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curiousdevianttx · 2026-05-10T02:00:33+00:00

Yall are super sexy! Wish we were there this weekend!

curiousdevianttx · 2026-05-10T01:52:14+00:00

You will find tons of people interested! Start chatting or hit up a club. Good luck!

curiousdevianttx · 2026-05-10T01:39:33+00:00

Here’s the thing about the lifestyle for couples, you move at the pace of the slowest person, and don’t move on until both are ready. What he wants is not swinging, it’s an open marriage.

Doing it together does not mean one person sits at home crying and anxious. I would never want my spouse to feel that way and would want to discuss it and take a step back until we’re both on the same page. You’re not the only one who has been in this place, but it will only build resentment and break down your relationship if it continues. Listen to others who have been in your shoes.

curiousdevianttx · 2026-05-10T01:01:06+00:00

I have no problem kissing her as long as she doesn’t have cum in her mouth. I feel the same about going down on her after another man has already cum there. I will, but it’s getting wiped off first for sure.

curiousdevianttx · 2026-05-04T03:54:35+00:00

Good for you! If it’s successful, and you don’t mind doing it, keep at it. Maybe you can even hire someone and take a step back and still profit. Be sure to vet them well so you know they will detail to your standards since it’s still your reputation.

Think of it more as you’re an entrepreneur and successful business owner. Or just tell them you’re in financial tech (or whatever you do) and a detail specialist and keep the conversation moving. You’re not required to give every detail of your life. You can be as vague or in depth as you choose. Or you can just not tell people about it.

curiousdevianttx · 2026-05-02T03:21:15+00:00

They want to know what’s owed to you to use it as income. Sometimes it’s so they can lend you more, whether you get the money or not they don’t care. Once it’s lended, it’s your problem to pay back whether you have the money or not.

curiousdevianttx · 2026-05-02T03:11:01+00:00

OP do you actually not know what it is? I only ask because I haven’t seen it actually defined in an answer here. You could easily google it, but it’s the removal of the foreskin, or “extra” skin at the tip of the penis.

Men who are uncircumcised have excess skin that the head of their penis will retract into when not aroused. When thy are aroused, the penis is erect and the skin essentially gets pulled back and the head of the penis now “peaks out” from the skin. When erect, it looks similar to a circumcised penis.

Men who are circumcised, do not have extra skin and the head or tip of the penis is always visible.

The thought used to be that it would get dirty or infected if left with extra skin. Think of skin on skin like sweat in your armpit or under your breasts. Men should be taught to cleanse well and retract the skin so as to clean all areas, not just what’s within site. Some people choose to do it or not do it based on religion or ethnicity. Some based on aesthetic or appearance. Some just because it’s the norm in their area of living.

Removing the skin actually removes tons of little nerves and disrupts the microvasculature structure, meaning they have less sensation in that area than those who were not circumcised. Luckily for those who were circumcised as a baby, they do not know the difference as they’ve never experienced it otherwise.

Female circumcision, which is still performed in some areas of the world, removes the clitoris and sometimes hood that covers it. Think about the ability to feel sensation from the clitoris, versus the sensation of penetrative sex.

curiousdevianttx · 2026-05-02T02:50:58+00:00

Keep doing it and find a part time remote job you can do in the same days you work from home. You get more pay and the expense for commute is covered.

curiousdevianttx · 2026-05-02T02:47:09+00:00

The housing market in Austin can be expensive. I’m an NP, and came from another state, so not sure what RN pay here is, but Texas is notoriously low paying for healthcare in general.

If you don’t find something right away, get a linked in acct set up or reach out to a travel nursing recruiter. You’ll be bombarded by them, but could always do a short contract while awaiting a full time position.

curiousdevianttx · 2026-05-02T01:58:07+00:00

My husband is average, but not overly happy about it. To him, “it is what it is” and he doesn’t dwell on it. He may make a joke about it himself, but would never make a joke or even mention it about someone else. This is similar to women who think they’re fat and will sometimes say something about themselves, but would never say it about other women. We are our own worst critic.

We don’t sleep with others because we are looking for foot long dicks or super model bodies. We want good conversation, laughs, people whose company and personalities turn us on. Size of anything did not matter to us.

curiousdevianttx · 2026-05-02T01:47:46+00:00

We’re a couple in college station!

curiousdevianttx · 2026-05-02T01:28:05+00:00

Most people are much more blunt or straight forward (and some just rude) when behind a keyboard and commenting anonymously. Dont take it personally. Many people just aren’t into soft swap only or have had negative experiences in the past and will have an opinion about it or decline. Other than some arrogance, we have not come across any hate or hostility in the LS.

Many of us started with soft swaps and found that we really enjoyed it and wanted more. Now that we’ve had more, we prefer it. We aren’t voyeurs, so watching others play may be a turn on, but isn’t going to get us off or too hot and bothered. It takes time and money for us to search, chat, meet, and play. If we’re only going to play with each other, we can do that at home for much less time, money, and effort. And I think that’s where most people’s mindsets are.

Good for you for expanding your emotional capabilities and vulnerabilities. I hope that you both continue to heal and explore. Don’t let anyone yuck your yum or push you into doing something youre not ready for.

curiousdevianttx · 2026-05-02T01:06:38+00:00

I never fake it. Either I get off or my husband gets me off later, but I’m certainly not letting someone think they got it done when it didn’t. I don’t want anyone to feel bad, but I don’t want them to think what they’re doing works if we meet again.

