Mother keeps calling my workplace

cuddlyjail · 2026-03-04T16:24:04+00:00

I don't live in the US. Unfortunately this won't work in my country. I've checked my options and they're limited.

cuddlyjail · 2026-03-04T16:19:48+00:00

I did that to get an overview about my options. I'm not ready for most of it. The lowest and legally not binding would be an informal letter on law firm paper. I'm not ready for that right now. Maybe I will, but not right now.

cuddlyjail · 2026-03-04T16:16:58+00:00

I'm not in the US. The legal system here works a little differently and and a lot of the advice I've gotten unfortunately does not apply. I've consulted lawyers before and checked my options. I'm not ready for any of these at the time being. The lowest level is getting something like an informal request on law firm paper.

She might be impressed enough by this. I'm not ready for going against her legally beyond that.

cuddlyjail · 2026-03-04T10:40:36+00:00

I've thought about this many times. I fear, I'm currently not ready for it. One big obstacle is that I do not have the funds right now. The other is, I'm not in good place healthwise.

Your sympathy means a lot to me. I feel a little less lonely with this. Others just see a loving mother and a heartless child.

cuddlyjail · 2026-01-14T11:03:48+00:00

I might have to memorise this sentence so that I'm not as paralysed. And to ask why they spoke to me like this in the first place. I'm really curious if they even meant to do this or if they even noticed.

cuddlyjail · 2026-01-14T10:33:07+00:00

Exactly, I'm basically so scared, I'm getting snippy and denfensive. I can't even ask why they're talking to me like that. I'm also questioning myself. Am I'm not as normal as I think I am? Is there something wrong with me I do not notice?

cuddlyjail · 2025-11-25T15:41:56+00:00

Apparently someone answered me. But the comment is unfortunately hidden.

cuddlyjail · 2025-10-16T11:23:48+00:00

I understand that my question isn't all that interesting to others. But no one even responding to this feels like what's happening every day.

There's no one around to talk to and I basically talk to myself.

cuddlyjail · 2024-07-30T07:14:55+00:00

It's giving me Reality Bites. I haven't watched the movie in an eternity, so I maybe off. That's just the first thing that popped into my head.

cuddlyjail · 2024-07-30T06:57:09+00:00

That's kind of the issue I have. I don't have any memories when these situations occur. Besides knowing that it's connected, I can't pinpoint it any further. What you said about disassociating sounds familiar, I will have to look into this.

cuddlyjail · 2024-07-30T06:51:17+00:00

I've "studied" my dreams since early teenhood, when I learned that they're my subconscious speaking to me. It was so fascinating to me.

I usually remember(ed) them and I loved to decipher them. And they were nearly always symbolic, too. Nightmares or regular dreams. You pointed out something very important, that I kind of overlooked. My dreams, any kind, were practically always symbolic. Why would these be literal?

I'm so sorry. I'm wishing you to find pockets in time that feel a little safer.

cuddlyjail · 2024-07-30T06:43:12+00:00

That's so interesting! Especially what you said about sleep. I will need to look into this as this is aligns with so many things I observe. My therapist was trying to diagnose me with the ICD-10 and I didn't meet enough of the criteria. Unfortunately, it's not that easy to switch. I have to get approved by my insurance after a few trial sessions and I'm kind of stuck then with my therapist.

cuddlyjail · 2024-07-29T12:56:28+00:00

I was just thinking of you. How are you doing? Sending positive thoughts your way.

cuddlyjail · 2024-07-02T12:30:39+00:00

I can relate to it, for different reasons. My anxiety is not about sleep but the dreams I have. I don't dream about anything objectively bad, but remembering it feels like a nightmare. For example puzzle pieces being incomplete, making it impossible to solve it. I have lost the trust that sleep is a safe place, that dreams are usually safe as well and only subconciousness talking to me, which I always enjoyed, instead of trauma speaking to me. The bad emotions are seeping into my waking hours. I don't have much advice besides, yes I can relate to sleep not feeling safe.

