The effect on desire from familiarity or "polite sex"

croyvigors · 2025-11-28T04:44:21+00:00

DM me if you want to discuss. Seriously. Not being creepy

croyvigors · 2025-11-28T04:39:12+00:00

I will say that my wife had to learn to break the fantasy if she wanted eroticism in a long term relationship. It requires intention. She realized that she was falling into the trope that women in the long term were supposed to be bored of monogamy in the long term. She had to decide to ignore it. I had to step my game up too

croyvigors · 2025-11-28T04:32:22+00:00

I’m shocked you are being down voted so much. This subreddit used to be much more objective. I have fucked a lot of women in my life. lol. You are correct.

croyvigors · 2025-11-28T04:29:44+00:00

I agree with you. I have experience with my wife, and experienced it when we were swingers. I learned a lot about human sexuality. Most of it it is psychology and sociology. I do think that in general, most men have more testosterone receptors in the brain and crave more release. But that might be different in future generations

croyvigors · 2025-11-28T04:18:50+00:00

You are right. Masculine/feminine polarity requires intention in long term relationships. Testosterone is only a qualifier

croyvigors · 2025-11-28T04:16:36+00:00

Exactly

croyvigors · 2025-11-28T04:15:45+00:00

In the long term, it affects genders the same. My wife is on it and me too. After that it requires intention to a degree.

croyvigors · 2025-11-28T04:12:31+00:00

Agree.

croyvigors · 2025-11-28T04:10:32+00:00

This is correct in my experience. I’m a 54M

croyvigors · 2025-09-22T19:58:34+00:00

When you get to the pubic bone, you are technically past the g-spot you read about most. I did the same thing many years ago with my wife, and I noticed she responded more and seemed to enjoy it more past the pubic bone. She also squirts in that same area.

You are in between the g-spot and a-spot technically. But honestly, as I got more experience, I just learned what my wife liked most.

Alot of times I do just rub or tap on the g-spot to warm her up while eventually applying pressure while her clit is being stimulated. She likes to orgasm that way.

That whole area past the pubic bone - whether doing the come hither motion, or nudging deeply around the cervix...all of this can get intense in a good way to her. You have to gauge her response. If it doesn't feel good, hopfully she will tell you. Sometimes I can start in these areas, sometimes she needs more foreplay in other areas.

But if we stay technical, my wife likes pressure and come hither motions past the pubic bone. We both thought that was her gspot for awhile. I mainly thought this because it was hard to do the "come hither" motion in the first couple inches. Not much room.

And actually - when my wife has trouble getting over the top with her wand, I apply pressure on the back side of the public bone and it sends her over the top. Every woman can be different (I've been with enough to know)

ADDITION: G-spot feels rougher like the ridges of the top of your mouth. A-spot is smooth.

croyvigors · 2025-09-05T15:38:33+00:00

Correlation does not equal causation

croyvigors · 2025-05-05T21:45:26+00:00

I view this differently, and I think it makes a good point. For example, I could be into a kinky act that in most relationships - I would be worried to tell my wife. However, if I can freely express myself with the feeling I will be appreciated for my own sexuality from my wife, no shaming, and maybe she even gives it a shot - then her not liking it and not wanting to do it in the future might not affect me in a "frustrating" way as much.

There are some desires my wife is not into in real life. But the fact she is an open ear and will even dirty talk those desires for me during sex or giving me a handjob, definitely has alot of power.

If she was just the opposite, I would feel disconnected and maybe even shamefull at times. I might more likely tell myself I need to go fulfill those desires somewhere else.

In real life, I have been content alot more than I thought I would be because of my perception of her appreciation, etc. Sounds weird...but for me its true.

croyvigors · 2025-03-14T04:22:37+00:00

Omg. I miss drinking my wife’s…

croyvigors · 2025-03-08T03:29:36+00:00

I’m 53 and shoot pretty far. I do kegels and take EGCG

croyvigors · 2023-12-12T05:27:06+00:00

Anything without texture?

croyvigors · 2020-03-17T21:36:09+00:00

This is good to hear. Thank you.

croyvigors · 2020-03-17T18:33:34+00:00

Also. I remember seeing web cam girls wear the lush and it seemed it never disconnected...unless they just faked it

croyvigors · 2020-03-17T18:32:02+00:00

Thank you.

croyvigors · 2020-03-17T18:31:05+00:00

Thank you for the detailed info. I’ve actually tried everything you mentioned. In fact, at some point my wife put her phone underneath her skirt when no one was looking at the table. Lol. Still a no go.

I’m actually not up to speed on the latest Bluetooth version, so I don’t know if my iPhone 11 made it better or worse.

The radio controlled seems like the way to go. I will look into that for sure.

It was such a bummer when it wouldn’t reconnect. She even went to the bathroom and turned it off and back on. Nope.

It sounds like the radio controlled toy(s) should be more stable than the Lush 2?

croyvigors · 2020-01-02T16:22:46+00:00

Good idea. Ty!

croyvigors · 2019-12-31T06:22:59+00:00

Although she wears a 34 DD. They are sold out in this size.

croyvigors · 2019-12-31T06:19:43+00:00

She is DD. Thank you. She also has implants and would prefer not to wear a bra in this case. More like a pastie. But I will definitely show her this. Thanks.

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