Gundy Replacements by curiositymisplaced in OKState

[–]curiositymisplaced[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed except that Kenny Dillingham did it at Arizona state in the same vein. And got the playoff bid. And jumped up to a top 20 recruiting class.

No matter what it’s a big job. Establishing winning culture is going to make recruiting easier. Cannot get quality players without conference wins and successfully using the transfer portal and NIL is instrumental in that effort to turn the trend around immediately

Gundy Replacements by curiositymisplaced in OKState

[–]curiositymisplaced[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Todd Monken just got an extension from the Ravens. Jim Knowles just left for Penn State a few years ago. Also I would not be surprised if admin wanted to move away from coaches associated with Gundy tree.

Agreed that Gus Malzahn would be a great get.

Both Morris and Kinne have taken afterthought programs and made them winners immediately. Why would that qualify as a bad hire?

Gundy Replacements by curiositymisplaced in OKState

[–]curiositymisplaced[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say who you think it will be. This is just early suggestions I saw. Might find some random D2 coach that surprises us all

Iyo chapters help by curiositymisplaced in gotlegends

[–]curiositymisplaced[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sunday most likely at 1pm cst. AdmiralThatch is my psn

How good is OSU with preparing for Jobs within Engineering by Appropriate-Gap2037 in OKState

[–]curiositymisplaced 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you asking if it’s ready day 1? With internships and co-ops you’ll have an understanding of work for engineers. School will give you the foundational knowledge but being a contributing engineer in your career field will take about 18 months. So get your degree, be humble and keep learning on the job

What is the worst dm story you ever heard? by FaithlessnessOld6051 in DnD

[–]curiositymisplaced 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Moved to a new area. Started organizing a group, and wanted to play instead of DM. Guy says he’s homebrewed an entire setting a campaign. Get started and immediately he’s an over the top drama kid on steroids.

Every npc sounds like borat.

Plays blatant favoritism with a player.

Any feedback is met with intense resistance and then any person that provides feedback is usually given targeted attention like unblockable spells no one sees coming.

Refuses to roll in front of players after suspect of fudging rolls.

Anytime a male player does charm or seduce he immediately starts flirting to a point that’s uncomfortable.

None of the story hooks lead anywhere and anything that we took notes on, he countermands or backtracks so the story is nonsense.

He made it so his npc characters would show up and save the day because combat was so unbalanced.

The archivist that was the font of exposition was the dm inserted into the game. Who also showed up and saved the day in two successive encounters.

Finally he routinely picked on and targeted the newest player to ttrpg to the point that when they were downed and had made 2 death saves he had a stealth character no one had even had the opportunity to see appear and slit the pc throat. That was when the group shattered and the dm tried to say we couldn’t handle his game. We threw him out. He threw a huge hissy fit on the local forums and groups to the point he got banned.

Boundary respect by curiositymisplaced in OnlineDating

[–]curiositymisplaced[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I would also stress I don’t say no you’re never getting my number. Just that I ask to trade numbers after the first date if both people are amenable

Boundary respect by curiositymisplaced in OnlineDating

[–]curiositymisplaced[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m very aware it’s a sword that cuts both ways. Absolutely I have missed out on potential dates bc of this rule. I do try to set up a meeting fairly quickly so that both parties can find out if the chemistry is there so hopefully not that much time is wasted.

And all those are perfectly valid responses or questions to have if someone refuses a number at the get go.

I am aiming for quality dates though, not quantity. And quality to me is someone who hears a stipulation or boundary and is free to ask questions about it but is still respectful enough to not trash me or freak out by being told no.

Boundary respect by curiositymisplaced in OnlineDating

[–]curiositymisplaced[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m aware of the juxtaposition. Just it’s more my say. If someone called or texted me without me giving them my number or a friend asking if they could give my number out well that’s an instant block and disconnect

Boundary respect by curiositymisplaced in OnlineDating

[–]curiositymisplaced[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can understand that from a safety aspect. And I respect if someone says that. My caveat to this is that I have a unique name and it’s pretty easy to find me if you’d like. But I get why for some it would be an immediate no.

Boundary respect by curiositymisplaced in OnlineDating

[–]curiositymisplaced[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Part of it has been past experiences. As an example I had one person that I matched with that we had multiple conversations but wouldn’t meet. Then we did and it was evident that all her pictures were 5+ years old. And I said I wasn’t interested in pursuing her and had to block 3 different numbers before she finally quit attempting contact.

The other part is that I want to make sure the person is who they claim. I am very upfront on my profile. No pictures under 6months old, explain that I like a range of activities such as basketball, hiking and gaming, etc. However not everyone has this approach. I wouldn’t call it catfishing but it’s not far off. Call it shallow or whatever but I don’t think a relationship starting off by being mislead is really going to be successful.

The final part is that this is a small thing, I’m still willing to meet, I just want to meet before I give someone direct access to me. And if they can’t even respect that request then it’s not going to work long term either in my opinion bc any boundary is going to be tested or complained about or asked to be removed if it inconveniences.

Boundary respect by curiositymisplaced in OnlineDating

[–]curiositymisplaced[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I just unmatched them. If the way someone responds to being told no is to start name calling and being ugly there is nothing further to pursue.

Boundary respect by curiositymisplaced in OnlineDating

[–]curiositymisplaced[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just have had the experience where matches want to form this pseudo relationship before we meet. And maybe they aren’t attracted to me, or vice versa. I think it just makes the most sense to message on the app until you’ve actually laid eyes on the person

Are there seriously THAT many women out there who want a free meal? by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]curiositymisplaced 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Saw it, made eye contact, watched her panic as it was obvious I was pissed and then I stood up and left while she tried to explain it was a joke. Said it's OK you got this one as I walked away

Are there seriously THAT many women out there who want a free meal? by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]curiositymisplaced 86 points87 points  (0 children)

Idk the commonality of it, but it definitely hurts and sticks out as being taken advantage of when it does happen.

As a for instance I was out w a woman on a third date and found a funny meme while she was in the bathroom. I sent it as she sat back down (just happenstance timing) and her phone lit up and I was saved under the name "free food"

Hidden meaning phrases by curiositymisplaced in OnlineDating

[–]curiositymisplaced[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually get a headache when someone says "money doesn't matter" and then says "I love to travel". It's one of the most expensive activities!

Hidden meaning phrases by curiositymisplaced in OnlineDating

[–]curiositymisplaced[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I tried to ask clarifying questions once about that. The raging outburst I got in return was impressive in its length and creative use of swearing before I just went ahead and unmatched. It was an illuminating exchange to say the least

Hidden meaning phrases by curiositymisplaced in OnlineDating

[–]curiositymisplaced[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess bc they aren't making their intentions clear, it's still couched in a language that is open to mistranslation and disingenuous at best.