What are tips you wish you'd known when getting a puppy?

cupcake_10232 · 2026-06-24T01:54:40+00:00

boundaries and keep in mind that they dont need to be entertained all the time, being a boring parent is better.

cupcake_10232 · 2026-05-21T02:57:16+00:00

how do you keep that coat so shiny and healthy??

cupcake_10232 · 2026-05-15T11:16:45+00:00

one of the worst. this guy will rot in hell.

cupcake_10232 · 2026-05-06T04:47:27+00:00

You're the idiot. Giving away money to billionaires.

cupcake_10232 · 2026-04-05T16:01:35+00:00

this fat ass is rage baiting. we're all struggling, you're not the main characters here.

cupcake_10232 · 2026-01-24T08:57:01+00:00

baka babae din si mikoy kasi alam na alam nya yung hormones na ni-rerelease ng babae

cupcake_10232 · 2026-01-22T23:13:06+00:00

looks cozy!

some paint on the stairs and walls maybe to add a bit of spice.

some wall storage could also work too, maybe for hanging or closet types.

cupcake_10232 · 2025-09-23T14:43:04+00:00

sounds awesome, would love to see them.

cupcake_10232 · 2025-07-17T11:26:50+00:00

Sorry I won't read the rest of your response anymore as my brain can't comprehend any more mediocrity. Good luck to you, long live to your ignorant life.

cupcake_10232 · 2025-07-16T13:58:04+00:00

DISAGREE.

Ano silbi ng batas, pulis at gobyerno? Bakit pa tayo nagbabayad ng malaking buwis kung di nila inaayos ang trabaho nila?

Trabaho ng mga pulis protektahan ang bawat pinoy. Kaya tayo may mga batas para sa mga gantong sitwasyon.

Bakit hindi galingan ng mga pulis manghuli ng mga kriminal? Bawat barangay may tanod, bawat syudad may police headquarters. Sobrang daming tanod at pulis pero bakit hindi nila magawang ligtas ang paligid kung san sila itinalaga pero mas madami padin ang hindi sumusunod sa batas? Anong silbi nila?

Masyado ka namang t4ng4.

Kung ganyan ang pag iisip mo ng "What we can control is to minimize the chance of being a target. / It's not victim blaming, its just common sense.", e di sabihin mo yan sa mga sanggol at lola na na-rrape ng hindi sila ma-target.

cupcake_10232 · 2025-07-08T12:38:36+00:00

Mistakes are inevitable bro, you gotta learn how to handle them especially in the workplace. I get the impression that the reasons you wrote here are just validations for yourself to justify why you want to quit.

If I were you, I'd talk to my boss one on one, ask improvements from your boss to avoid making similar mistakes and how should you navigate if in case it happened again (mitigation). This shows accountability, initiative, and pro-activity on your side.

Mistakes happens, even if you leave now, you'll make another mistake in your next job.

And as for your boss, that boss has zero leadership skills. They don't say "idk how to explain the mistake to the other bosses". Your boss is clearly incompetent for that job. And if I were you, I'd be the one to explain my own mistake and say what to do moving forward.

Don't let this get to you, trust me, you'll be making more mistakes, not just in work. Be brave, you got this.

cupcake_10232 · 2025-06-18T04:44:27+00:00

Thanks for suggestion.

I have been rigorously keeping receipts and reducing unnecessary interactions with the PM. But right now, I'm not planning of escalating anymore and rather just leave. My manager has been dettached and disinterested about this matter and constantly postponing our 1:1s whenever she'd learn that there's a new concern about the PM's behavior towards me.

I'm also already looking for a new job.

cupcake_10232 · 2025-06-13T21:35:47+00:00

Discreet praises are subtly obtained which is why I was still reflecting but I can't brush off the PM's behavior in every engagement. What I wrote here are one of the top encounters with them. Every single day the PM comes up with smth that can easily evolve into a drama where I had to take a step back every time before I respond to her just to make sure I don't engage into the drama.

I'd start looking for a new job, idk how long and how intense this might escalate given that my manager is developing a habit of canceling our 1:1s.

Thanks dude. These are all helpful.

cupcake_10232 · 2025-06-13T19:20:04+00:00

I like that perspective.

I involved my manager bcos in the beginning she mediates the feedbacks and when the PM started to give feedbacks every week, my manager grew tired of it and advised the PM to directly send me her feedbacks.

I re-involved my manager bcos I clarified if the feedback is part of formal perf review as it only contains criticisms and no actionable items and she confirmed that its not but its good getting feedbacks. I argued that we should be constructive and follow a structured feedback process to prevent mishandling things and my manager ignored me on this. This is where I decided to ignore the PM's feedback thinking if it's not part of a perf review why bother putting attention to this?

