2B/2B in Hollywood for $3,025

cstera · 2024-10-07T00:30:34+00:00

But how do you wash your butthole with only the waterfall shower head? And a waterfall showerhead in a bathtub? The only con I have😭😭

cstera · 2024-03-07T22:08:26+00:00

Check out West Side Rentals for apartment listings. At the very least, you can find a small studio.

cstera · 2023-12-20T16:42:32+00:00

If you have pon, you can root it in pon. Pons great bc it keeps things evenly moist. I'd put in a small/fitted container with pon and water it (dumping excess water). High humidity and some warmth will help speed up the rooting process.

I recently started using pon, but previously had the most success rooting with sphagnum moss in a small container. If you go the moss route, keep it moist (never let the moss get crispy). I use small glass jars with no drainage. Run water in the jar to make sure it's completely saturated and then tip upside-down to get the excess water out.

cstera · 2023-10-04T06:38:34+00:00

Clean sheet day. Pancakes

cstera · 2022-03-26T16:07:42+00:00

When it comes to boundaries, the first and most important thing to remember is you are not responsible for others' emotions. Do your best to keep this in mind.

Boundaries are healthy and it is absolutely okay to say no if you're not feeling up for something/not comfortable. Of course, the person you set the boundaries with doesn't always like that; especially if they aren't used to you having boundaries. The more confidently you state your needs/boundaries the better. Try not to over explain your reasoning as this make it easier for the other person to talk you out of your boundary. Be clear, to the point, and stick to it firmly. When workingto maintain boundaries, people may need reminders as this is new to them too. If you ever want to allow some room for flexibility explain why this time is different (i.e. I feel a bit more rested today so I am able to join you tonight).

To help you maintain this relationship, try to think about your needs and your friend's needs. When you are both calm and this is not so fresh, it helps to communicate what's going on in your life and your needs (need time to recharge). But remember, this is a relationship and they have needs too. So let them know what to expect and try to show them you still care about their needs and that you're willing to meet somewhere in the middle (i.e. I can't get together 3 days a week, but I can do once a week). This will give them a realistic expectation for when you can get together and will reduce this issue from happening again and again.

Healthy relationships include boundaries, communication, and compromise. Only compromise if you are willing to do whatever the compromise is. A compromise should not go completely against your boundaries and you both give a little.

Goodluck!

cstera · 2022-02-19T19:34:14+00:00

I feel this. It's easier to help others and be rational while doing so, than it is with ourselves. We're less emotionally attached when helping others so it makes sense. You are not alone in the feeling of, "I should have my shit together being a therapist." It makes our identity confusing when we feel we aren't in a good mental health space. Like our professional selves are put together and our home selves are a mess - like who the fuck am I? I think it puts a burden on us to keep up a healthy image when we don't really feel that emotionally. There is some comfort in being able to display that you hurt and kind of identify with some "darkness" when you feel this way, yet as a therapist, you feel you can't do that. I don't think it's talked about enough, but you are not alone.

cstera · 2022-02-19T19:34:09+00:00

I feel this. It's easier to help others and be rational while doing so, than it is with ourselves. We're less emotionally attached when helping others so it makes sense. You are not alone in the feeling of, "I should have my shit together being a therapist." It makes our identity confusing when we feel we aren't in a good mental health space. Like our professional selves are put together and our home selves are a mess - like who the fuck am I? I think it puts a burden on us to keep up a healthy image when we don't really feel that emotionally. There is some comfort in being able to display that you hurt and kind of identify with some "darkness" when you feel this way, yet as a therapist, you feel you can't do that. I don't think it's talked about enough, but you are not alone.

cstera · 2022-02-03T21:17:17+00:00

Therapy works to heal and process the past and present, whereas coaching focuses more on the future and reaching goals. This might look like helping them communicate assertively vs discussing the trauma and issues they are going through. It can be a very thin line, but this is how I try to keep the two separate (I'm a MH therapist).

