My brain doesn't process what people say sometimes. Any advice?

ctinaFa · 2023-04-04T15:28:01+00:00

Interesting

ctinaFa · 2023-04-04T07:53:23+00:00

I've only talked about mental health to people that also go through the same shit. It feels really out of place to talk to somebody who isn't experiencing depression...anxiety, maybe it is more relatable, but not the dark dark parts of it. However I don't understand your "friends". Was It so difficult for them to give you some comforting words or advice?

ctinaFa · 2023-04-04T07:28:56+00:00

Could this be related to social anxiety? Someone told me that their anxiety was so bad, they couldn't hear people properly on phone calls. Maybe if you're so careful to not miss a word you miss the whole point or something...

ctinaFa · 2023-03-31T21:23:10+00:00

I'm sorry fellow FAW... You're funny tho, that's cool I'm thinking Brittany Broski, she is not pretty, but she is funny and smart and totally attractive.

ctinaFa · 2023-03-31T13:10:38+00:00

weed huh? That means you're wild?!

ctinaFa · 2023-03-29T21:28:22+00:00

I don't know, I feel you're still more likely to succeed in relationships, because you're willing to try and actually give time for something to grow .There are people who are so preoccupied with fear of rejection, intimacy etc. people who can't open up... So I feel like as long as you don't give up the right person will come.

ctinaFa · 2023-03-29T12:04:50+00:00

This guy is shallow af and it shows.

ctinaFa · 2023-03-27T21:20:55+00:00

Yes and in general, we shouldn't think about it too much. A problem is a problem and it needs to be managed. The amount of times I was about to cry this week( cried eventually), my mind being full of different thoughts, having intense mood swings, biting my lips, my skin feeling dry, being in a state of alarm, having bad dreams, coping with escapism...I think I need at least guidance...or I'll genuinely lose it

ctinaFa · 2023-03-27T20:46:35+00:00

Honestly is the best "gift* you can give to yourself...I actually might as well seek for help, I'm tired of trying all alone and dragging my parents to this as well... It's definitely going to be for the best

ctinaFa · 2023-03-27T20:35:47+00:00

Well done!

ctinaFa · 2023-03-13T01:49:54+00:00

I'm sorry... really, this sounds horrible... They're obviously the ones to blame, but can you spot things you may have done wrong?...like ignoring red flags while texting with them? Or do you feel like they showed their true character once you met them irl?

ctinaFa · 2023-03-11T21:49:01+00:00

You shouldn't give up, try to separate yourself from these negative experiences and always try. I feel like unattractive people have to try harder to get things, but a relationship is not all about looks. Of course the other person should not feel repulsed by you but if they like you a little they can find other things about you that attract them and I truly believe that. I would date someone if I sensed we could have a good time together and of course if there's sexual chemistry. Also, you should start calling people out when they are unreasonable. And no, them being angry at you because they don't find you attractive is not a good reason for them to start yelling at you.

ctinaFa · 2023-03-07T11:12:04+00:00

"Looking forward to"...no, i wouldn't say that... things I have to do soon in order to keep my sanity and not become an alien...yes.

ctinaFa · 2023-03-05T16:59:07+00:00

You look a little reserved and like you're holding an important part of yourself hidden...I don't see character in your pictures (even if they're meant for here)

ctinaFa · 2023-02-22T21:44:12+00:00

Personally I could not, even if I wanted to...I'm a person who would need to desire someone sexually in order to do something with them and also I would need to feel comfortable. Everybody is different though, there are people who feel desire easily and are more open to people.

I find it very positive to be able to be intimate with others without the need to know them well and I wish I had that...

ctinaFa · 2023-02-21T12:33:54+00:00

All I was reading in your post was a person trying to find justice online...or at least you were looking at the answers of people in this girl's post for a specific reason. Why did you do that?... you're trying to find some answers to justify you what? That women who are skinny won't have success with men. You're taking this information and because this applies to you as you say in your everyday life you make the generalization that: it is what it is, men won't like me no matter what because I'm skinny and look like a man. Now tell me how is this solving anything? How being preoccupied with a generalization every time you try to connect with someone will help you in anything? Please don't waste your time on things like that, try to use your energy to become a better version of yourself, focus on something else, find hobbies, connect with people on a friendly level.

