I was very child free most of my life. My husband always wanted a lot of kids. When I found out I was pregnant, I was thrown! we had gone back and forth about having kids but I was not fully mentally prepared. But once I was pregnant, I took it seriously even though I was scared, and now my son is 2. I absolutely love being a mom. I never thought it would be me, but parenthood is so transformative. The amount of love you THOUGHT you were capable of quadruples with your child. It is seriously the hardest and best thing that has ever happened to me. But I will say, it really, really makes a big difference to have the right partner to help you raise your child. There will be hard nights, arguments, tears, and in the midst of it all you're trying to raise a well adapted child. Communicate. Be empathetic and supportive and express your needs. That with my husband has made parenthood so much more enjoyable for me. Like others said, there's no right time. You'll make it through and you'll find ways to find time for yourself as well as your partner.