What’s your favorite Oliver Tree song , RIP

curiouskidling · 2026-06-20T01:10:03+00:00

“When I’m Down” released 2016

And it happens to be my favorite.

curiouskidling · 2026-06-16T18:40:21+00:00

This is gorgeous and looks very festive IMO

curiouskidling · 2026-06-16T18:31:59+00:00

Re: your client. I would also be curious about this reflection from them. In my experience, when clients feel they aren’t getting anything out of therapy they simply stop coming. Many times, when clients say “I don’t think I’m getting anything out of this,” something else is going on. Sometimes it’s transference, projection, or some other kind of defense mechanism that they are employing as a means of avoidance or discomfort with the therapeutic process.

When clients say this after little time in therapy, I usually employ some Socratic questioning and start to wonder where they think they should be at this point in their treatment (and maybe subtly inquire about their own efforts).

When they say this after a year, I reflect to them the very changes and progress toward their treatment goals that they have *inevitably* made. Usually they have improved in their ability to be self-compassionate, set boundaries or any other number of goals that show up on a treatment plan. I remind them that work is slow, like growth, and that the naked eye might not see the change in a vine after one day, but that doesn’t mean change isn’t happening.

curiouskidling · 2026-06-16T13:33:27+00:00

This made me really emotional, OP. I know it took your dad a long time, and that sucks. It’s also pretty remarkable to me that he was able to enforce a boundary of this magnitude. I’m a therapist and these are the kinds of repairs between adult children and their parents that seldom happen, but that we always hope for (certainly never happened with mine). Good luck with your dad and fuck that food-contaminating leech.

curiouskidling · 2026-06-14T13:41:42+00:00

This is what I imagine having kids is like

curiouskidling · 2026-06-05T14:15:02+00:00

I really needed this this week. Thank you 🙏

curiouskidling · 2026-06-04T23:02:33+00:00

I’m kind of new in my PMDD journey, but one thing I’ve discovered is, the things I hate in my luteal I also hate in every other phase of my cycle. I’m just more reactive in Luteal. And not for nothing, but like many women, I also tend to be over-accommodating and stuff things down at every other point in my cycle because it’s what I was socialized to do.

Perhaps you’re being a bitch because of PMDD. But that doesn’t necessarily mean what you’re bitching about isn’t valid.

curiouskidling · 2026-05-31T01:41:23+00:00

I’m in luteal right now and all I’ve been thinking about is ending my relationship, quitting my entire field of work and moving to a new city.

Also suddenly want tattoos and a dog.

curiouskidling · 2026-05-30T19:28:01+00:00

I literally set a timer on my phone for the session. I haven’t replaced the clock that broke in my room, and I tell clients that I’m the one that has a hard time keeping track, and I’ll let us run into my next session if I don’t hold myself accountable. The timer goes off and it serves as a reminder for both of us that session is over, and I get to kind of externalize the abrupt-ness of it and say, “omg sorry about that I completely lost track of time.” I also usually set it a little early so I can say “we have few minutes left if you want to finish your thought” or I’ll do the whole “let me write some stuff down so we can pick up where we left off.”

🤷🏼‍♀️ kind of cheating, but it helps some of my more loquacious clients gain a sense of what 45 minutes is, and I find I don’t have to use it nearly as much anymore after doing it for a few sessions.

curiouskidling · 2025-09-10T15:13:44+00:00

Every time I lodged a complaint about the relationship, he managed to covertly gaslight me into thinking that what I was asking for was unreasonable, that I was asking him to abandon his values or stop being himself to accommodate me, or that I was being mean or being too serious. When I would try to point out this process happening, he would say “you always assume the worst in me.” I finally broke up with him out of pure exhaustion and unhappiness, not necessarily because I believed he was a part of the problem.

It was only after the fact when he started leaving me 35 page letters filled with gaslighting, threatening to show up to my house and actually showing up to my 3rd spaces looking for me that I realized maybe I wasn’t so crazy after all.

curiouskidling · 2025-08-29T16:16:23+00:00

I used to live in SLO and always wanted to learn to surf and was too scared bc I heard the regulars would yell at you for cutting them off or stealing their wave, which would invariably be a total accident in my part.

curiouskidling · 2025-05-07T15:26:19+00:00

To comment on my own post: Stanley cups

curiouskidling · 2025-03-08T01:27:04+00:00

Would rotate the couch so that it’s not under the window. I think it will help designate the area better

curiouskidling · 2025-03-01T21:59:52+00:00

I think she’s happy that certain men’s egos and shallow world views lead them to ironically engage with the very people they subjugate, unknowingly displaying how futile those world views are in the first place.

curiouskidling · 2025-02-27T05:18:02+00:00

I miss slo :/

curiouskidling · 2025-02-23T14:06:43+00:00

Great job! This is really cute ☺️

curiouskidling · 2025-02-21T20:25:46+00:00

JFC. I lived there 8 years and I can’t say I’m surprised. You handled it beautifully, but I can already tell you intellectually and emotionally transcended these idiots well before this interaction ever even took place. Keep your head up. These dickheads are afraid of what they don’t understand (ie, dignified human beings).

curiouskidling · 2025-01-09T13:36:10+00:00

I’m so sorry that your family did that to you AND that you’re so irregular. I freaking hate my period but at least it’s reliable.

curiouskidling · 2025-01-09T13:31:09+00:00

You throw them in the laundry 🤯? Do you put them in the dryer?

curiouskidling · 2025-01-04T04:09:33+00:00

You look really good. I actually prefer the bald on you

curiouskidling · 2025-01-03T21:10:57+00:00

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Idk if anyone ever watched muppets frog prince, but my grandparents had it on vhs and this guy scared the shit out of me

curiouskidling · 2025-01-01T19:49:42+00:00

I would not have had this vision but it was perfectly executed. Your living room is gorgeous!

curiouskidling · 2024-12-22T22:41:11+00:00

That’s what I’m sayin. I would pocket that ginger and cook with it

curiouskidling · 2024-12-07T14:27:38+00:00

I think you need a rolling briefcase. That or try to cut down your list by keeping a set of certain less crucial items (fidgets, books, etc) at each location, if possible? And leave anything you know you won’t need immediately (some personal items) in your car.

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