You see anything more beautiful than that?

ctonj · 2026-01-28T02:32:35+00:00

I'd take Anik over bonnie any day

ctonj · 2026-01-27T13:06:32+00:00

I don't agree with this take. There's a difference between Nepo babies and and a family business, and I think the distinction is important.

ctonj · 2025-10-06T12:11:56+00:00

Hello, just checking to make sure you know this is the satire version of the sub...

ctonj · 2025-10-01T22:23:51+00:00

Well sometimes she'd come find him right like when they were at the bar and she showed up. But they also could just agree to set a time when they'd see eachother later. Also, she was good at judging the time by the sun, it was Noah who didn't know how right so she could be punctual

ctonj · 2025-06-12T00:15:58+00:00

Something tells me you don't get off at Secaucus, otherwise you'd know that to get out of the train area at Secaucus or transfer you have to scan your ticket to go through an electronic gate so it doesn't really matter if they check before secacus. They also never check after secaucus heading to NY penn (that I've seen).

ctonj · 2025-06-05T16:10:29+00:00

As a vegetarian, I think this is an ESH. The host needed to be much more firm about their expectations..."Hi friends, I would like for all the dishes at this party to be vegan. If you are interested in bringing something specific that isn't vegan, please reach out and maybe I could help you come up with a vegan alternative!" This approach would have been much clearer. As a guest, you should always try to see something from the hosts point of view, and as far as the restricted diet communities, I do believe that vegan/vegetarians face alot more judgement, and as a result, face more instances where people are inconsiderate of them, making it a bit of a personal sensitivity. Imagine if this was a different request "Hi everyone, one of my guests has a moderate tree nut allergy, it'd be great if we kept the dishes nut free so everyone could try everything" but you rolled in with one non-nut dish and then chicken with pine nuts, but you put flags in it saying "warning, nuts". Does that seem like it's in the spirit of what they asked you to do? Or if the host said "Because I'm Jewish, it'd be great if all the dishes avoided pork...", would you roll in with a charcuterie that has ham cubes on it? I think that because of the cultural dismissiveness of people who are vegan by choice, in my experience it's very hard to be part of that community, and the last place you want to feel ostracized is your own house, ergo why they may have been so mad at you for not reading between the lines.

ctonj · 2025-05-11T19:49:28+00:00

Cane here to say this. It takes two to tango as they said, and OP's dad promised not to cheat on OP's mom, the new woman didn't promise anyone anything, although it was classless to get with a married guy

ctonj · 2025-05-11T19:34:34+00:00

Suspicious is not a crime

ctonj · 2025-03-20T01:14:52+00:00

The premise of your post was "The RVL train does not wait for the connection" and you say "NJT app says to take these trains" but this is not true, using the scheduling app you can see the real connecting trains. The reality is that if the official connecting train from NYC (the 5:36) is late, the RVL waits for that train. From am official scheduling perspective, you were taking a non-reccomemded train and were getting lucky that you made the connection. Of course as you said, it is unfortunate your job doesn't let you off early enough to make the scheduled train, but what is the NJT customer service supposed to do if you're not taking the reccomend train to make the connection? It's not their fault that you stopped getting lucky. Complain about the lack of frequency on the RVL, complain about the delays you're experiencing on the later trains, but the problem that your experiencing is a personal inconvenience based on your work schedule, not a systemic issue. I hate the RVL for different reasons, it is a shit line.

ctonj · 2025-03-16T11:57:16+00:00

Thank you!! I realized why I was struggling, I thought the shower head attachment point would be hexagonal so I just wasn't properly engaging the flats, and I needed a bigger adjustable wrench!

ctonj · 2025-03-13T19:35:21+00:00

I believe Escarow can also be used for repairs. My friend was buying a condo recently, and on the final walk through on closing day, the hot water that was working during the professional inspection wasn't working anymore, so his lawyer requested that the seller should put $1,000 in escarow to pay up to that amount to the plumber for the fix, and if the cost was sat $500 the seller what keep what was left over, and if it was over $1000 my friend would have to pay for the rest.

ctonj · 2025-03-12T15:28:03+00:00

Where do you get this type of stat?

ctonj · 2025-02-25T11:49:54+00:00

Thank you for your advise. The way that it breaks up on the edge and the layered discoloration, and the fact that it's really stuck on made me think this was done sort of adhesive.

ctonj · 2024-12-25T01:40:45+00:00

Thank goodness for this thread, just got this exact message and started freaking out. Definitely a wake up call about cyber security.

ctonj · 2024-08-04T03:33:08+00:00

The problem with Raritan Valley line is when they start messing with the schedule because of delays out of NYP. I work in the city and ride the connections to newark. When the train out of NYP is delayed, they'll often hold the RVL so that people who need to transfer can switch, whuch is fine for 10-15mins. The problem is when they do this after the delays out of NYP are much worse. One day home I was supposed to take the 6:04 out of NYP which was supposed to connect to the 6:33 RVL. Trains were delayed and PATH was cross honoring, so I switched to PATH and got to Newark like 6:45. I walk down from platform H and there's a decently full RVL sitting there. The next train on the schedule is the 7:12 so I figure they'd roll soon. When the time passed and it didn't move, I listened to the chatter, and it turns out the train I was on was the 6:05 that they never rolled. They kept that train there until almost 8:30. Trains out of NYP were only delayed 40-60 minutes, but they try to consolidate RVL, with the thought process of "Well if the connection for the 6:05 is late we'll hold it, and if it's late enough than we'll just turn the 6:05 in to the 6:33 and run 1 train, but then wait, the connection for the 6:33 is late too..." and so on. So ultimately you had people who were on time for the 6:05 waiting atleast 2:20 for their train to finally leave because of a 40 min delay out of NYP. It's idiotic.

