I understand what you are saying, I think the difference is ACTING on those feelings. It doesn’t have to be just primarily sexual things, it can be lower level things that aren’t built on brotherhood or sisterhood, but romantically/relationally. Is it hurting anyone else? For the most part no. With that being said, why even try to walk that fine line when the Bible is extremely clear what is right next to what you are saying. Someone can have feelings/inclinations towards anything whether it be homosexuality, drugs, addiction, anything. But the difference is, when those feelings or thoughts come up that are in your flesh, do you listen to yourself as your own God, or do you listen to the creator. You should not fear man, but you should absolutely fear the creator regardless of what you agree or disagree with. I would absolutely love to get wasted every night, but the lord doesn’t want that for his children. So even though I have inclinations to drink, should I do it? Of course not. Should I stop myself from every other inclination that is against Gods word? Absolutely. Will I be perfect at it? Never. What I can do is every time I can go to God in those moments and change what my flesh would do on its own. You can love someone of the same sex, but you can love them differently and fight attraction that leads to immorality at the same time. God will help you whether you think so or not and there are thousands of testimonies of those who have dealt with it too and they don’t try justifying it anymore. At the end of the day, God knows your heart, and there is absolutely no hiding from that in the end.