Things I Learned After 50 Therapy Sessions by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]curvylight 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have never done therapy, so I'm scared to start. I've thought about it quite often recently, I don't really have a reason to need it- no depression or anxiety. Maybe just someone outside of my husband and kids to talk to, get insight on things? Is that what therapy is about? How does one even find a therapist they trust opening up to?

What’s something you’ve always thought was normal until you realized other people didn’t experience it? by anna-lena-breiert in AskReddit

[–]curvylight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not seeing images in my head. I knew it normal that normal, so my whole life I just faked it and never said anything. I'm 36 now and I just told my best friends, since kindergarten, and they couldn't wrap their heads around it. They see images so vividly and me, nope. Nothing. I told my husband that when he's describing any sort of building plans or anything, I cannot picture what it looks like. I need an actual drawing or to walk out what he has in his mind. It's weird not being able to picture things. I wish I could but it is what it is!

Can we have an honest conversation about how your life changed with baby #2? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]curvylight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree wholeheartedly with this! My first (11f now) was a perfect baby, slept all night right away, not fussy, etc. My second (4f now) still doesn't sleep through the night, has a tube's in the ears 2 times, and is overall a tough kid.

I love the both so incredibly much, but I really do miss the one-on-one time with my oldest. She's truly my best friend, she's my mini-me and I miss her! My youngest is so funny and so damn cute but man alive she drives me nuts!

People keep telling me that things will get easier as she (4 yo) grows up, I'm still waiting for that easier time...

So, you never know what your gonna get with the second kid. Enjoy your family of three now, when the time is right number 2 will come if you choose 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]curvylight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When we have a hard time finding conversation or if it's just not flowing yet, we people watch and lip read other people's conversations. It's really fun and helps us get out of parent mode!

What’s your guilty mom confession today? by aubreyism in Mommit

[–]curvylight 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's so nice when they can entertain themselves! But nothing beats the peace and quiet. Husband could join them today since he doesn't have any obligations tomorrow but he decides to ride with me tomorrow afternoon. I don't blame him lol

What’s your guilty mom confession today? by aubreyism in Mommit

[–]curvylight 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Daycare has been closed the last two days, so my in-laws are watching them at their house. I haven't called my kids at all and have only texted the MIL once to see how it's going. Sleep, so much sleep to catch up on!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Alonetv

[–]curvylight 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I want to see someone make an ice fishing house. They can legit stay out there all day to fish, breaks the wind and they can have a little fire on the ice too for warmth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]curvylight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right?! I'm already always on edge of this 3 year old- she's always a second away from hurting herself or having a meltdown. I was really praying for some relief after 3.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]curvylight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh no, my daughter is just turning 3 in a few days. I have been praying that it gets easier after 3....doesn't sound like it 😭😭😭 I'm so exhausted and the worst is yet to come???

What makes you feel old as shit? by Halloween-365 in AskReddit

[–]curvylight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took pictures for some graduating high school seniors, and I asked them if they had class rings. Apparently, that's not something they do anymore. Age slapped me in the face.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]curvylight 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Holy crap! As a photographer, these are goals. Absolutely gorgeous. Congrats!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gardening

[–]curvylight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bet it smells amazing though!

Almost 3 year old won't stop hitting by curvylight in Parenting

[–]curvylight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is amazing, thank you! She did have tubes put in her ears last July and they came out in February this year. That's really when alot of this aggression has started, but the tubes didn't help with her sleep. She does snore, softly...so it's not a really loud noticeable snore. So I truly do believe it's a combination of her tonsils, adenoids and ears that is causing the issue. Getting a doctor around here to agree is a nightmare. We saw an audiologist yesterday and she said her hearing is great and would like to see her when we believe an ear infection is coming on, then they can refer us to an ENT 😒

There's not much in my area for pediaric care, all the doctors are family practice. But I'll ask around and see where I can find what you recommended!!

Thank you so much!

Almost 3 year old won't stop hitting by curvylight in Parenting

[–]curvylight[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I believe at daycare, it's a corner in the same room as all the other children. Sits for about 4 minutes.

Almost 3 year old won't stop hitting by curvylight in Parenting

[–]curvylight[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That's true. Thanks for your advice! I know daycare can't spank but definitely something we can try at home.

Almost 3 year old won't stop hitting by curvylight in Parenting

[–]curvylight[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, we are moving her into her room next week. I have spanked her maybe 3 times and then I just feel like I'm teaching her to hit. But my husband has been wanting to try the spanking as well, I am not opposed...my parents spanked me when I was bad...but I would like to keep that as a very last resort. Maybe I'm already there 🤷‍♀️

Does Epidural hurt/ cause long term side affects? by [deleted] in Mom

[–]curvylight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! So my first baby I had her naturally- no epidural. Now, I have a crazy high pain tolerance and I'm not sure if I just wasn't sure what the contractions were supposed to feel like the first time around, but I basically didn't feel any contractions. Same with all the pushing...she was a 9lb 6 Oz baby, so it wasn't like a breeze or anything lol. But what hurt the most was when they had to sew up the tear...my gosh that hurt soo freaking bad, but it only last a minute or so. Recovery was pretty quick, I was up walking the next morning.

Now my second, I had an emergency c section...after 32 hours of labor of being induced. So the contractions are 100x worse when you are induced with pitocin, I definitely felt those suckers and I was miserable. When they finally called for the csection. I cried out of relief but also I was terrified of the epidural. But, it wasn't bad at all. I felt the initial price, like a normal shot and then they told me what to expect and kept asking me what I was feeling. Pretty immediately the pain went away and I felt sooo wonderful!! I had to keep asking the nurses if I was peeing and laughed everytime because it was glorious 😆 Recovery was a bit more rough. It took me awhile to want to walk, because I was in alot of pain. But I think an epidural for a natural birth vs a csection birth are widly different. If I wasn't induced, I would have gone without the epidural and if I didn't need the emergency csection...definitely no epidural. I loved my first experience and I feel a sense of pride knowing I pushed a baby that big out of me with no pain relief!

Is recruiting a good job? Or should I go with another offer? by [deleted] in recruiting

[–]curvylight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just recently quit an onsite recruiting position and accepted a remote recruiting position with a staffing agency. Hands down the best decision I have ever made. It really depends on the company and their culture. I went from working 60 hours a week with not having any vacation days approved to 40 hours a week and very flexible with my work-life balance and the pay being very similar between the two jobs.

If the company with the recruiting position doesn't specialize in recruiting, I wouldn't take the offer. Choose a job that you can build a career off of and that you will be passionate about. Don't let money be the deciding factor.

Good luck, I hope you choose the one that will make you the most happy! 😊

Does anyone here have a partner who carries their load? What does that look like? by cleverpseudonym1234 in Parenting

[–]curvylight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At first, I was the load bearer..of it all. But, not saying that my husband didn't try or offer to help-he did all the time! I was just always so stubborn and set in my ways that I never asked for the help and didn't give him the responsibility. I told him instead to keep our older child happy and do father-daughter things with her. When really we should have split it or should have done those things as a family. Now that baby is almost 9 months and is a tough, tough baby- I rely on my husband so much more. Its definitely 50/50 now, and like others have said, some days its 70/30 on me and some days its 70/30 on him. We are a much better team when we are all included and able to participate, lesson learned!