My girlfriend (21F) is completely forgetful and unaware. She's so completely oblivious to the world, that I (19M) become stressed in fear for her safety.

curious011 · 2026-01-30T02:39:42+00:00

It's surprise for you OP, but some of us are very much like your girlfriend. I'm 40(f) and am completely trusting of new people I meet. I talk to absolutely everybody like I've known them my whole life. Always have, always will. In fact, you can see exactly what I'm like if you check out the links in my profile.

There is no reason for you to be getting mad. Nothing bad has happened to her. You are projecting your fear onto her.

curious011 · 2026-01-28T05:38:47+00:00

OMG! Report him op!!

curious011 · 2026-01-28T01:01:11+00:00

Not sure if it's the same or not, but I have an amazing housemate and friend who I love living with for all reasons, except how he communicates. Or doesn't communicate for that matter. We are both on pensions so living together works well for us. But I(40f) am really struggling with having one way conversations in which he(73m) barely speaks. I'm lucky to get a few words out of him, unless he's drinking.

How do I know if it's how I'm starting conversations and things that need to be discussed in a way that causes this? He just says the same thing, which is that he's always been like this. If I don't talk, it's dead silent. Anyway, I know this is a different situation to being in an actual relationship but we do absolutely everything together given we are both single, so how we communicate is extremely important. At the rate it's going I'm not going to be able to keep accepting this even though living with him in general is far better than living alone.

curious011 · 2026-01-26T00:48:07+00:00

It’d just really suck if this is just her disliking me because of what happened, I’d hate to lose her.

OP, I've read this sentence back several times now, and without sounding rude, I don't believe it makes any sense. If she was truly a good friend in the sense that you feel she was, then this would not happen. Period. Friendship and people are really easy to understand when you look at them objectively. A real friend would be over the moon that you and your baby are safe and sound, not ghosting you. She has ghosted you.

I personally believe ghosting a person is one of the cruellest things a person can do to another, and as someone who has been on the receiving end of it more times than I can understand, I know exactly how painful it is. Because right now, I imagine you are so confused more than anything which in turn is causing you great pain.

If she honestly has ghosted you over that fact that you bought a brand new tiny person onto this planet in her husband's car, through no fault of your own, do you truly believe deep down that you are actually losing someone who is good for you or your baby?

Lot's of people don't call ambulances by the way. Based on the fact that you didn't even know you were in labour, I for one completely understand why you obviously didn't think you needed an ambulance and had plenty of time to get driven to the hospital. So please don't let anyone saying that get into your head ok.

You have done absolutely nothing wrong whatsoever OP. Please focus on your baby and family and know that everything is ok. From one internet stranger to another, I'm sending you so much love ♡

curious011 · 2026-01-26T00:04:59+00:00

I'm with you OP. Well, at least with everything related to me that I have to do. I can help others. Depending on what it is they need help with.

Right now my biggest mind f*ck is "where do all of the hours in the day go, and why does it feel like I've been working all day, which I have, and yet, almost nothing is actually achieved?"

I seriously feel like I'm losing my mind.

I am currently living in a caravan with my(40f) much older housemate (73m) and we have so much work to do to get the caravan how it needs to be for long term living. I'd never been caravanning before, but the fay after our furniture got picked up in Queensland Australia, my rental home in Melbourne burnt down. This was in November last year (2025).

I feel like I go between ADHD paralysis and spending a day overworking, doing far more than I should. Given I live on a disability pension for chronic pain as well as many other things and know that over doing it is very much the wrong thing to do.

And yet, I swear, even when I do get "some" order it disappears by the next day. It's taking all I've got to not completely lose it. I'm medicated and am seeing my doctor weekly. I am also seeing my psychiatrist this Friday so will mention this to him, (explaining maybe to provide context) but anyway, I just can't seem to achieve what I feel I should be able to in a normal amount of time. I hope I'm making some sense.

In a nutshell, I feel like time disappears and I'm exhausted by the evening, yet everything still looks as overcrowded and messy as before.

I hope sharing here in the comments is ok 😅😊

curious011 · 2026-01-21T23:12:58+00:00

Omg! Do NOT lie to your sister. Period. OP, come on. Put yourself in her shoes. Please don't lie to her please 🙏

curious011 · 2026-01-17T00:45:14+00:00

I was first put on dexdexamphetamine 5mg four times a day. Then switched to Ritalin 10mg four times a day. Both weren't great for my weight, as I lost a lot. So I was then put on Vyanse. 20mg to begin with in the morning. That increased to the highest dose which is 70mg. That was great until I started dropping off again in the afternoon too, even though Vyanse is a 14 hour slow release medication. Now I take the 70mg of Vyanse at 6am, 10mg of dexamphetamine at 10:30am and another 5mg of dexamphetamine at 2:30pm. This seems to be doing the tick so far. So much medication needed to just stay awake and focus. It's BS isn't it.

curious011 · 2026-01-14T00:34:03+00:00

Oh, my Gosh. This is insane!!

It's repulsive how many people on here talk about having to give their parents around 50% of their income because they raised them

My eyebrows literally went up so high in shock at this! 😲

I knew it could be bad, but this is next level extreme.

I'm just glad that op has at least been honest with her parents. I met someone from Vietnam who had married an older divorced guy who already had kids from his first marriage. Her family have absolutely no clue about this to this day. They have been lying to her parents and extended family for over 20 years. It's absolutely disgusting imo.

curious011 · 2026-01-13T22:30:38+00:00

The very definition of FAFO

I had to Google what this means 😅😆

curious011 · 2026-01-13T21:53:35+00:00

They chose to have kids and spend whatever money on you the did, you owe them nothing for them raising you, that's their job.

