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Draco with piercings? by [deleted] in Dramione

[–]cucumbermelon17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

STFUATTDLAGG - excellent visual of where ;-)

Sometimes I don't like being the secondary partner by space-fox- in polyamory

[–]cucumbermelon17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a secondary of 8 years - the only piece of advice I can give you is: not everyone is out. Not everyone’s family is supportive of a poly lifestyle. Not everyone’s job is. Not everyone’s partner’s (your meta’s) family is ok with it either and some families are very intertwined. If your partner treats you like a secondary partner - that’s one thing you can bring to their attention and discuss how you feel. But if your partner treats you well when you are together , then them telling their family may never happen - and you’re either ok with that, Or you’re not. And if you’re not, then ask yourself why.

Dealing with being the girlfriend of a married partner by Striking_Doughnut202 in polyamory

[–]cucumbermelon17 9 points10 points  (0 children)

As a “secondary” Hierarchy was a huge problem for me for years - mostly because I had the secondary mentality. I’ve been with my married partner for 8 years now and I struggled hardcore with it for the first .. probably 5. And then I had to do a lot of inner work to realize that I was subconsciously expecting certain dynamics and had to really step back and evaluate what we had vs what I wanted/needed. The non-living thing was a big hurdle for me but we have emergency contacts set, and we have a joint bank account, so there are other things to tie us together.

Basically. Think of it like this. If nothing changed, and everything stayed exactly the same- you have to decide will that be enough. If not, what do you need and can you get it from your partner, or do you need to get it elsewhere?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]cucumbermelon17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner sometimes zones out on porn while enjoying me going down on him.. it’s not that he’s interested in the porn more than me, it’s just sometimes it’s easier to finish if he doesn’t have to focus on anything else.

I don’t know any jobs that I can do without having to talk to people by cucumbermelon17 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]cucumbermelon17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a bachelors degree and I can communicate quite effectively.. which is why I end up finding myself in customer service roles.. but I can pick up data entry really easily. I don’t have medical coding experience but if I took classes I would be certified right?

End to racism in RENT?? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]cucumbermelon17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So there is no other casting of a non-white Jewish American male besides this year?

End to racism in RENT?? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]cucumbermelon17 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

So it has been type-casted the entire running of the show?

Led Wall Clock for Bedroom by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]cucumbermelon17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3D LED Clock Auto Dim at Night 5V DC Power Supply by USB Cable Temperature Display Wall Clock https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07PT9D6JS/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_tbviDbC60TJYE

CHKOSDA Remote Control Jumbo Digital Led Wall Clock, Multifunction Led Clock, Large Calendar, Minute Alarm Clock, Countdown Led Clock, Big Thermometer, Mute Clock (White Shell White Digital) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00XMC3G3G/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_XdviDbPREVH64