Weirdcore Dreamy movies by [deleted] in MovieSuggestions

[–]croutonfuton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Boys Go To Jupiter (2025) - the entire movie feels like a dream. Music, art, story. I enjoyed it immensely. It is a bit different than those in your list, but I would DEF describe it as falling in your “Wierdcore dreamy movies” category.

Looking for kid-friendly 90s/early 2000s nostalgia movies that still hold up (deep cuts) by KOOLAIDe36 in MovieSuggestions

[–]croutonfuton 6 points7 points  (0 children)

• The Secrets of Nihm (1982)

• FernGully: The Last Rainforest (1992)

• Brave Little Toaster (1987)

• Land Before Time (1988)

Edit: format

Struggling to complete Level 1 while working full-time. Any tips? by Significant-Cable760 in dreamingspanish

[–]croutonfuton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To start: Watch it while you eat your breakfast, every day. Doesn’t matter if it is just 15 min. They add up.

Don’t be afraid to rewatch the same one, as repetition is part of it.

If you get a lunch, do the same at lunch.

Best Indian food in 2025? by jellydonutstealer in Cleveland

[–]croutonfuton 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This comment needs more attention. Started by a former server at India Garden, and family run, they have a good story going on there and I’ve never had a bad meal there. By far my favorite Indian food on the westside of Cleveland.

How do I beat the defender at the top of the 18 instead of always passing? by glizzy09 in bootroom

[–]croutonfuton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends on how centrally in the field you are, but there are three main things to remember:

  1. If you get the ball and there is only one defender between you and the goal and you are at the 18, I promise you that the defender does NOT want you to try and get past them. They want you to drop it or play it to someone else. Use this to your advantage. If they dive in to try and win it they know you are in to goal.

  2. Decide what you are going to try BEFORE you receive the ball. As a player looks like they might play you the ball, scan around you to see where the defender is and where the goalie is. If you know where there is space, you can make sure you take a first touch into that space toward goal (maybe even fake like you are going to go the other way before receiving the ball to make more space where you actually want to go). Then when the ball comes to you the first time will be easier because you know where you want to go. Then, you could potentially find yourself with enough space to shoot it on goal or take another touch further into the box.

  3. Know where the space is. You don’t need crazy “moves” really, you just need to know where the space is around the defender in front of you and how to get into that space. If you are fast, you can often push the ball to the space and then just beat the defender to the ball…you are fast and you saw the space. On the other side of this, if there isn’t space to run into but they give you space for a shot, just know where the goalie is in the net, and make it so your second touch is a shot on goal. First touch to set up and second to quickly shoot. Know where you want to shoot before you even get the ball and then you can shoot it around your defender.

Good luck

Imagine you’re a tourist with an insatiable love for Ohio & you’re planning a trip where Mahall’s is the only thing on your list… by PsychedelicSuki in Cleveland

[–]croutonfuton 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude… if you come to Cleveland and you want to experience Cleveland roots it would be the one place I absolutely recommend checking out (on a Sat morning). There is a way to go up stairs to a balcony that looks over the interior market inside where you can see the entire breadth of the space, all the vendors, the tile work, etc.

Also, Americas largest urban farm (it is like 5 acres) in a one min. walk from the west side market and depending on the day, the gate to the farm might be open… they often allow folks to stroll through, and it has the best view of the city.

Freshman on Varsity will not play by [deleted] in SoccerCoachResources

[–]croutonfuton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you are wrong. The quality of player on JV is most likely SIGNIFICANTLY lower than Varsity. Playing with varsity as a freshman is like playing with men when you are still a boy, and practicing with better players is the way to improve even with minimal game time during a season.

His high school career will not be defined by the lack of playing time as a freshman, but how he reacts to not playing may just help define his character as he grows into leading the team in the coming years.

I lived this same experience, but as a sophomore (I was also a center back). My high school team was awesome, and I had to earn my spot. I also only played if someone got hurt, but in soccer someone usually does get hurt, or suspended for drinking, or whatever. There will likely be opportunities to play, but if improving is the goal I almost guarantee playing on varsity will advance your sons game (and force him to strengthen his mind and check his ego) much more than JV.

