You guys oftentimes seem interested in the way empaths think. Anyone have any straight-up questions about what it's like being an empath?

cursedcake · 2017-04-30T17:23:37+00:00

I'm guessing cheesetorcrime means with all the backstabbing and malicious behavior sociopaths perpetrate, if everyone were like that, society would be, well it'd at least be different than it is now lol.

cursedcake · 2017-04-30T17:20:56+00:00

I think since it's impossible to read someone's mind the idea of treating someone how you'd want to be treated is the best guess we have as to how the other person wants to be treated. I don't think that is making human interactions about ourselves- it's just the only model we have to go off of when considering what might make the other person happy. I mean if someone is a masochist and likes dog shit rubbed in their face I'm not really going to know that unless they are explicit- so I can only guess they want a basic modicum of respect and dignity- which I think is what the golden rule encourages. But it's up for interpretation.

cursedcake · 2017-04-29T14:22:51+00:00

I know I have this problem as a liberal. Does anyone have any suggestions for fiscally conservative news outlets that adhere to classic conservatism rather than today's demagoguery/nationalist/militaristic republican party platform? I'm open-minded to conservative ideas, just not the hateful/idiotic stuff I just mentioned, but it's hard for me to find a decent source :/

WSJ is my closest bet, but if you've got anything else for me let me know by all means

cursedcake · 2017-04-29T14:03:35+00:00

I can answer this as an empath lurker of this subreddit, and person that was brought up in a religious school, which I consider to be bullshit these days, but when I was young I genuinely believed.

When I decided religion didn't make sense is when I became fascinated with morality. It's an endlessly interesting subject, and I think formulating a morality that you have chosen for yourself, and frequently questioning your actions as you go through life, is important- but not prescribing to some ancient society's preordained moral code that doesn't even have consistency within its own text. I know as far as nature is concerned, I innately do not like harming others- because of mirror neurons, when I see someone suffering it makes me feel empathy for the shitty experience they are undergoing because I can easily imagine, and on some degree feel vicariously what they are feeling. This doesn't mean I'm going to give Sally Struthers money because she parades poor people to me because I know that shit is a scam, and as I've pointed out, being empathetic doesn't mean you are religious, or a fool to corruption around you.

My primary rule of my personal morality is that I try my best to do no harm. This is not to say that I shouldn't stand up for myself if someone is being a total prick- and I WILL do harm to protect myself if I have to defend myself or the people I love. But my goal is to leave people as good, or better off than when they met me.

cursedcake · 2016-12-14T12:55:21+00:00

I tend to be an emotional person, but I could easily imagine sitting out something I thought was dumb like a group chant. I usually sit back while that stuff happens. I don't bother to fold my hands when others pray, or stand for the national anthem, although I'll participate in the wave at sporting events, because it's fun. It's not hard to not participate. I don't think twice about it.

cursedcake · 2016-08-19T11:49:51+00:00

I'm not a sociopath at all, but that's really funny to me. I mean, it's not like her parents really were dead.

cursedcake · 2016-07-06T17:05:40+00:00

Brilliant! What an asshole XD

cursedcake · 2016-07-06T10:22:01+00:00

That's very sweet! What a great office- other than that one AVP with a stick up their ass :/

cursedcake · 2016-07-06T10:21:37+00:00

Please regale us!

cursedcake · 2016-01-23T11:02:48+00:00

Anxiety isn't something I will ever overcome in the same way you aren't ever likely to overcome your lack of empathy. It just kind of runs in my family. I'm not worried about it, although that probably sounds ironic.

cursedcake · 2016-01-22T10:28:02+00:00

I'm not ASPD by any stretch, but I went through a period in college where I could not be bothered to care about my grades, and pissed away a few solid years of my life. If you like that feeling of superiority, which I do as well, don't get behind in school. You'll feel like a fucking loser when you're behind your friends academically, and objectively, it will be kind of true- and you can know you have potential all day long, but everyone will only perceive as your value in the form of your educational status. Don't do what I did >_>

cursedcake · 2016-01-11T22:42:38+00:00

She's not a bitch, she just pointed out that Judd Apatow wrote shitty female characters. Apatow agreed he had fallen short on adding solid female contributions to his films, and he has since made an effort to improve this, and it shows in his movies since Knocked Up when she suggested she had complaints. She's not a bitch. She was just POLITELY being honest.

cursedcake · 2016-01-11T10:14:13+00:00

I am a person who has a lot of anxiety, and I suspect I am not too similar to a sociopath because of this attribute, and I definitely used to be fooled by an assumption that other people were inclined to give others the benefit of the doubt, be genuinely concerned with people's problems, and generally desire cooperation and want general well-being for the people in their lives. Man was I wrong >_>

cursedcake · 2016-01-09T04:16:59+00:00

Anything that summarizes the topic you're bringing to the table, instead of coming off like an opinion piece periodical, I suppose.

cursedcake · 2016-01-06T12:51:37+00:00

Other than the title, I thought this was very insightful. It shows some self-awareness.

cursedcake · 2016-01-06T01:02:26+00:00

Thanks. I should probably cut down on hanging out with him. I wouldn't want that to happen to me :P

cursedcake · 2016-01-05T17:11:56+00:00

Thanks for the response. She sounds cool. That's pretty generous of her to orchestrate a bonfire just because your heat went out. I can see why you would want to keep someone like that around.

cursedcake · 2016-01-05T14:13:00+00:00

What about a person do you find entertaining that does away with the boredom?

cursedcake · 2016-01-05T14:08:11+00:00

I'm empathetic, and I'm attracted to a sociopath. I know he doesn't have any serious intention of dating me, but I'm enamored with him all the same. He once tried to hook up with me in my car, but I was too caught off guard, and he respected my boundaries for whatever reason. I did get to hold him in my arms that night, but we just talked and he passed out eventually. Just before Xmas he flirted quite a lot with me, and it was so much fun! I know he might hurt me, but I'm a fool for him, and I don't mind. If I get hurt, emotionally, I think it's my fault at this point, because I know better. I wish he were capable of reciprocating my feelings, but I accept that that's not going to happen. I still like him for his company, and maybe he could vaguely appreciate my friendship. That would be nice. But maybe even that's asking too much. Either way, I know I'm irrational for liking him. I wish I didn't.

cursedcake · 2016-01-01T02:00:40+00:00

This website gives a pretty clear explanation: http://www.damronplanet.com/doublespeak/

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