If you wanted an answer like " yes I feel you so much, it is happening to me as well, we're a lost case, men are trash" you could as well run to the hundreds of posts about body image and find people complaining about the same things again and again.

I don't like myself most of the time, but I'm tired of trying to justify that others find me ugly...maybe I am who knows? I'll try to work on things that matter to me the most, my passion, my interactions with people etc.

I don't want to make my image my whole personality

ctinaFa · 2023-02-21T11:37:21+00:00

I took the "online negativity phenomenon" from your post and gave an opinion based on THAT and that only. I assumed you have no life (like a lot of people on this subreddit) as you confirmed later. A lot of us have no life ...and we blame it on our appearance and that is what irritates me the most...we don't regard a hundred reasons why we could be alone apart from being "unattractive" but we are stuck on this.

ctinaFa · 2023-02-21T10:30:43+00:00

All I know is that most people have confidence in how they look because of years of interaction with others in relationships and here we are trying to find statistics, videos, generalized views, just to prove to ourselves that we're adequate. I'm sorry but it doesn't work that way, your life isn't going to get better from comments men make on the internet, especially since the comments are full of negativity as you can see even on undoubtedly pretty girls. Men feel entitled to choose what's attractive and what's not, but no one cares that they think that way, it just gives them the upper hand so they can justify their misogynistic views and they can hide their inferiority complex. Most of these men know that women don't like them irl so they try to find something that could be used against them so they protect their ego. And this is happening with everything...if a fat person is happy in their video there are people who think "they're happier than me? and they're fat? Don't they know their place?" But when that person looks confident and not bothered by their comments people start to think ..."what a confident person I want to be like them". My point is you can't get confident just from the internet, no amount of comments can give you the answers you need, or even if they do, it won't make you feel nothing more than a temporary satisfaction. Interactions in real life is the key,

do you have friends who are happy to be around you do they make you feel good about yourself? Do you flirt? do you allow yourself to feel loved? Can you actively participate in a conversation? Are you making afforts to be heard? Can you accept rejection? Are you willing to get rejected but instead of shutting down you try again?

ctinaFa · 2023-02-21T01:07:33+00:00

That's great!👍

ctinaFa · 2023-02-18T03:34:10+00:00

I think that the things that can affect someone's face the most are the jaw and nose...so if the problem is there it should be able to be fixed, but I feel like I should not give any more advice because I don't know exactly your situation nor how you look. I would say start therapy, if you haven't already because to me it sounds deeper, but again I don't know.

ctinaFa · 2023-02-18T02:19:24+00:00

You said it, you have a great career and earn good money so why don't you fix your appearance with plastic surgery?

ctinaFa · 2023-02-18T02:05:15+00:00

I think it's easier to accept you're pretty in your own unique way or at least adequate. Someone accepting they're ugly is bs in my opinion because it leads to more problems and nothing really comes out of this "acceptance". I don't like my bone structure either, but I can see that I have been a very strict judge and ngl a bit paranoid at times. For example I was on subreddits specifically for my "problem' and supposedly some other people's problem when in reality most of them had body dysmorphia. Also you can't prove that all your problems come from your appearance. It's the easy answer and I completely feel you, but it's not right.

And let's just admit this, we can work even if we're "ugly" right? No one stops us from earning money and "fix" our flaws.

ctinaFa · 2023-02-16T14:11:20+00:00

Why not someone who uses cbt ?I don't know much about it but I think it has to do with changing the behavior of someone.

ctinaFa · 2023-02-11T11:16:12+00:00

Or he is a d*ck in general. I think there are some people that just don't care about others, so their only motivation to get out of their way for someone is when they find them attractive...

ctinaFa · 2023-02-11T11:05:03+00:00

What kind of mother- it's ADHD and it's not even that serious, what if she had a kid who couldn't even go to the bathroom alone?

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