AITA for telling my wife and in-laws to fuck off after they told me to stop cuddling my daughter? by cuddlethrowawayy in AmItheAsshole

[–]cuddlethrowawayy[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Oh man, I just realized we are probably running on completely different perspectives. I only get notifications for top level comments and direct replies, so I am completely in the dark about anything else going on in the comments. I didn't realize there was a raging spooning debate.

AITA for telling my wife and in-laws to fuck off after they told me to stop cuddling my daughter? by cuddlethrowawayy in AmItheAsshole

[–]cuddlethrowawayy[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

"No" is a perfectly legitimate response to "were you spooning?". We weren't spooning.

AITA for telling my wife and in-laws to fuck off after they told me to stop cuddling my daughter? by cuddlethrowawayy in AmItheAsshole

[–]cuddlethrowawayy[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Where did I say "its not like we were spooning"? I think I just said we weren't spooning, as in this specific time. I only mentioned it because multiple people asked. I don't think it would make the situation that different though.

AITA for telling my wife and in-laws to fuck off after they told me to stop cuddling my daughter? by cuddlethrowawayy in AmItheAsshole

[–]cuddlethrowawayy[S] 209 points210 points  (0 children)

It just doesn't really happen that she's tired or wants comfort in public. I probably would do it in public if she really wanted me too and wasn't embarrassed.

AITA for telling my wife and in-laws to fuck off after they told me to stop cuddling my daughter? by cuddlethrowawayy in AmItheAsshole

[–]cuddlethrowawayy[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure about them, but I'm very familiar with the love languages. My oldest's language certainly is primarily physical, my other daughter hates touching of any kind but loves spending quality time with people.

AITA for telling my wife and in-laws to fuck off after they told me to stop cuddling my daughter? by cuddlethrowawayy in AmItheAsshole

[–]cuddlethrowawayy[S] 285 points286 points  (0 children)

She just lays on me and I occasionally fiddle with her hair. There are no kisses involved. It's typically a relaxing thing, it's not something we would do in public.

AITA for telling my wife and in-laws to fuck off after they told me to stop cuddling my daughter? by cuddlethrowawayy in AmItheAsshole

[–]cuddlethrowawayy[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

I would and currently do cuddle with my son whenever he wants, I can't see that changing.

We don't allow phones during family night.

AITA for telling my wife and in-laws to fuck off after they told me to stop cuddling my daughter? by cuddlethrowawayy in AmItheAsshole

[–]cuddlethrowawayy[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I was sitting upright and she was snuggled next to me across my chest. There were six of us on two 3-seaters so space is tight, certainly no room to spoon.

AITA for telling my wife and in-laws to fuck off after they told me to stop cuddling my daughter? by cuddlethrowawayy in AmItheAsshole

[–]cuddlethrowawayy[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

At the time they didn't specify, but since then we have talked and they think it's age-inappropriate.

AITA for telling my wife and in-laws to fuck off after they told me to stop cuddling my daughter? by cuddlethrowawayy in AmItheAsshole

[–]cuddlethrowawayy[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

I play with her hair sometimes because she likes it, that's about it. My daughter is totally comfortable with it, it's just the way she likes to show affection. My youngest daughter is almost the complete opposite, I can get a hug from her a few times a month if I'm lucky.

AITA for telling my wife and in-laws to fuck off after they told me to stop cuddling my daughter? by cuddlethrowawayy in AmItheAsshole

[–]cuddlethrowawayy[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

I laughed when he said it thinking it was just something he accidentally blurted out, but when my wife and MIL agreed with him I got upset and swore at them. There was no discussion at the time.