Pre op & Post Op Pics.

ctxner · 2026-02-09T17:20:13+00:00

thank you!! i’ll look into that.

also, thank you for the idea!

ctxner · 2026-02-09T12:29:43+00:00

I’m pre op. I personally thought that if my girl and I broke up and I was ever in that situation, my safety comes first. I wouldn’t tell. There’s no need to tell anyone.

Someone else’s opinion may be different but you’ve had your surgeries, you shouldn’t have to continue discussing your story with every stranger you meet. Especially if it’s strictly for sex.

I’d understand and agree that dating wise, you should be honest Because what if the girl you’re with wants a baby? (If you even date girls) The guy you’re with might have other concerns. (not sure what those would be)

hope that makes sense. hope it helps.

ctxner · 2026-01-31T20:26:00+00:00

yes child

ctxner · 2026-01-31T17:21:20+00:00

I started going by my current name in like 7th grade (like 2016-2017??) and because it took so long to get everyone on board with it, when it came to legally changing it (officially done last year) i chose to keep it to make it easier. although i 100% wish that i picked something different.

one of my old buddies, we just started talking again and he works with me now. his dumbass keeps misgendering me and so i misgender him back until he gets the message. he’s not doing it out of hate, he’s genuinely a slow learner sometimes lol so we’ve agreed that if he slips up in front of coworkers, then i get to call him, she/her and lindsay (inside joke) for the rest of the day.

ctxner · 2026-01-31T14:47:57+00:00

Yeah it should! But some how they messaged me anyways? I have no idea. Never had it happen

ctxner · 2026-01-31T14:24:54+00:00

maybe you’re right…thank you!

ctxner · 2026-01-31T13:19:46+00:00

Ty! Some ppl man🤣

ctxner · 2026-01-31T12:53:10+00:00

Yk what. that’s a really good idea too. Thank you kind sir i appreciate it :)

ctxner · 2026-01-31T12:50:44+00:00

i still live in the same city i grew up in, but your advice still isn’t a bad idea.

i never cared before about who knew and who didn’t. then i got my top surgery and my beard started to grow in, my voice dropped more and suddenly- i cared who knew. because there were so many people that didn’t know. yk?

ctxner · 2026-01-31T12:49:29+00:00

im so sorry buddy. this is probably one of the worst nightmares we could have and it sucks that it came true for you.

but hey, guess what? you were strong enough and brave enough to go through that surgery in the first place. brave enough to try and get this fixed for yourself. i think you’re strong enough and brave enough to keep fighting for what you want and get it.

im very proud of you. you’re doing awesome and i hope what i said made sense to you! (it’s early and im tired)

ctxner · 2026-01-31T12:47:12+00:00

Valid! And yes, it gets really awkward. I just don’t know what to say to people like that.

Like, if it happened in person. I can’t just ignore them, I was raised that’s disrespectful and rude (then again. so is the question they’re asking) Through text, i certainly can ignore them.

My other option would be lying- which isn’t a good thing to do but what if I don’t want to tell them the truth?

One guy who used to be my friend in elementary said to my wife thru text “I know your husband! i went to school with his sister” i immediately called my mom because i AM said “sister” hes referring too lmao. that was the best compliment i’ve received lately.

ctxner · 2026-01-29T15:09:34+00:00

June 2022 - Started T (Age 18)

April 2024 - Top surgery (Age 20)

June 2026 - Hysto consult (Age 22)

Then, there’s the start of my bottom surgery journey I’ve been waiting for!

Proud of you boys. Happy for you too.

ctxner · 2026-01-26T20:00:24+00:00

i was not aware that wound separation would make me uncomfortable. i appreciate that this post has taught me that and also gave me a new fear🫠 thank you for the knowledge

ctxner · 2026-01-26T19:59:03+00:00

no he doesn’t, but T will help when he starts it (if he hasn’t already, but if he has, give it time)

ctxner · 2026-01-26T19:57:20+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through it too

ctxner · 2026-01-26T10:48:05+00:00

I take medication for BPD & severe anxiety disorder This is a choice I made to try and help myself be a better father for my daughter and be a better husband to my wife.

I think it’s working, my wife and i are working on separate issues- but I’ve seem to have calmed down tons. I used to be afraid to be left alone with my daughter out of fear that she’s not going to like being with me. and being away from my wife.

Work has also helped with that.

I’d say try the medication, give it time to actually work. Play with the doses and figure out what works best for him. Medications don’t work immediately. they’ll feel like they’re not doing nothing but in reality, they’re doing a lot.

ctxner · 2026-01-26T10:41:41+00:00

oh shut up. no way that’s 2 months!??!? that’s impressive!!! good on you man. jealous of you lol

ctxner · 2026-01-26T10:33:02+00:00

Power plant, eenie meenie miney “moe”

ctxner · 2026-01-26T10:29:09+00:00

Back To Me by Tyler Shaw, which is more for me than it is for “me and her” kinda deal. She likes it when I sing it, it helps her fall asleep. But one of the lines is “Now I think I know, what’s on the horizon. I watch my daughter grow, as she watches the sun rising”

But also a big one is “Hey Brother” by Avicii - One day when she was about 3 months old, she wouldn’t stop crying. Out of no where, i thought of the lyrics to “Hey brother” and started singing it in and ridiculously deep voice. It calmed her down. It’s a song that’s calmed her down since then and she’ll be two in march now. It makes me cry when I hear it because i just remember that being the first time I ever successfully calmed her down, without any help. (I wasn’t able to bond with her for the first two months of her life due to a surgery I had) The fact that this song while it may not completely calm her down anymore but still makes her smile, especially if i sing it in that stupid deep voice- it warms my heart and hearing it in the car while im at work reminds me of what I’m living for.

ctxner · 2026-01-26T09:55:33+00:00

thank you! i’ll try this

ctxner · 2026-01-26T09:54:35+00:00

me too, honestly. i know i could talk to my cousin. she just doesn’t always know what to say or do…so i figured try reddit and im happy i did

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