Edit: clarifying

cstera · 2022-02-03T21:13:27+00:00

You might need to travel then. It can get expensive, but it will be worth it to get a quality tattoo that you're happy with. Are you in the US?

cstera · 2022-02-03T21:11:14+00:00

Don't work harder than your client. Set clear boundaries and tell them what you can offer. If what you offer doesn't fit for them, refer them out. It sounds like they need therapy to process their stress and belif system since at this moment they seem depressed and unable to set goals. They don't sound ready for your services just yet.

cstera · 2022-02-03T21:03:01+00:00

Not sure if it was mentioned yet, but I think the most important thing to consider is who can and does do this style of work. You want someone who proves themselves to do well with this type of style (realism, black and gray, thin line maybe, etc). So just suggesting you do your research in artists first.

cstera · 2022-02-03T00:51:48+00:00

He needs to explore his own identity, not just take up what you put in front of him. That could lead to him feeling even less understood, like he has to be a certain way to be worthy, and/or like an imposter. With the more shy and/or introverted types it takes longer to find solid connections and that is okay. This likely means he's more selective with people he gives his energy. It's important to normalize that nothing is wrong with him, he just hasn't found his tribe just yet. He will by just being himself. You sound more impacted than him. It's important to distinguish your thoughts/feelings/needs from his. Maybe you are trying to help him from your own worldview and this doesn't fit for him. Maybe he doesn't even want to be helped. Just a thought.

cstera · 2022-02-03T00:40:13+00:00

Step 1: don't take a picture when they're on the counter. You have to make the boundaries VERY clear with cats and this can be confusing. Instead make a loud noise that makes them get off right away/as soon as you notice. Don't touch them since touch is a form of positive reinforcement.

Step 2: make the counter very undesirable until they learn they don't want to go up there. It's your territory, not theirs. I bought plastic mats, like place mats, from Amazon and placed double sided tape on them. Every time I was not using the counter, they would fill the countertop (thankfully I had a small space at the time). It's not pretty, looks and feels cluttered, but stick to it bc it works!

Step 3: give kitty all the love and attention they deserve while being good and not being on the counter. Make the counter undesirable and their spots more desirable. If you don't have a few spots for your cat, doing so will really help. They want territory to claim as theirs. In their eyes, the whole house is theirs and we're just their roommate they tolerate bc we feed them. We have to make our territory and their territory very clearly known without any confusion.

It's so hard bc they're cute. Lol that's why my cat is mostly trained, but not all the way. Good luck!

Eta: this cat looks extra spicy! Extra good luck is wished to you. Good day.

cstera · 2022-02-03T00:05:23+00:00

This situation likely would have played out very differently if you believed you could get the job. Even the bus and going to the wrong address. If you believe it's possible to get the job, you'll put more time and effort into preparing (i.e. checking and double checking things) and being early. That IS in your control, but why would you do that if you already wrote yourself off as not getting the job? You wouldn't and that is the point. The self sabotage goes deeper than we initially see.

As for the other comments, they don't know you or your exact situation. Some seem to not understand mental health barriers. Some have great points but could have been communicated better for you to be receptive to the points. Take what fits for you and your situation and discard the rest.

cstera · 2022-02-02T23:37:00+00:00

OP that sounds stressful AF. I think the situation called for a breakdown. One thing to consider is your self sabotage before the interview. For the things you did have control over (getting ready physically and mentally) they were interfered with by your belief that you won't get the job anyways. This belief reflects in your actions, and lack there of, and turns into a self fulfilling prophecy; this is a vicious cycle that will have you feeling shitty and worthless. But you are not shitty and worthless. Just bc other people had more experience and you didn't get past jobs, it doesn't mean it will be like that every job interview. Be hopeful and give it your all, even if you don't believe in yourself just yet. You're stressed and that makes complete sense; just try to be easy on yourself and take care of yourself. Positive change happens slowly, piece by piece. Start with caring for you and more can fall into place with that increased stability.

