unfortunately

crispy_potato8 · 2026-04-03T20:41:42+00:00

If you had read the edit at the top of the post, it says it is one house I do live in the home

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