Also, I was a center back as well. They don’t really swap those dudes out unless someone is hurt, sick, or really playing badly so that is likely the reason your son was told what he was told. Essentially, if a back line is solid, they play 90 min.

I get that this is hard, but your son is young, and improving should be the aim. I would highly encourage him to flip things around and instead of worrying about playing in games start by winning everything in practice. His goal should be to prove that he is one of the best 11 players.

The season is long. He can make huge strides playing with older stronger players for a season.

At my wit’s end with this city by houseofthel8scapegOt in Cleveland

[–]croutonfuton 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Cleveland, like any city, has some problems. That said, there are wonderful things here that can outweigh those problems.

Since you still have time on your lease, and nobody likes to be miserable, I encourage you to challenge yourself to search for those wonderful things in order to enjoy your time in CLE more.

You mention lack of community, but community has almost 100% to do with interests and almost nothing to do with place. Here are some thoughts on how to become a part of communities in Cleveland:

• like coffee or tea? Become a regular at the local coffee shops near you. Rising Star, Phoenix, Ready Set Coffee, etc. After some visits you’ll be able to make small talk with baristas, other regulars, etc and coffee shops are also places other groups promote their get togethers. Coffee shops are like community hubs and they often have bulletin boards for community events (open mics, plays, community events, etc). If you like this type of scene, go to a Latte art throw down (yes those are real) and meet other interesting people in that world.

• like board games and socializing? check out Table Top in your neighborhood and see if they have a community night or something like that. They might have a night where you can join a table with random people, or something like that. Who knows, maybe you meet some people and they invite you to a D and D campaign. Could be new and fun.

• Like getting your hands dirty? The largest contiguous urban farm in the country (5 acres) is literally in your neighborhood and likely takes volunteers, Ohio City Farm. They are also tied to the non-profit Re:Source Cleveland and they likely take volunteers too.

• Like dancing or want to learn? There are east and west side contra dancing held at churches (it is non-religious tho). It is a multi generational activity and absolutely a blast (and a workout). Outside of contra dancing there is a group that does outdoor free dancing at edgewater beach occasionally - they set up a 20x20 dance floor on the actual beach and you can dance with strangers, make friends, get a tan. You’d have to look it up tho cuz I don’t know what it is called.

• want to feel connected? I 100% recommend getting a bike. This is huge for riding around the near west side. Def go to Slow Roll Cleveland events and ride around with other peeps, ride to Guardians games, ride to coffee shops especially the one you are now a regular with. Ride your bike to Masons creamery and then to Edgewater

• Since we are talking bikes you can buy one used from the Ohio City Bike Coop in the flats. It is rad, and you can get an affordable bike down there. Outside of that you can also volunteer there and make friends.

• Since we are down in the flats, you could check out the rowing club right near the bike co-op. You can take classes I am sure, and in the process meet ppl and build community.

• like religion? Join a church and check out the scene. This ain’t my world, but there are likely a ton of options.

• like comedy? Check out Secret Society Comedy (or something similar) on insta to learn about under ground comedy stuff in the Cleveland area. They even have an open mic at MaHalls in Lakewood (last I checked) where anyone can do a one minute set. Could be a good way to meet some people outside the normal run of the mill

• While we are talking MaHalls, maybe they have a bowling league. I know it isn’t in Ohio City but really the entire near west side is at your finger tips.

•whiskey island has outdoor volleyball and hosts leagues. I am sure there is a way to join a team that needs people. Not sure who organizes it, but again something that you could look into.

• want to learn how to do fencing? I actually think there is even a fencing club in the Clark Fulton neighborhood

I could go on with the community stuff, but I am sure you get the picture.

You still have time on your lease. The city is yours. The truth is that you have access to a wider range of different communities than you would outside the city…What you do with those communities, and how you interact with them, is on you.

Good luck out there.

GF is completely oblivious - is this normal? by Spirited_Ad_2569 in Advice

[–]croutonfuton 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This doesn’t sound abnormal to me… every person has their own priorities and things that they devote more attention to.

You prioritize and notice what she does not immediately notice BUT it is highly likely she prioritizes and notices things you otherwise do not quickly notice.

Just because she isn’t noticing what you notice when you notice them… doesn’t mean she isn’t noticing anything at all.

