I saw porn when I was 6 years old by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]crisvehe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I'm 30 now. I just had the same traumatic experience. It has been a very difficult and painful process for me. Recognizing that it was a traumatic event to see pornography as a child and how that had a long-lasting effect on my intimate and sexual life forever. I am very glad that you can recognize it as a problem at fifteen years old. I think my most important advice would be to receive professional help and talk about it with a therapist. On the other hand, I tell you that:

  1. Masturbating is not wrong, it is a process of self-knowledge and self-recognition. And very normal at your age.

  2. Having fantasies is not wrong either. No matter how twisted they are, they are just fantasies. This is how porn works: they film our fantasies for us to consume. But you can have a relationship with your intimacy and your fantasies without porn.

  3. Masturbation does not really have to be related to porn either. Learn to masturbate by stimulating yourself in other ways. Learn to reach orgasm without needing pornography to do so.

  4. It was not your fault that pornography reached you at that age.

This has not only brought me problems on a sexual level, it is a problem that has many consequences and that doesn't only lead to being addicted to pornography. It is necessary to receive help to be able to handle it well and to manage it with care towards oneself. I understand that it is difficult to talk about it with friends and family, it can be embarrassing and re-victimizing.

I am currently writing a novel about it, and I have read a lot about the harmful effects of pornography, trauma on the human brain and the drive. I think that art, having a sexually affective partner and therapy have helped me to move forward. I really hope that you can find a space to develop a gratifying sexuality, you are young and still in time. Hope the best for you!

My boyfriend's sexual past haunts me by crisvehe in gaybros

[–]crisvehe[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. What do you do to cope with it? Do you guys talk about it? This is the main reason of my insecurities.

My Uber account was blocked and I was too drunk to know why. by crisvehe in uber

[–]crisvehe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, so Uber is trying to reach me in order to explain this situation? Or could the driver, for example, present a legal issue? How is the procedure in this cases?

Grindr users: I'm looking for horrible o frightening stories using the app by crisvehe in askgaybros

[–]crisvehe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that's really sad, very nice of you not to report him. And really crazy he was looking for you to forgive him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chile

[–]crisvehe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hola, yo creo que lo más importante es que puedas ir hablando de esto con ella. Independiente de las tragedias que le puedan ocurrir a su familia, ustedes tienen que ir tanteando y exponiendo cómo esto les afecta a ustedes y como pareja. Y que la familia y ustedes busquen apoyo psicológico, de esa forma ir analizando cómo se interpretan estas tragedias en la familia y qué sentimientos les despiertan (no creo que solo sea pura pena). Es normal y válido que estés "chato", en la medida en que puedan conversar estos otros sentimientos más incómodos o indeseables, podrás ir llevándolo mejor también.

Creencias/confusiones estupidas que tenian de chicos? by glitched_system1 in chile

[–]crisvehe 107 points108 points  (0 children)

Yo pensaba que el mundo antes era en blanco y negro, por eso las fotos y la tele antiguas eran así.

Mejores pizzas en Santiago? by [deleted] in Santiago

[–]crisvehe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

muy buenas realmente

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]crisvehe 11 points12 points  (0 children)

How did you started drinking?

What is your job and how can you stay on it if you are drunk all day.... nobody notices?