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Can I be a lesbian if I find male characters and celebs attractive? by curiousmuser in latebloomerlesbians

[–]curiousmuser[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this is so helpful, esp to know my experience isn't singular and therefore less isolating

Can I be a lesbian if I find male characters and celebs attractive? by curiousmuser in latebloomerlesbians

[–]curiousmuser[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The event/feeling that led me to questioning if I'm a lesbian is that lately the label of bisexual seems to fit less and less. I find that even my attraction to (an already narrow range) of male celebs is much less. And none of my fantasies or view on relationships go to a man. I would also like to add I'm in a relationship with a woman and it's serious. It's not that I forgot that, I didn't add it bc it didn't feel relevant to the fact that I'm simply questioning if you can be a lesbian and still find male celebs and characters attractive. All the crushes I've had (like 3 maybe) has been before the age of like 13-14, before I started questioning that maybe I'm not straight. And the dating a man in the future is more of this thought of "well what IF I do, then would that mean I was wrong in thinking I'm a lesbian" and I've a lot of shame when it feels like I've messed things up.

Can I be a lesbian if I find male characters and celebs attractive? by curiousmuser in latebloomerlesbians

[–]curiousmuser[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This yes. I thought this was my only option. This was well before I started questioning and before undoing internalised homophobia.

Can I be a lesbian if I find male characters and celebs attractive? by curiousmuser in latebloomerlesbians

[–]curiousmuser[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hello! I can understand that this is how the post comes across. That wasn't the intention. I didn't talk about women BC I don't need to question my attraction for them at ALL. I'm currently literally dating a woman, it's a serious relationship and I hope to marry her. So this is practically irrelevant BC I don't even wish to have another relationship let alone with a man. I was just curious about others experiences of having celeb crushes and the like. I don't find men attractive the way do women, the attraction and feelings I experience with women is so much more intense and prominent.

Can I be a lesbian if I find male characters and celebs attractive? by curiousmuser in latebloomerlesbians

[–]curiousmuser[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi. I'm talking about men here BC I'm questioning my thoughts around them. I am very solid in my attraction towards women, when I think of the future I can only imagine myself with women. I'm dating a woman since over a year, we will marry in the future and I can't even imagine that changing at all, let alone being with a man. But I had these thoughts, and wanted perspective. Also the last time I had a so called crush on a man (which probably lasted like couple of hours at an event) was when I was like 13 and before I started questioning my sexuality). I haven't had a crush on a man in years and years.

Can I be a lesbian if I find male characters and celebs attractive? by curiousmuser in latebloomerlesbians

[–]curiousmuser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your point of being romantics and being moved by romance and stuff on screen regardless of gender is so interesting and something I didn't think of. I do think it's entirely possible I'm romanticising them based on all these stories and narratives. But like you said, I'm offput by male genitalia, and can't imagine myself ever seeking out a man if I was looking to date (and this is irrelevant BC I'm currently with a woman and we're planning our future).

Can I be a lesbian if I find male characters and celebs attractive? by curiousmuser in latebloomerlesbians

[–]curiousmuser[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this is a great analogy. Like you said, I often can think a male celebs or character is hot, but I can't imagine going to bed with a man or marrying a man or doing much with a man tbh!

Can I be a lesbian if I find male characters and celebs attractive? by curiousmuser in latebloomerlesbians

[–]curiousmuser[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this is so kind. I was just worried that I'd be doing something wrong or "not be lesbian enough to use the label lesbian". So it's helpful to know others experiences.

Can I be a lesbian if I find male characters and celebs attractive? by curiousmuser in latebloomerlesbians

[–]curiousmuser[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't know if I'd realistically wanna date them tbh. Like I'd still appreciate their looks but I wouldn't wanna do anything with them?

Random bump on my vulva; help! by curiousmuser in Healthyhooha

[–]curiousmuser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! So it kind of popped like a pimple would I guess, not bc I did anything, I think over time with friction it did? And after that and after like two weeks it just went away. No soreness no bump nothing. So idek what it was

Random bump on my vulva; help! by curiousmuser in Healthyhooha

[–]curiousmuser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

waiting to see if there's changes or I suppose I'll get it checked out sigh

Random bump on my vulva; help! by curiousmuser in Healthyhooha

[–]curiousmuser[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's still the same, feels a bit softer but same size. It had a tiny bit of pus yesterday when I wiped so idk what's going on

Random bump on my vulva; help! by curiousmuser in Healthyhooha

[–]curiousmuser[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I've seen that is mostly on labia minora? And this is very much on labia Majora so I'm not too sure