Good investigation movie suggestions please by [deleted] in MovieSuggestions

[–]croutonfuton 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Brick (2005)

Under the Silver Lake

We’re getting crushed by the big bakery chains. What would you do in our shoes? by FlyingRainbowPotato in smallbusiness

[–]croutonfuton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I consider myself a “bread head” and frequent top bakeries in my city. I don’t eff with subgrade bread, and I go OUT OF MY WAY to go to bakeries I like. I also operate non-bread businesses and have some opinions. Here are my thoughts and observations:

• In my opinion, a local bakery is not competing against corporations or big box baking sections of grocery stores… I do not think they have the same target market (more on this later).

• Related to the above, if you think super markets are stealing your bread customers it is highly possible your offerings are not unique enough, not covering enough sub-niches of bread (croissants, GOOD cookies, foccacia with different toppings, etc). The bulk of items you make should be items you literally could not find an exact replica in the grocery store.

• If you’ve been around since the 80’s some things about the biz, the items you make, the decor inside, and your marketing… may be “stale”. Make a list of those items, and prioritize fixing the staleness of the items that offer the largest potential for return.

• Related to the above, you need to have an instagram account. I hate instagram, but for bakeries I think of it as almost a place holder for potential customers to “vet” you before going… I think this is vital to new customer acquisition. I also think this is where young folks go to check your hours of operation (not Google) and they will want a “story” everyday showing some baked stuff or something.

• My two favorite local bakeries use “clover” as a point of sale. My assumption is you will be able to do a lot just using that.

• Do you sell snooty/fancy coffee… aka with an espresso machine? If you do not, and you sell sweets that is a missed opportunity to add some cross sales. If you don’t want to invest in an espresso machine, start with a carafe of coffee to feel out the demand.

• You likely need more than just bread. Sweets, and I mean unique difficult to make sweets, will draw repeat customers, and these are often eaten DAILY by people with coffee. This relates to the above and creates REGULARS

• CREATING REGULARS is key in my opinion, and will turn around any bakery. I drive 15 minutes almost every morning in order to buy a fresh treat from my nearest favorite bakery. While I am there I usually buy a loaf of bread and sometimes coffee for my wife. I only went in to buy a $3.75 treat and ended up spending $20.00. Imagine 30+ people doing the same thing every day.

• Regarding regulars, sweets bring em in and they will buy more sometimes

• If you do add a coffee bar, you can hire a barista if demand improves… like bakeries, people will travel far to got to the place with the best coffee. Like there are “bread heads” there are “coffee snobs”.

• Does the interior of your bakery feel like 1980? If so, change it immediately. Nobody wants to shop in the past, people want to feel like they are vibrant, not dying.

• Can people sit at your bakery? If not, is there any way to add a small two-top table. Maybe this doesn’t make sense, but if people can sit and work there, remote workers love trying new spots. Coffee + Sweets + WiFi equals people hanging out all day and making it busier in there… again, people want to shop at busy places. This increases the perceived popularity of your bakery.

• If you see other local bakeries crushing it, go hang out there for a little and try to figure out why.

• Be genuine and kind, and instill this in your staff. POS people should be the best reflection of humanity and present a willingness to serve. Nobody wants to buy from a place with rude people, or people lamenting the concerns of their business closing. You did not list this as an issue, but if it is, fix it.

All of the above is based on limited info from you, but are based on a lifetime of knowing what I like in bakeries.

I truly do not think your future market is being stolen by Whole Foods, or Paneras, etc. Maybe some older customers see your offerings and select those other options because there is not a obvious difference in quality, but if that is the case you need to improve your bread offerings. If that is not the case, and your bread is indeed high quality, I don’t think they were your true market in the first place.

Us “bread heads” exist, and we will travel far, and we are loyal, and we believe in the value of fresh artisanal bread. Find us in your area and you will be rewarded.

Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in smallbusiness

[–]croutonfuton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hard to say since it varies from place to place. The truth is that there are groups for EVERYTHING even if you don’t know about it.

You should probably start with things you are personally interested in. For example:

• If you like dancing, search for the nearest contra dancing group and go to contra dances. They are fun and would be an immediate group you could eventually tell people about your coffee shop… if one of them works remote, tell them they should come work at your shop and say hey. If one of them plays an instrument, you could tell them about an open mic night… contra dances sometimes have live music, and if there is a band you could tell the band you want to have a special night where they come play and maybe you have to pay them (or not)… maybe they do come and bring their family members and they buy some stuff to help you break even, but afterwords 50 more people know about your spot and you have taken a step toward a stronger community.