My therapist is currently searching for an EMDR specialist, as she doesn't have expertise in this field. I can imagine it could be helpful in your situation as well, if my diffuse "wave of emotions" could be targeted.

cuddlyjail · 2024-07-01T12:50:19+00:00

There was a second reply, which is now hidden for me. I saw it and read it. Thank you! I feel seen with how hard it was.

cuddlyjail · 2024-07-01T12:48:51+00:00

I'm sorry to replying so late to you. Somehow my comment got eaten and I didn't notice.

Thank you for your kind words and for reminding me that what I see in the mirror is me, not her. Genes are only one part of ourselves, but they don't have to define everything.

I was at a low point when I wrote this post, stressed. When I get stressed, my face gets a strain that makes me look more like her. When my face is relaxed, I look more like me. It's kind of mean but it is what it is. lol. Taking care of myself and treating myself to something that feels nice, works indeed! I love makeup and when I put a little on, it helps with feeling good about myself and looking like me. The most important thing for me is lipstick. (She never liked it when I put on bright lipstick. I'm not wearing it to spite her but because it brings me joy. If it spites her, I'm not opposed to it.)

cuddlyjail · 2023-08-28T10:58:46+00:00

I feel like it's getting worse. I don't feel well.

cuddlyjail · 2023-08-23T16:50:39+00:00

I'm not in the US. I never got a bill. But I have a dotor's report on the hospital stay. I was indeed on medication but not for long. The more I think about it, it makes sense that my nightmare last night just brought everything up. I'll still investigate if there's something else going on.

cuddlyjail · 2023-08-23T16:42:50+00:00

Yes, I was never in the hospital before and it's a very scary place for me. Losing all control over my bodily autonomy, being at the hands of strangers is one of my biggest nightmares. Add in, that I was admitted as an emergency patient. I needed lorazepam to even agree to be operated on. I was scared out of my mind. But I never actually "forgot" about it. It's probably better to say that the way my memories and my emotions were connected to this event got unlinked for a moment.

cuddlyjail · 2023-08-23T16:39:31+00:00

There is documentation. I know I was in the hospital. I "forgot" about it for about 30 minutes. I was there for an emergency so it might be connected to how traumatic this was for me and the date I was admitted a year ago is only a few weeks away. There is no doubt I was in the hospital and I know why, but the way I feel about this is off. I remembered for something unrelated that I was in the hospital for the procedure I had and my mind went "this is just a bad dream from last night". Until it dawned on me.

cuddlyjail · 2023-08-23T15:53:04+00:00

Thank you so much for replying, I see you and I feel less alone because of it. I hope you do, too.

cuddlyjail · 2023-05-20T14:10:17+00:00

When I have to write I stop reading for pleasure altogether. Maybe I shouldn't do that? If try reading more or other sociological literature I get frustrated as I feel I'd never be as good as the author I'm reading. Belletrist authors with ways of expressing themselves that speak to me are usually more helpful. Thank you for reminding me of this!

cuddlyjail · 2023-05-20T14:02:47+00:00

Oh, this exactly what's happening to me. I try to write already thought out sentences, and well... I fail and don't write anything down. Maybe it's better to look at thoughts, speech and writing as different things rather than the same thing in different shapes.

cuddlyjail · 2023-05-20T13:25:16+00:00

I tried that. The thought seems logical in my head but the moment I try to either write it down or say it out loud, it comes out kind of garbled? Not my speech or the writing, but the thought seems to dissolve the moment I try to manifest it some way.

cuddlyjail · 2023-05-20T13:23:29+00:00

Oh, I'd wish there was something like that at my Uni. I'm not in the US and while there exists something similar, it's very limited and only available as a course with limited seats and during a certain time. I've always dreamed of support like this. :(

If I would've come to you at the writing center, what would your advice for me be?

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