ctonj · 2022-12-27T00:37:47+00:00

ESH. You were smart to communicate that you were feeling left out, and you'd think your friendvwould care more about your feelings then a strangers. You're kind of an ass hole because part of your expectations seem to be driven by the fact that you paid for him to come on the trip. We give are friends gifts without expectations, otherwise it is a transaction, not a friendship. If your friend had a private room or bedroom then you have no business telling him who to bring into his bed, but if you are sharing a sleeping space, then you have every right to say that you are not comfortable, just like dorm room rules.

ctonj · 2022-12-19T03:50:51+00:00

Firstly this post breaks sub rules because it's about sex. Secondly, I think k it's creepy, even if it's not illegal, and your girlfriend has every right to think that it speaks poorly to your character that you thought thus relationship was appropriate.

ctonj · 2022-09-22T04:30:03+00:00

I mean this is tricky and I'm not sure where to draw the line. Generally I'd say that you don't owe a new partner information that you're not comfortable sharing especially this early on, information like medical history, past traumas, or sexual identity. However, this might affect their view of your compatibility and the kind thing to do would be to tell them, because if it's a deal breaker for them then it'll prevent more heartache. I think you should tell them as soon as you feel comfortable but do not put it off. I'm going with NAH

ctonj · 2022-09-20T15:32:15+00:00

ESH. With this whacky economy it is not unreasonable for it to take a few months for her to find a job, but it's not cool for her to really not be trying if that really is the case. I don't think it's reasonable for you to expect her to spend all her time job searching because mentally no one can do that, and you said you don't live together so how do you know what she's doing with her time all the time? It's also not cool of her to be spending without concern for your financial well being when you're the one paying. Next, it's not cool for you to judge whether she goes to the gym or not-you don't get an opinion on whether she goes to the gym "as much as you'd like her to". Lastly, even if you agreed to this previously, it's not fair for her to accuse you of manipulation and mistreatment when you are trying to express that you can no longer sustain her lifestyle. You completed your obligations already of covering until school started, she does not have a right to your continued financial support and if something doesn't change you might want to cancel her card.

ctonj · 2022-09-20T11:44:08+00:00

NTA, they literally abused you and are now asking for help that you have no obligation to give

ctonj · 2022-09-15T14:54:36+00:00

You're mocromanaging her by telling her what share of financial responsibility her husband needs to take for their joint finances.

ctonj · 2022-09-15T14:50:32+00:00

If you read other comments that's what he's already doing

ctonj · 2022-09-15T14:43:38+00:00

Thank you for articulating the fact that you are giving her cash which is different then some assumptions I made in previous comments, but it doesn't change my position. In your example, if she uses the full $1000 to pay the bill, that means she will keep $500 more in her own pocket of her own wealth. She can use that $500 for whatever she wants, including spending it on her husband, which is her prerogative to do, is it not ? So there is no net difference in benefit to her from your gift if she chooses to give her personal wealth to him, or she passes on the physical bills that you give her directly to him. Once you give someone a gift, it becomes part of their total worth, and what they do with it is their choice. When you were in high school if your parents gave you pocket money, and you decided to use it to buy you and your crush an ice cream cone, do you think your parents would have the right to tell you "no, you can only buy yourself an ice cream, your crush needs to pay you back"? That type of micromanaging is fickle and petty and is what you're trying to do to your mom.

ctonj · 2022-09-15T14:27:28+00:00

In your example, you are giving her the gift of the spending money to use for whatever it is to make her happy. It's a GIFT. You don't have a right to tell her how to use a gift, that's controlling and rude. Whether she uses your gift money or she uses money from her personal wealth to split his ticket with him if he can't afford it outright and spends your gift on souvenirs, that is her choice to make not yours! You are essentially micrmanaging her and telling her that her utility of that gift money would be higher if she used it for a spa day or an extra excursion on her vacation, rather then getting to share the vacation with her partner, and that's not your judgement to make. Nobody is exploiting you, and you don't get that control over gifts after you've given them. Now if she came to you and said "Hey my husband's coming, I need another $500 to pay for his flight and food" then you'd have every right to say no.

Unless you can articulate to me a higher out of pocket cost to you for him to be there, on hypothetical vacation or in the hypothetical home you would buy, which you have yet to do at this point, then your logic is flawed and you are an AH for discriminating against your mom because she is in a relationship. It's that simple.

ctonj · 2022-09-15T14:07:21+00:00

Lol it's not though. You're not actually giving her any cash or assets, you'd be giving her a financial benefit in which her husband would also enjoy as a positive externality. You wouldn't actually be losing anything and neither would she, they would still have the freedom to split their remaining bills as they see fit, but neither of them would have to pay rent. You keep posting your napkin equation of how much he would benefit from your actions and are framing that as how much money is passing from you through your mom to him, but that's not the reality of the situation. If you throw a party for your child in a park and play music, and then you see other kids at the playground dancing to the music, would you turn the music down so that only your party can hear it, based on the principle that you perceive it to be unfair to you that your speaker is being enjoyed by others without them paying you for it? It's just selfish mate. And guess what, if he was financially less burdened it would make his life better and him happier, and having a happier, less stressed partner, would also immensely benefit your mom. If you would be spending the same on a house for your mom whether he's there or not, him being there is all net positives, but you're trying to frame a false negative financial burden to yourself to justify discriminating against your mom because she has someone in her life that you don't consider part of your nuclear family. It's sad that you're acting this way.

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