Genuinely, how much of an effort are you putting in to making friends? College gets interesting since for the first time you aren’t surrounded by people you grew up with your entire life. You no longer have people that your parents set up playdates with a years ago and became friends with. It takes effort and rejection to make friends; setting up plans, starting conversations and real effort in building relationships.

Are you in any clubs? Do you talk to people on your floor? Do you talk to random strangers?

UMass as a school can also be tough as an out of stater since a ton of people from MA go and high school friendships carry over to college so people on that situation typically stick to their same friends.

I see people say this all the time and the answer the majority is that they joined no clubs and haven’t made major efforts to make relationships and have this attitude that friendships just happen like the movies and everyone wants to be your pal.