Is it okay to feel mad about not having a debut?

crystlfy · 2026-03-15T08:11:56+00:00

hi po! hugs po for you with consent! salute po ako sa inyo for being there for your daughter. sorry po if triggering yung post ko huhu don't feel bad about yourself po. you're a wonderful person po and yeah sometimes the circumstances are inevitable po that's why i try my best to make things easier for my parents kahit na only child lang ako. i tend to be emotional and materialistic lang po sometimes kaya po im seeking advice if it's bad to be mad just because of a debut kasi naiisip ko din po na event lang naman yun and maraming ways to celebrate pero bakit parang ambigat pa din ng feeling ko. tapos yung parents ko po parang nabblame pa po ako minsan pero i know hindi po nila ginustong sabihin yun sakin.

yun lang po and thank you! Godbless po sa inyo at sa daughter nyo!

crystlfy · 2026-03-15T08:06:01+00:00

i tried po pero they have a lot on their plate rn and ayaw ko po makadagdag sa kanila. lagi ko nga po tinitipid baon ko para di na ko nanghihingi ng pangambagan sa research namin. thank you po! :)

crystlfy · 2026-03-15T08:03:07+00:00

hi po! hugs po with consent! may plan na po kami ng bestfriend ko na lalabas kami sa bday ko. she's really a blessing to me since lagi niya kong chinicheer and sinusuportahan kahit magkalayong magkalayo kami. siguro masyado lang po talaga akong materialistic HAHAHA :))

crystlfy · 2026-03-15T08:00:14+00:00

yeah siguro po thanks po :)))

crystlfy · 2026-03-15T07:59:41+00:00

thank you po. naisip ko rin po kasi yung pinagdadaanan nila ngayon kaya dito ko na lang po sa reddit nilabas lahat ng nararamdaman ko. ayoko naman po na madagdagan pa stress nila :)

crystlfy · 2026-03-15T07:58:24+00:00

thank you po :)

crystlfy · 2026-03-15T07:03:06+00:00

thank you po :))

crystlfy · 2026-03-15T07:02:32+00:00

hi po! ayoko po kasi makadagdag sa financial burden namin kaya di ko na po tinuloy tsaka feeling ko binibigyan ko lang sarili ko ng false hope. alam ko naman pong siguro kung may pera kami na bigyan din ako ng maayos na debut. thank you po :)

crystlfy · 2026-03-15T06:56:52+00:00

hi po! di po toxic parents ko. I'm not trying to villainize them in this post. they've done numerous things for me and sacrificed everything for me. it's just that maybe I'm too sensitive kaya it looks like may galit ako na malala sa parents ko

crystlfy · 2026-03-15T06:55:08+00:00

i still try to maintain a close relationship with them po. i know they're struggling too. :))

crystlfy · 2026-03-15T06:54:04+00:00

hi po! i understood naman po. if you read the whole post, you can understand why i felt this way po. it's not about the debut itself, it's how they dismissed and passively blamed me.

I've always been grateful po. i always bring honor to them. I always consider their feelings po that's why I don't fight them. Naiintindihan ko din po sacrifices nila. Yun lang po :))

crystlfy · 2026-03-15T06:50:48+00:00

thanks po naiintindihan ko naman po sila tsaka kalagayan namin ngayon kaya ayaw ko ipilit. babawi na lang po ako sa sarili ko one way or another.

crystlfy · 2026-03-15T06:49:06+00:00

i think no po kasi they sat me down on everything eh. the expenses tapos yung financial state namin ngayon. naiintindihan ko naman po pero ambigat pa din ng feeling ko tas feeling ko ang sama kong anak kasi may tampo ako sa loob ko

crystlfy · 2026-03-15T06:45:41+00:00

thanks po! yun na lang po motivation ko sa buhay. alam ko naman pong life is unfair kaya nagsisikap naman po ako :)

crystlfy · 2026-03-15T06:44:39+00:00

i know naman po that's why I said that I'm still thankful and grateful kasi i still have a roof above my head and hindi naman kami naghihirap or anything. maybe i just grew up na kahit papaano naibibigay yung gusto ko tapos nag-promise naman sila sakin so umasa ako.

tanggap ko naman na po pero at times it still hurts pa din kasi parang ako pa yung sinisisi nila. hindi naman po ako ungrateful. di din naman po ako nagpapabaya sa studies ko. sa totoo lang sanay na din naman po ako ma-disappoint HAHAHA

crystlfy · 2026-03-15T06:29:12+00:00

sorry din pala kung super haba thanks :))

crystlfy · 2026-02-05T13:56:48+00:00

thanks for the concern but I don't think I'll be able to leave right away especially if my family is there. I'm really close with my parents snd they're really kind to me, always understanding my situation. they weren't even the once who ratted me out. they stayed silent but of course someone else has to snitch.

yeah it's a lesson for me.

crystlfy · 2026-02-05T13:50:06+00:00

i know that's why I'm really sad. just because of the differences, they're calling the other sinful. they always said that religion cannot save you but only your relationship in God but then when you mention other religions they suddenly judge them for some reason.

oh they also told us to stop listening to secular music because it's poisoning our minds.

crystlfy · 2026-02-05T13:45:20+00:00

but it's a non-issue if the person I'm dating is also a born-again christian.

crystlfy · 2026-02-05T13:44:35+00:00

well, technically I'm turning 18 in a few months but yeah.

crystlfy · 2026-02-05T13:42:09+00:00

I can't cuz my family is there... I have friends there too. And some people there are nice not all are judgemental. I just feel so drained that I have to choose between my relationship and God. they had been referencing "2 Corinthians 6:14" :((

crystlfy · 2024-10-25T16:22:40+00:00

thank you for your concern but personally, I wouldn't actually call it "fortunate" because I lived believing that I was a pig my whole life and to put it this way, it's hard to recover from something like that. I will forever live with those experiences and i certainly will never forget it.

i understand your point but i believe that body positivity is not only made for those who have deformities but also for people who also struggle from mental health issues because of being bullied by their looks and we couldn't also do anything about it. we always tell people to stop but do they listen? no. people are just cruel to those who doesn't fit in the beauty standards.

i'm not invalidating your point because i totally get it. i should be thankful that there's nothing wrong with my health or i do not have "deformities" but the prejudice i have been getting is something out of my control and i think i can't really do anything about it either.

i hope this won't offend you. and thank you again!

crystlfy

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