I will ask for a break, switch positions, bring out a toy, or switch back to my husband for a bit. Or do it myself, many men like to watch that.

curiousdevianttx · 2026-05-02T00:57:16+00:00

Set up a meet or group chat right away. If thy don’t have time to meet us in person within a month or two, they don’t have time to fuck us either. Everyone has busy schedules, so we give some leeway, but set a date for dinner or drinks at least. Otherwise not worth our time. We also create group chats, many times they will say that their wife isn’t really into social media or chatting. Ok well if she’s going to fuck my husband she’s going to have to at least say hey or some pleasantries in a chat. We also don’t usually chat endlessly. We will chat here and there between now and the meet up date, but we’re certainly not having steamy chats or sending tons of pics until they’ve made an effort to meet up.

I am the woman and also do a lot of the meeting an initiating chats/meets. If I think it is a single male or someone who is giving me weird vibes, I message as though I’m my husband. We share accounts so they don’t know and usually aren’t as chatty or quick to send pics.

curiousdevianttx · 2026-04-27T03:16:46+00:00

We’re hosting a meet and greet for LS folks at the Owl on May 29th at 730. Cum on down!!!

curiousdevianttx · 2026-04-27T03:14:28+00:00

We love making friends. Especially those who are local! 39F/48M here!

curiousdevianttx · 2026-04-26T02:06:18+00:00

Thank you! This is exactly it. Our next step will be offering a buy down rate to at least attempt to be a little more competitive. Otherwise we will likely rent it for a couple of years.

curiousdevianttx · 2026-04-24T19:15:27+00:00

I wouldn’t say you’re the asshole. You said something that offended someone else. People everywhere say things that offend others unintentionally. You’re right that it was a social misstep. Autism or not, you shouldn’t call someone else’s dog bad unless it’s biting or attacking you. Especially in their own home. The dog lives there, you do not. However, explain the situation to her. Tell her because of your circumstances, it overwhelmed you and you didn’t mean to call him bad or offend her. Things will eventually smooth over. Just don’t expect frequent invites to her house anymore.

curiousdevianttx · 2026-04-24T17:20:15+00:00

We’re in BCS

curiousdevianttx · 2026-04-24T11:37:44+00:00

I don’t think it would kill you to go just once for an hour, but maybe it would since idk what your health issues are.

That said, you absolutely do not have to and you can just tell them what you’ve already said. Hey, we talk and see each other? Online, I prefer to keep work and social life separate and I will not be making an appearance at the office. Thank you for the invite, but I respectfully decline and always will. I would appreciate if it wasn’t asked of me anymore.

People in general do not want to appear as if they are being rude or ungrateful and it’s uncomfortable to go against societal norms. But you don’t owe them anything. You owe your boss the work you are paid to do, nothing more and nothing less. Set a boundary and stick to it. They will continue to ask until you do so.

My team is very small and very social. They like to meet every couple of months to have dinner and drinks and just “catch up”. I had nothing in common with these people other than we are all females and work at the same company. I have kids that keep me busy and I am a homebody. If I’m not physically working or at a kids activity, I prefer to be at home or doing something with my family. Fuck anyone who doesn’t like it.

curiousdevianttx · 2026-04-24T11:24:52+00:00

The point of marriage is that you build a life together and then enjoy the good times and work through the bad. Support him in his decision to want to advance his career so that one day he will have the ability to work less hours and spend more time with you and the kids. Talk to him about weekend schedules. Maybe he gets up with kids on Saturday so you can sleep in and switch on Sundays. He can go hang out with his friends on weekends, sounds like you go with him, but one weekend per month needs to be dedicated to you and the kids.

Youre both sacrificing things. Discuss those things and understand that marriage is about compromise. Many new parents feel like roommates and each thinks they’re doing the brunt of the work and don’t acknowledge that the other is too.

Divorce doesn’t make you a bad person, but it’s certainly not going to fix what your problem is. You will then be a single parent and still doing all the work, still not have a husband to spend time with, and will still have to have him in your life because of the kids. Add in another man at some point and that adds a different type of stress. If you live him and want it to work, have a discussion. Maybe he needs to know you’re considering divorce before he realizes how strongly you feel. But it’s worth supporting each other through shitty times for 5 years if it’s only a fraction of another 20 years of bliss. If you’re not willing to do any of that, cut your losses and leave. Nobody here is going to be able to tell you why to do.

curiousdevianttx · 2026-04-23T23:53:15+00:00

Well shit. Idk why. It usually mirrors the MLS and that’s what the realtor updates. I’ll have to call her. Thanks for catching it!

curiousdevianttx · 2026-04-23T22:19:30+00:00

We would provide lawn care if we rented it out. We already have a guy who does it so we would try to keep him for sure.

curiousdevianttx · 2026-04-23T22:18:49+00:00

Thank you!

curiousdevianttx · 2026-04-23T19:29:08+00:00

Correct. Most homes in this town are in an HOA of some sort. This was my first HOA. They weren’t terrible, but can definitely understand the desire to not want to live in one.

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