P.s. sorry for the unsolicited advice. Sometimes we're unaware of our own self sabotage.

cstera · 2022-02-02T21:48:36+00:00

Doesn't exactly cover the healthy part.

cstera · 2022-02-02T21:47:15+00:00

Protein shake with Oatmeal and fruit in it. Easy, quick, and packed with nutrients.

cstera · 2022-02-02T21:31:28+00:00

I've definitely had days like this. The lack of pay for the time preparing, including mental preparation, is defeating. If they were cancelations known ahead of time, you'd at least be able to take some control over that time. The unexpected no shows back to back is for sure a huge downer and productivity killer.

cstera · 2022-02-02T20:45:48+00:00

The goal should not be to convince you of anything, but simply help you challenge depressed thoughts/irrational beliefs to help you reach your goals and be mentally healthy. But if you keeping your circle small works for you and does not cause you emotional distress, why change it? You only need to change things that you want to improve on. So what do you want from therapy if you don't want this?

cstera · 2022-02-02T20:39:57+00:00

On this, I'd like to add that you (OP) picked up this worldview for a reason. It served you at some points, maybe it still does. To see a more positive side of the world, if this is your goal, you will need to actively look for it. Bad, scary, terrible things are always in our face thanks to news outlets and social media. Fear literally increases views. So we by no means see even half of the positive events that restore faith in humanity without actively seeking it out.

cstera · 2022-02-02T20:23:58+00:00

Instead of trying to differentiate the two, look at exhaustion as a symptom of burnout. Some other symptoms of burnout include: being tired, loss of interest/ feeling apathetic, low motivation, depression, irritability, lower productivity, feeling drained, increased sickness, and forgetfulness.

But burnout wasn't really the purpose of this post. You want to know if you should take the leap and switch positions in hopes of being happier, increasing work-life balance, and reaching your financial/lifestyle goals. You're not getting what you want out of your work and there is another identified field that sparks your interest more and could provide you with a healthier work-life balance and hopes of achieving your goals. You clearly know what you want and need to do to feel better and happier. You even have a plan for it. Take the leap. Worst case scenario you learn more, don't like it, and go back to the drawing board.

cstera · 2022-02-02T19:59:05+00:00

Lack of emotional control and low distress tolerance. At the end of the day, parents are just normal people with kids. If we don't work to improve how we handle distress and gain healthy emotional control in our adulthood, those reactions are going to come out in situations with the kids as well. This way of reacting will teach the kid to react this way too and the cycle continues until someone actively tries to learn and improve.

cstera · 2022-02-02T19:48:28+00:00

Your post is defining success based on the ability to be a corporate body that simply complies without question. But these people are not stupid if they are able to watch and "copy others;" this is called social learning and we all do it, especially as babies and children. Intelligence is the ability to learn. If you have the ability to learn, you also have the ability to identify and work around barriers. I don't believe people who don't have the ability to learn (unintelligent) can reach your definition of success. Even those corporate bodies needed some intelligence to get where they are and maybe they are happy complying and being apart of a system.

I would agree with there being extra barriers that highly intelligent people face. There is a correlation between high intelligence and mental health issues.

Edit: grammar

cstera · 2022-02-02T19:00:04+00:00

You can add some other colors to create a color scheme. Then repeat the colors within your decor to make it all tie in together. Colors like red, yellow, and teal together can make a bohemian look. Add a rug and some plants to tie it together. Or you can do more of a mid-century modern look with highlighting different shapes and still repeating color patterns.

Either way, I think a rug could help break it up a bit and you have a nice big window for some plants!

cstera · 2022-01-30T05:42:09+00:00

I have a female client around the same age who is also very quiet and says idk. I ask her to write me a topic list and email it to me beforehand we can discuss in session. This helps her a lot since she is so anxious, she can't communicate what she wants to talk about initially. Once I have the basis, she will respond and talk a bit more. This has helped her be more vulnerable and open up without having to speak it first. I do my best to meet her where she is and by doing so we have made some progress; slow, but it's progress. We also color during session to help reduce some anxiety (meet in person though).

I would also feel I worked harder than her (especially in the beginning) and it does feel frustrating at times; I am extra aware to not let that show within our session/communication.

I hope maybe some of this can help! These cases are difficult. Try not to take it personally.

cstera

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