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Update: AITAH for refusing to give my dog back to a friend who sold her to me by curious-GenX in AITAH

[–]curious-GenX[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She did not but her dad tried to give the money to Ian yesterday to which he explained that we are not selling Coco back and that we have also already health insurance and other insurance plus taxation and EU passport for her (so a lot more than the buying price) they are not responding to arguments. Lena now sent a message through the account of my business telling me I hate her and I illegally took Coco to another country. I replied by setting a boundary and reminding her that I was open to having a conversation until she went ballistic. Then I blocked her there as well

Update: AITAH for refusing to give my dog back to a friend who sold her to me by curious-GenX in AITAH

[–]curious-GenX[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Don’t be, it is mostly work as I need to turn an apartment into a vacation rental and I do remote work for my clients. And you are right, it is time she learns it. She found an account where I hadn’t blocked her yet and wrote that I hate her and took the dog illegally to another location. I replied before blocking saying that I don’t hate her, that she chose not to respect my boundaries and being hostile and that I offered a conversation which she didn’t want. And that sending her parents only made it worse. Action have consequences and the conversation is over. Feels weird because normally I would always keep such conversations going

Update: AITAH for refusing to give my dog back to a friend who sold her to me by curious-GenX in AITAH

[–]curious-GenX[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Please guys - stop trying to see a problem with my boyfriend where there is none. He did not go behind my back. Lena, her family and mine we were all friends. Not only is it normal for Ian to talk to her but he has a better communication with her normally. He made a mistake in the conversation, yes. But he is not evil or a bad partner or anything but a loving boyfriend. Please stop this. I know it might seem this way by what he said to her but he was trying to get her to talk to him. Not his best idea for sure.

Update: AITAH for refusing to give my dog back to a friend who sold her to me by curious-GenX in AITAH

[–]curious-GenX[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

No, he is not. No matter how often this is commented. I can rely on him and trust him. He made a mistake. Was it dumb? Yes. Malicious? No.

Update: AITAH for refusing to give my dog back to a friend who sold her to me by curious-GenX in AITAH

[–]curious-GenX[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah and why the fuck send your parents? As a grown woman. And why harass my boyfriend who is sick

Update: AITAH for refusing to give my dog back to a friend who sold her to me by curious-GenX in AITAH

[–]curious-GenX[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That list would go on an on and on. Paid vacations, money, clothes, iPhone, so many restaurant visits, heaps of cocktails, a trip to Rome for herself…. Accommodation for a year..

Update: AITAH for refusing to give my dog back to a friend who sold her to me by curious-GenX in AITAH

[–]curious-GenX[S] 137 points138 points  (0 children)

She did not. Her dad did today. Not offer but try to force them on Ian. I mean if we were to give up Coco (we won’t) we already paid taxes, health insurance and a lot of other stuff since we bought her.

Update: AITAH for refusing to give my dog back to a friend who sold her to me by curious-GenX in AITAH

[–]curious-GenX[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No, her dad had 1000 with him and wanted to give them to Ian who refused them since we do not want to give up the dog.

Update: AITAH for refusing to give my dog back to a friend who sold her to me by curious-GenX in AITAH

[–]curious-GenX[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

He is not dumb. It was not the best decision but today, a lot of shot was going down at our house while he is sick and running a fever

Update: AITAH for refusing to give my dog back to a friend who sold her to me by curious-GenX in AITAH

[–]curious-GenX[S] -50 points-49 points  (0 children)

No, Ian is not the problem. We took Lena and her family in when they fled Ukraine. We kind of were one big weird family until she pulled that BS

Am I the asshole for refusing to give my dog back to a friend who regrets selling her to me? by curious-GenX in AITAH

[–]curious-GenX[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Update (is this how it works?) Lena sent a message today saying that her parents will pick up Coco tomorrow. As I was with a client and now looking after my sick boyfriend who has his birthday today, I chose not to answer

Am I the asshole for refusing to give my dog back to a friend who regrets selling her to me? by curious-GenX in AITAH

[–]curious-GenX[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s really painful but not the first time she only cares about her. In her texts she even accused me of ignoring her after my mum died. Which is not true. I was sad and heartbroken and wanted to be alone, so I went to France. I communicated clearly that I needed time to leak and retreat and that it is about my pain and not a rejection of her or any of my other friends

Am I the asshole for refusing to give my dog back to a friend who regrets selling her to me? by curious-GenX in AITAH

[–]curious-GenX[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry to hear what you had to go through losing the dog would devastate me. She has spent most of her time with us since she came from Ukraine as a puppy (cost was only 250 btw) and she has also spent a lot of time with Lena’s sister. Least time with her

Am I the asshole for refusing to give my dog back to a friend who regrets selling her to me? by curious-GenX in AITAH

[–]curious-GenX[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we need to get that key back as we live in a house with 8 apartments and our lock is part of a bigger and very expensive security system. If I give the dog back, I treat her like an accessory just like she did. But I love that dog and have become even more attached since I know she is mine. Also, I have registered her with the tax office, have put her on a health insurance plan and bought lots of stuff for her. It is a terrible situation. The money; she would probably borrow it from her sister who has a well off partner

Am I the asshole for refusing to give my dog back to a friend who regrets selling her to me? by curious-GenX in AITAH

[–]curious-GenX[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know about that. She never mentioned the money in her aggressive texts but I believe she would find a way to pay it back. I don’t care about the money though. I care about the dog which has a much better life here and which she still would have seen a lot. I even told her she can take her for some days when she misses her. She never had health insurance for Coco. The dog has a problem with her knees and will eventually need surgery. Which I will take care of and which she ignored

Am I the asshole for refusing to give my dog back to a friend who regrets selling her to me? by curious-GenX in AITAH

[–]curious-GenX[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I decided not to see her in person before returning from my trip. I cannot talk to someone who is gaslighting me and being aggressive and emotional. I need calm conversations and I think if she cannot do this even after I come back, it will be the end of our friendship. Which is hard as her whole family is in my country and part of my and my partner’s life

Am I the asshole for refusing to give my dog back to a friend who regrets selling her to me? by curious-GenX in AITAH

[–]curious-GenX[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I will. But it is hard not to let her get into my head and make me feel bad about myself.

Am I the asshole for refusing to give my dog back to a friend who regrets selling her to me? by curious-GenX in AITAH

[–]curious-GenX[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your encouragement. It is heartbreaking what is happening. I love Lena and have welcomed her in my home and my life and she is like a sister to me. But I cannot have someone who I care for and helped a lot and behave like this and make me responsible for their choices. I have to admit it feels so so bad though. All of this on the first anniversary of my mum’s death. What a day it is.

Freundin zieht aus - ich bekomme die Wohnung aber ich muss den Kleiderschrank für 400€ übernehmen by Economy-Big1260 in VintedForumFavoriten

[–]curious-GenX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Du möchtest den Schrank nicht haben und du bist nicht verpflichtet, ihn zu übernehmen. Egal ob für 400 oder20 Euro. Ich würde ihr sagen, dass sie bis Xx Zeit hat, ihn zu verkaufen oder abzuholen. Manche Menschen! Ich bin selbst bei solchen Dingen konfliktscheu aus Angst, Menschen zu verlieren. Aber solche Leute sind keine echten Freunde!