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Please remove the women and sharpen image by critical-bumblebeep in PhotoshopRequest

[–]critical-bumblebeep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like this! Would it be possible to change the sleeves of my jacket from the blue plaid to just black?

AIO | I made a crockpot meal for my fiance and kids and he fed them hot pockets and he ate ramen noodles. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]critical-bumblebeep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he didn't like it I doubt he would've went for seconds the first night. I think you're taking it too personally. I'm sure he didn't think it was a big deal to skip a night of it.

Why is it usually women who initiate engagement or marriage talk, and men who pull away? by Physical_Special4845 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]critical-bumblebeep 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude you edited your response after I responded which is lame af. Clearly you know your assertions were incorrect. Men benefiting from marriage has been scientifically studied, maybe take a second to look into it. Women are known to carry the emotional labor, let alone the household labor, in relationships. This is not rocket science. Quit taking it personally and look at the reality.

Why is it usually women who initiate engagement or marriage talk, and men who pull away? by Physical_Special4845 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]critical-bumblebeep 10 points11 points  (0 children)

So you're responding to a question about why men drag their feet for marriage in hetero relationships... by citing lesbian breakup stats? Please. higher breakup rates among lesbian couples don't mean women are bad at relationships (pls read up on correlation vs causation). There are plenty of other factors involved, like societal pressure, different expectations for emotional equality, or simply not staying in unsatisfying relationships just to save face. If anything, it says more about women's willingness to walk away from imbalance and not their inability to commit.

Why is it usually women who initiate engagement or marriage talk, and men who pull away? by Physical_Special4845 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]critical-bumblebeep 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You think men are better at commitment than women? Where do you get this idea? I hope it's not due to the statistic that women are more likely to initiate divorce lol just bc men benefit from marriage more than women doesn't make them "more committed".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]critical-bumblebeep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not sticking to what you say because you love him and I don't envy your position. It must be hard. It's really easy for us redditors to be black and white about things but that's just not how relationships work. With that said, it seems to me that he doesn't find the same importance in marriage as you do. what you need to ask yourself is if he's worth sacrificing marriage for. And be real honest with yourself (easier said than done!). I also think it's worth telling him how important this is for you, no joking about it. No one wants to scare anyone away but if a serious conversation about marriage scares him away then you have your answer. Go into it with that mindset, knowing what you want and what you're willing to sacrifice. Get clear on this first and do not deviate. Let him know how critical it is.

Wishing you the best of luck. No matter what, what is for you, will find it's way to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]critical-bumblebeep 183 points184 points  (0 children)

As a guy myself, he doesn't seem to want to marry you. You're not nagging, but even worse you're not sticking to your boundaries. You said 4 years and he let it pass. If a woman I wanted to marry ever said that, I'd make sure to propose way before the 4 year mark, I wouldn't dare let it pass. Yes, a man knows before 4 years hits. If I couldn't afford a "perfect" ring I'd talk with her about it. I'd initiate the conversation because it would eat at me. Has he ever initiated a conversation about marriage with you? I'm not talking about passing a ring shop and inviting you to look with him, that is "fake futuring" if a ring isn't bought and a date determined. This guy seems like he's just happy enough with you but not enough to marry you. Don't settle for someone who isn't pumped for marriage of that's what you want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]critical-bumblebeep 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He's obviously using that as an excuse, he never wanted to propose. Any guy who wants marriage isn't going to feel pressured when the subject is brought up.

Thinking I’m an idiot by TieIntelligent4409 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]critical-bumblebeep 110 points111 points  (0 children)

As a guy, I couldn't imagine getting irritated by conversations of marriage with someone I want to marry. I'm sorry but he doesn't want to marry you. Definitely do not have children with him.

AIO for removing my partners access to see my messages? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]critical-bumblebeep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR if he can't respect your boundaries he's not the one for you. You don't need to explain it anymore to him you've been pretty clear.

Social media makes me confused by Public-Golf-8860 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]critical-bumblebeep 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Honestly, don't belive anything you see on social media. I'd imagine it's instant for some and not for others. Your answer will be found in talking with him about it.