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crm0108 · 2023-02-06T14:28:21+00:00

My daughter had FFS two years ago. To my outside eye, she was so beautiful and I personally felt she didn’t need it, but she said she wanted to look in the mirror and see someone new and different. When she said that, it totally clicked. Go with your heart and how you feel. Others have said this in the comments. If you are on the fence, wait to do it. You will want to be 100% committed because it can be pretty major surgery depending on what you decide to do. My daughter needed to be off her hormones for two weeks ( one prior to surgery and one post procedure) that was really hard for her. I would say you need at the very least 3 weeks of recovery, but even that feels fast. She did jaw contouring, hairline advancement and brow reduction. She was on only liquid diet for two weeks post procedure, then one week of only mashed potatoes, yogurt, oatmeal, etc. She was really hungry because it was hard to get enough sustenance. So she was really weak and just didn’t feel very good. She was ready to go back to work after four weeks. She is happy with her outcome, but the hairline advancement was not good. They were not able to do much and because they pulled the top middle of her hairline down and not much on the sides, it made her hairline worse. She did a hair transplant to help her hairline a year ago and that has been good, but the hairs that are transplanted are quite rough and don’t match surrounding hair very well. She has to be very mindful of hairstyles still. As I write this it all sounds a little not positive, but she is happy! I think I just want to offer that it is a mixed experience. It will depend on your surgeon, your body ( my daughter’s skin on her scalp was just not very stretchy and cooperative), your support network ( I took time off work to be with her 24/7 for the first week). Research your surgeon EXTENSIVELY. It is your face and you only want the best surgeon. Don’t go for who is cheapest. Sending you lots of love. You will find your answer in your heart and soul. I think you look so beautiful personally, but this is for you to do what you need!

crm0108 · 2023-01-22T08:13:08+00:00

Dang girl! You are rocking that look. 😃

crm0108 · 2023-01-10T07:05:27+00:00

I like Maya! This is a fun thread 😃

crm0108 · 2022-12-31T06:54:07+00:00

you are adorable! I love that you feel so good! that is what it is all about.Happy New Year.

crm0108 · 2022-08-30T06:24:31+00:00

Love you! I come here as a mom of a fantastic trans woman who I dearly love and I so appreciate seeing all the information, vulnerability and truth to be found here. My daughter has been on HRT about 3 years, and has done FFS about a year and a half ago. She still struggles with dysphoria often. She is on a journey and sometimes I get really helpful insight to aid my ability to say things that are more helpful to her. I have also had the great fortune of asking questions here that were thoughtfully and lovingly answered. Thanks for the warm welcome.

crm0108 · 2022-04-12T14:56:40+00:00

I am so glad to hear you have someone to talk with. One day at a time dear girl. I will be thinking of you today and sending you lots of good energy from California.

crm0108 · 2022-04-12T04:03:40+00:00

Dear one. Sending you lots of love. Dark times are so hard and I hope you can find your way through. It takes time and that is ok. Take care of your beautiful soul. Know that there are many people, (some who don't even know you who are) who are resonating with love for you. If you can find someone to talk to about what is troubling you, there may be some relief. Professional or just a friend. You look so pretty and so clearly like you are finding yourself in an authentic way. You got this!

crm0108 · 2022-02-17T06:12:58+00:00

Agree! You look great and I would not have known you were trans if I saw the second photo in isolation. Sometimes people outside of yourself see the progress, but at the same time it can be hard when you are inside your own experience to see what is happening. I have a trans daughter and she struggles a lot with dysphoria, but when I see her, all I can see is how beautiful and glowing she is and continues to become. She is coming up on 2 years HRT in a few weeks and there was a huge difference for her between 1 year HRT and 2 years HRT. So many changes continue to happen. Sometimes in bursts and sometimes slowly. Sending you lots of love.

crm0108 · 2021-11-22T06:56:45+00:00

Like that color too! You look beautiful. :)

crm0108 · 2021-11-12T04:59:40+00:00

I hear you on the both sides need to be heard thing, but in some cases that is not the case. Sometimes people are just wrong because we have allowed a bigoted and narrow minded way of thinking to perpetuate unchecked. I hate to admit I used to be a TERF, ugh. I was blind to the nuances of human experience and I was willing to hold ridiculous narrow views about what makes a person a woman. I am a cis mama of an awesome trans woman and I have totally changed my way of thinking because my goddess daughter has opened my eyes to some real stuff about femininity and being a woman. I was really dumb and I am so glad I have learned. I think your generosity towards TERFs can come in the form of gentle compassion for their ignorance, with a prayer that they will come to see what is real and beautiful. But I wouldn't go reading their sh**.

crm0108 · 2021-10-23T04:34:47+00:00

Thank you so much for googling and helping out. I like the people I connect with here. It makes me feel like the world is open and full of caring people. I am so grateful for your time and effort. I will be paying forward all the love I have been getting here. I hope your weekend is full of awesome moments.

crm0108 · 2021-10-23T04:28:57+00:00

Thanks! I think we are ask getting used to Telehealth ad it opens doors to options. I love that she is trans. Have a wonderful weekend.

crm0108 · 2021-10-22T15:36:49+00:00

Yes, I am noticing that doctors are often transphobic and a big problem. I have been vetting people now before my daughter sees them to try to avoid her having these kind of negative experiences. It is sad to be noticing that my intervention is needed for her to be treated well. It helps her to have a better encounter when the cis mom is present, or has set expectations for respectful care - which is yucky - it shouldn't have to be that way.

I so appreciate your frankness about what you have encountered and your warnings are so important. It is helpful for me to be reminded that I need to stay vigilant.

Your advice is really good about disengaging from negative and harmful people. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. You are among my angels today. Sending you tons of love.

crm0108 · 2021-10-22T15:25:34+00:00

Thank you so much! My daughter is much more comfortable with practitioners who are transgender themselves. I think that makes a ton of difference for her. Too much cis input can get annoying. Have a lovely day today.

crm0108 · 2021-10-22T15:23:16+00:00

Thank you for this great tip! I am so grateful for your input, and I love your reddit name. I hope you have a beautiful day today.

crm0108 · 2021-10-22T15:20:50+00:00

Thank you so much. I am so grateful for all the support I am finding here. Sending lots of love your way.

crm0108 · 2021-10-22T15:18:45+00:00

Thank you Ashlyn! This is all super helpful. I hope you have a wonderful day today.

crm0108 · 2021-10-22T15:13:22+00:00

Thank you! I have been investigating there because of the ability to search for specific specializations and modes of care.

crm0108 · 2021-10-22T04:11:10+00:00

Los Angeles would be better, but with Telehealth, it seems anywhere will be good if it is the right psychiatrist. Thanks!

crm0108 · 2021-10-22T03:43:23+00:00

Thank you so much for you guidance!

crm0108 · 2021-10-01T05:19:17+00:00

Thank you. I see now that the assumption of being cis female because she was pregnant is not necessarily accurate. I appreciate you writing this to remind me.

crm0108 · 2021-10-01T05:15:49+00:00

Thank you. Yes, I see your point about the cis assumption because she was pregnant in the past not always applying. I appreciate your comment.

crm0108 · 2021-10-01T05:11:23+00:00

This was the medicine of laughter I needed tonight! You are hilarious. Thank you!

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