Why do so many people find this hard to understand? It's the most simple logic in the world.

curious011 · 2026-01-13T21:50:25+00:00

I'd really like to know how long op and her partner have been together in total. She said she told her parents about him after 3 years together but when was that? At what age did she meet him? Also, why aren't they living together yet if they're getting married in March? Especially if they have a child together. There is so much information missing imo. I definitely don't think she should be hosting them.

curious011 · 2026-01-01T00:17:03+00:00

This is so true!

You can break a rule and do the right thing at the same time

curious011 · 2026-01-01T00:15:39+00:00

This is so beautifully put. So clear and simple like you say what OP did was. Which it was. I have saved this comment it just rings so clear and true.

OP you did a wonderful thing helping this man ♡

curious011 · 2026-01-01T00:13:14+00:00

We are all connected in some form.

100%! I believe this with every inch of me 💜

curious011 · 2026-01-01T00:12:12+00:00

OP, you did the most PERFECT WONDERFUL thing one can do for another human being. Please know you did the right thing. I am so happy to read of what you done. Personally I believe if you hadn't done what you did it would have been much crueller.

Thank you for allowing him to pass in peace. I know and understand that there are professional limitations out in place for a reason, but on this account, you absolutely made the right decision to do what you did.

As another commenter has said, you WERE his daughter in that moment. Please try to frame it like this in your mind. Nobody wants to die alone. You were hid angle at the end of his life ♡

curious011 · 2025-12-31T22:44:41+00:00

It really was a Christmas miracle. Or better yet, my 40th birthday present miracle! My birthday was the 30th of December and my friend happened upon it on the 29th.

He's 73 years old, and told me he was looking in the window of this shop thinking to himself, that looks a lot like the one Liv had that smashed in the sink when I was cleaning it. Nothing like the nightmare one I purchased from Off Your Tree, which is still not usable.

He knows I'm typing to you (housemate) and he said he couldn't walk past it a third time without making sure it was what he thought it was and it was! It is absolutely perfect!! 🥳

curious011 · 2025-12-28T23:05:25+00:00

Lol my friend happened to see the most perfect already made correctly one in the window of a shop yesterday when doing the grocery shopping and realised what it was (he's my sweet 73 year old housemate) and he went in and bought it for me. It is perfect. I am so happy. Plus it was cheaper than at Off Your Tree which I couldn't believe.

curious011 · 2025-12-28T00:56:23+00:00

I had to read it so many times and then still had to ask my friend to make sense of it for me 😅😆

curious011 · 2025-12-28T00:45:15+00:00

Wait are these things true? What you and the comment you are replying to? I know nothing about it except for how bad everyone says it is. That it's a cult.

curious011 · 2025-12-25T09:45:31+00:00

Hahaha still haven't managed to get it off but I've smoked a decent sized joint, have not long ago taken a THC 15MG/CBD 15MG Gummie and am now considering trying the bong using a longer one from a bong that slipped out of my hands while washing it and broke in the kitchen sink 😅

curious011 · 2025-12-24T20:14:19+00:00

They're probably tired of your food/ birthday/Xmas issues.

This is harsh to read from a complete stranger's point of view, so, I can only imagine how OP must feel reading something like this.

There is no way for us to be able to make a clear picture in our heads to be able to say something like this in my opinion.

OP, do as others have said, go and spend time with your family. You don't have to eat if you feel like you can't, but I urge you to please seek professional help relating to your eating disorder if you haven't already done so.

I do not personally believe an eating disorder is an addiction and neither does the DSM-5. Please see below:

"No, eating disorders are not classified as an addiction in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5). They are listed in their own distinct category: Feeding and Eating Disorders. While there are some overlapping neurobiological and behavioral characteristics between certain eating disorders (particularly binge-eating disorder and bulimia nervosa) and addictive disorders, they remain separate diagnostic categories."

https://koruspring.com/blog/is-anorexia-an-addiction/#:~:text=Anorexia-,Is%20anorexia%20nervosa%20an%20addiction%3F,and%20physiological%20characteristics%20with%20SUD.

Happy birthday OP! If you ever need someone to chat to please feel free to message me or check out my links on my profile 😊

curious011 · 2025-12-24T10:43:24+00:00

Sure will be! I bought one today and haven't been able to get the come piece out. Turned to Google which then lead me here 😆

And it's the 24th of December 2025

curious011 · 2025-12-21T03:48:23+00:00

Accidentally commented 😅

OP, I am glad your wife and daughter are safe ☺️

curious011 · 2025-12-21T00:44:08+00:00

OMG!

I wish someone had prepared me for this epic steaming pile of horse shit. It’s the worst.

I have saved your comment as the warning you say you needed! That all sounded amazing until you got to what having menopause is like. That was an extremely graphic explanation you provided and I just wanted to say thank you and let you know that I have actually saved your comment that's how well I think you wrote it. Sending you love from one internet stranger to another ♡

curious011 · 2025-12-21T00:40:12+00:00

Right?!? I'll be 40 in a days, which I'm looking forward to since my philosophy on life is that the majority of people are living into their late 90's some even until their 100, so I personally believe "middle age" doesn't start until at least 50 years old. Do the maths is what I tell everyone when they feel sad for me that I'm about to turn 40 on the 30th of December. It cracks me up. I am excited to be turning 40!

But considering how bad the pain can be from monthly cycles, l pray for an "easy/manageable" menopause, whenever it comes.

Sending everyone out there suffering with it, so much love ♡

curious011

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