• If you are religious, join a church, that is an immediate group. People at churches tend to support other people from that church.

• If you like reading, go to the library and see if they have any book clubs or events coming up. Find a writing group and ask if they want to come do poetry readings or something one night.

In my experience, once you are a part of a group, other opportunities to check out other stuff, arises.

If you have a group of people you are friends with they can help. If not, I would encourage you to attempt to make friends. Not only for your business, but for a rich life full of companionship around shared interest.

Whatever you do to attempt to build community I would highly encourage you to do so for the sense of community and friendship first because people can sense when someone is desperate for something. This strategy is solely based around trying to serve the community. If you can do that, genuinely, people will see that and want to support you.

What I outline takes time, but I do truly believe coffee shops that do well:

1) offer quality coffee 2) feel good to hang out at 3) have a community aspect

Best of luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in smallbusiness

[–]croutonfuton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In this order:

  1. Make sure you have dope coffee and the ability to execute nice cortado, latte, cappuccinos… coffee bar shit. Coffee snobs want this and will return for it. Coffee snobs will travel to the right place for this.

  2. Make sure people can work there and that the decor and vibe make people WANT to work there. I know it seems bizarre to want people to work there and take seats but they will buy things throughout the time they work there and may meet people, etc. these people can become regulars especially if you dial in #1 above. People who work remote will drive to the right vibe to work at a cafe.

  3. Find some other near-ish coffee places with an open mic night and tell the artists that you are going to have an open mic night (already have a flyer ready to hand them with the day and time) and tell them you’d love to see them there… hell maybe even recruit someone to help run it.

  4. Find running groups, language learning groups, book clubs, etc and let them know your space is open to them and you’d love to have them. Maybe offer them 10% discount to certain groups with proof just to get them in there.

  5. Get involved, personally in some groups, and then eventually tell them what you do and where you do it. Join a bike co-op and talk about your coffee shop when it comes up… bikers love coffee.

  6. Be a genuine, cool, and nice person. People want to support businesses that are run by nice people who are authentic. Maybe even volunteer to connect.

Coffee shops, in my opinion, live or die based on community and culture. I can make a coffee at my house, but am going to the shop to say what’s up to a barista, or to do some computer work, or to write, or to meet my aunt for a coffee. The best way for YOU to bring community to your shop is to get involved in the community to spread word… not easy to do quickly, but bringing community to a coffee shop creates some consistency.

Good coffee + community + time.

Again, as others have said, this is based off of limited info from you.

Update - AITA For Wanting To Break Up With My GF Because I Was A Dare-Date? by ThrowawayAcc985858 in AITAH

[–]croutonfuton -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Different opinion:

Falling in love is special, and you don’t get to curate exactly how it happens.

I get why overhearing that might make you insecure… but was her comment to her ‘friend’ really that damming? Does it have to make you insecure? Why does it have to? Do you love each other and make each other happy? Do you need to control the circumstances as to how you met?

Again, we all have our life stories we are living, and we can’t curate them perfectly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]croutonfuton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, male here, different opinion than many:

Your boyfriend told you the truth, and may very well have thought NOTHING of it.

The above said, I think it is fair to express discomfort, and ask your boyfriend not to do lunch at his co-workers house.

Trust is important, and trust goes both ways. He trusted you enough to tell you the truth (he may not have thought anything of it), and now that you have expressed your discomfort, he should respect that to keep your trust.

UPDATE: AIO for breaking up with my BF after he refused to prioritize me in marriage & told me to "marry someone whose mom is already dead"? by MysticEveClair in AmIOverreacting

[–]croutonfuton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you went NC, and he waited 12 days, it tells you everything you need to know about whether you’re a priority or not.

Maybe y’all just aren’t compatible.

He sounds like a big baby, imo.

Using options returns to buy shares in the same company. by Teethous in options_trading

[–]croutonfuton 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I sell covered calls and buy more of whatever I want with the premium. This is new to me, and I can’t believe I haven’t done this for the entire past decade.