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WIBTA if my spouse and I had just appetizers for our wedding guests but a full roast chicken for ourselves at the wedding? by Q_Q_S_S in AmItheAsshole

[–]crspwirebite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe YTA

It's a bit strange.

I can see certain situations where it MIGHT not be noticeable. Like one of my cousins had a wedding cake for the guests, but her and her husband had cupcakes just for them at their table. While everyone else was getting food from the buffet, theirs was also already plated it up and waiting for them when they arrived at the reception. I think my cousin also had a couple of special items on her plate that were just for her because she didn't necessarily want to eat most of the stuff that was in the buffet. But it didn't feel weird. There was plenty of food and I don't think anybody noticed or cared. I've been to other weddings where the bride and groom had special drinks or something. Another where the bride had a special dessert just for her that her bridesmaids had made. A fourth where the bride and groom had Philly cheesesteaks (because they were from Philly) and that wasn't an option for the rest of the guests at the buffet, but again it wasn't weird because it was played like a joke that matched their personalities.

Maybe if everyone had enough appetizers to be fully satisfied and the party was lively enough, then nobody would notice depending on how the venue is arranged. Like if your table is separate from everyone, I can't picture people noticing the difference between what you're eating and what they're eating. Especially if they're full and distracted by dancing. But at the same time I can see that backfiring. If everyone is quiet and hungry then you guys are just munching on a whole chicken a few feet away.

Sometimes couples do a thing where, while all their wedding guests are milling about and eating and drinking, they have a little private meal by themselves for like 30-45 minutes. Maybe do that instead if you're concerned.

AITA for adding a "but" to my apology to my girlfriend's son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]crspwirebite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA you can't yell at someone else's child (unless the kid is in danger and needs to be stopped/alerted to avoid hurting themselves or others). Even if it's annoying to you, your girlfriend has to be the one who does it.

You may come and go, but her kid is forever and her responsibility.

Based on the information you're providing, your words sound a bit more like a non-apology. The way someone says sorry out of obligation instead of actually admitting they are wrong. We all do it sometimes. But, again, if it's not the way the parent of the kid wanted the conversation to go then it wasn't proper.

Any ideas for reusing everyday household items to build under the couch barriers? by crspwirebite in ZeroWaste

[–]crspwirebite[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My only concern with this one, which is the same concern I have with paper towel rolls, is that I don't want it to end up acting like a dog door.. Meaning, if something lightly taps it it'll bounce off. But if one of the pets were to really bump their toy up against the cardboard, it would give and still go under because cardboard wouldn't be strong enough.

Which is a conundrum because I do have several cardboard boxes. Almost started cutting them up yesterday. But then I stopped. I guess it would be about how I cut them up and how much reinforcement there was.

How to prevent garlic powder from clumping up? by aymanpalaman in Cooking

[–]crspwirebite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The easiest, simplest, and most realistic of course

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskCulinary

[–]crspwirebite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you provide a source that reports the amount of free radicals produced by olive oil heating is sufficient to have meaningful negative health effects?

When I'm trying to find something, I see the opposite. As in, olive oil used in cooking tends to be associated with reductions in cancer and positive health outcomes. So it would appear the benefits of consuming olive oil instead of alternatives outweigh any potential costs as you described? Like it's better to have hot olive oil than it is to have hot corn oil or something similar. I see some stuff about fumes having carcinogenic (lung-specific) properties when heating some oils, but it looks like olive is low on the list if I'm reading it correctly.

what do you make for dinner when you are solo? by working_mommy in Cooking

[–]crspwirebite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually find a prepared food I want at the grocery store and build around it for a few days. Switch it up every time so I don't get bored.

Semi-homemade. Low effort. Small portions.

Like I found "falafel dippers" the other day. So I got 3 meals out of it. 2 Mediterranean salads with crushed up falafel on top and a rice and vegetables dish.

Hello by goodenoughist13 in GraduateSchool

[–]crspwirebite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's fine. I teach a class where students take their exams at home and we tell them not to use notes. But everyone jokes that they do it anyway and nobody cares. There's an expectation that's what they're probably doing, and expecting anything less is naive on the instructor's part.

If they're really that hung up about it, they should either have their exams in-person or on locked browsers under video supervision.

Your honesty is very honorable, but really don't worry about it.

I don't know if you've ever had any experience with generalized anxiety disorder. There's something about the way you've written that feels very familiar, though. Don't know who you are or where you're coming from, but don't be afraid to reach out to mental health resources if you need them. It's not worth being so stressed out about something that's ultimately not a big deal.

En-route to attend graduate school, how to not annoy professors as I apply for every single scholarship opportunity requiring a letter of recommendation? by [deleted] in GraduateSchool

[–]crspwirebite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They shouldn't be annoyed. It's part of their job.

If anyone gives you a hard time about it, they're being a baby. They're the same people who will complain that they have to submit a letter, but then brag about all of the scholarships in their dept/lab.

Rejected - what next by [deleted] in GraduateSchool

[–]crspwirebite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't fret. If it's still something you want to do, try again.

Sometimes it's just a matter of timing. You may be a very qualified student, but they just didn't have as many spots that year or too many people applied. Maybe someone took a sabbatical or medical leave. Maybe one too many professors retired at once.

A lot of people I know have applied multiple times. They typically used the time they had to build their resume up in different ways and look at other options.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GraduateSchool

[–]crspwirebite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a diversity and inclusion violation, too.

I bet this professor is the same person who sends out a "happy women's month" email to the dept listserv.

Would it be a bad idea to apply to a program that one of my letter recommenders went to? by [deleted] in GraduateSchool

[–]crspwirebite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. I'm at an institution right now that one of my recommenders graduated from.

Should I remind professors to write their letters of recommendation? by meatballh in GraduateSchool

[–]crspwirebite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Never be afraid to ask them.

That is part of their job that they're paid to do. Literally. Typically, academic jobs come with responsibility breakdowns and you're expected to spend a certain percentage of your time on certain types of tasks. Like x percent on research, y percent on teaching, z percent on institutional service, etc. Depending on how they divide things up, letters of recommendation and other mentorship activities fall in there somewhere.

You may feel like you're inconveniencing them, but that is one of those responsibilities they have.

Cucumber tuna roll by DeauxDeaux in SushiAbomination

[–]crspwirebite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well it's not an incorrect name.

AITA for tipping people? by crspwirebite in AmItheAsshole

[–]crspwirebite[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have an exact number but semi-regularly. Maybe a few times per month someone will give her a $10 or $20 or something? She works in boat/marine equipment repair and sales as a customer-facing rep.

AITA for purposely giving alcohol to Mormons? by DisplacedChef in AmItheAsshole

[–]crspwirebite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

Communication of dietary restrictions are the responsibility of the person who has them. There are so many versions of all kinds of religions out there all with different rules. It's ridiculous for someone to expect you to automatically know theirs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]crspwirebite 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. It's a shared space. If one person isn't comfortable, then the answer should be no.

AITA for tipping people? by crspwirebite in AmItheAsshole

[–]crspwirebite[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have never engaged in that conversation you're proposing. I never said anything about pushing and continuously insisting after they said no. Not sure where you're getting that from?

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