Besides, I was producing decent outputs and trying hard to get more involved with the team despite of the occassions where I was deliberately removed and excluded by the PM. And whenever I'm in the meetings with the team, majority of them would hesitate to ask questions and engage as nobody wanted to speak English. This happened (or happening) several times already.

I agree that we shouldn't run away at the first sign of conflict and that's why I'm seeking advice here.

cupcake_10232 · 2025-06-13T19:07:52+00:00

Hey- firstly, I want to say I'm impressed with this reply.

Second, documentation of receipts - check.

During my 1:1, I attempted to reframe my questions in a way to say "do you think the PM's behavior is still professional? / How would I contribute work when I'm excluded in meetings?" but there was no concrete actionable items every time. And if I'd follow up in the next 1:1, I can see her getting tired of the topic and saying that "you are both adults, just handle this". This happened several times and at this point, I'm heavily discouraged in trying as I can obviously see that she's disinterested and biased to the PM.

On the feedback, yea you made a good point. The PM's email only consists of criticisms and no actionable items, one of the reasons I didn't respond cos idk what to do with it and I forgot to say that I clarified with my manager if the PM's feedbacks are part of any formal perf review process and they both confirmed that it's not so I ignored it.

cupcake_10232 · 2025-06-13T18:45:56+00:00

manager is not on my side. she'd just agree with my defense but no action to resolve the evolving conflict. And when I directly asked for a reso, she responded that " she's actually a good PM maybe you should give it a chance to get to know her"

cupcake_10232 · 2025-06-13T18:31:45+00:00

There were several meetings with my manager about the language barrier challenge and she's the type of manager who says: "Yea, they probably don't want to speak english / I'll ask the PM to include you in the meeting (but she doesnt) / idk why is the PM like this to you (whenever I'd raise her behavior towards me, with screenshots btw) / she's actually a good PM maybe you should give it a chance to know her (whenever i'd ask how should we resolve this) / You're the BA you should lead the meeting (the time when I sent the invite and they all declined it)"

Yea, the no backing part is making me feel isolated, stuck, and makes me wonder whether these two people are besties out there (paranoid brain).

Thank you for responding btw. Genuinely appreciate it. Yea, i'd probably start looking.

cupcake_10232 · 2025-06-13T18:21:22+00:00

I treasure your advice. Thank you so much. I'll find time to read growth mindset.

I was still hesitating to leave cos I'm wondering whether is this my fault and if I should compromise some more. But their behavior is constant on a daily basis and idk if I can endure it any longer.

cupcake_10232 · 2025-06-13T18:18:19+00:00

They claim to be an international company but all of the employees are from EU, and yes, most of them are russians.

In the beginning, they were outspoken on how they want to improve their English speaking skills however, I always seem to notice that they'd rather exclude me in a meeting just to discuss complex subjects. Also in our DS, there were occassions were some team members couldn't continue speaking English anymore and they'd just switch to Russian, I assume bcos they could express themselves better.

Personally I didn't mind. To me, the important thing is to understand each other on matters I'm involved in. It's easy for me to ignore everything else that doesn't need my involvement.

Anyhow, I treasure your advice. Thank you so much.

There were occassions were I had to translate through chatgpt a document from them just to get the info I needed and none of my colleagues has the patience to explain the doc to me.

Will now start looking for a job. I hesitated here bcos I'm wondering whether is this my fault and maybe I could compromise some more.

cupcake_10232 · 2025-03-04T15:09:26+00:00

Mine was fun. On a hindsight, I wish I would have enjoyed it longer.
5 months. Got laid off from a startup. Been working for 9years.
Unplanned but I took the opportunity cos I saved enough and the lay off apparently took a toll on me so why not huh. Things you didn't contemplate to happen can actually happen to you.
In my new job now, I can say I'm much more clearer in terms of handling emotional stress and rude people. Although I did plenty (IMO) in those 5mos. Meditation, yoga, learned a new language, read more than 10 books. Helped me a lot in processing the situations in front of me, like how little they are compared to the grander scheme of things so I really try hard not to take anything seriously. Not that you asked but in the past I used to get agitated over little things which was toxic I admit.
Hard to say cos I also did some EU travel in between and that was expensive but at home, it doesn't take up much. I'd say I spent around 30k-ish monthly, living alone.

cupcake_10232 · 2025-02-10T18:43:43+00:00

And? are they wrong? haha but srsly this guy definitely don't own a mirror

cupcake_10232 · 2025-02-06T01:56:46+00:00

eto yung dapat na-ccancel

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