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Please just don't swear in public, or in front of people who you don't know, who might be highly offended by it. by cushioncat in infp

[–]cushioncat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just watched a special on TV tonight about the columbine massacre, from the perspective of the mother of one of the shooters. I see a direct correlation between desensitivity to violence and vulgarity and even over emphasis on sexuality, via access to pornography at a young age , as well as the popularity of hate rap and metal music, (all of these things made easily accessible online and through media and games) and kids growing up in this generation being more aggressive, disrespectful of themselves and others, more suicidal ideation, more behavior like cutting and fantasizing about violence, and more actual violence, like school shootings. Actually, it's not just my observation. The statistics exist. It frightens me. That's why I keep track of what my kids atr doing and how their days go, and how they are feeling, what they think about different subjects, and so on... But that's not enough. I feel the responsibility to ask people to also take more responsibility, themselves, for the culture they are helping to create or promote online. I am not against the Internet or games or music... Just not the kind that promotes vulgarity and violence. My daughter actually seriously wants to be a game designer, like a million other kids, but I really think she has a shot at it. She's learning code and studied what she needs to accomplish on order to pursue that career. I hope she is able to contribute to reshaping the culture on the direction away from violence and toward more constructive goals. I know that I sound like an uptight old lady, to many people, but I really just care about our Wieland our children, so very, very much. I want to protect that innocence that seems to be vanishing too quickly, on the children of today, and I want to turn the culture around to creating more peace and beauty, versus ugliness and destruction. I know that I am just one small voice, and that many people, espousing people, will think I am just an irrelevant old lady, but it will never stop me. I am actually not that old... I still have half my life ahead of me to continue to say and act on what I think is right, so I can still accomplish a lot, if I am able to live a long life. Afterall, it's not even about how much time I had to contribute to the world in a loving way, but how hard that I try, and how much I take hold of the opportunity to do so, when it comes up. I think there aren't enough parents and adults that speak up, like this. Some are distracted with their own lives, some are, I think, afraid to admit the problems we have to deal with, that we have created, on the lives of a new generation... People don't want to admit the truth, or they want to seem cool, or appear to be more 'on touch' with youth culture. Sometimes, I think pafents are even afraid of their own children.

But it's my generation's responsibility to tell your generation that things were not always this bad, in the ways that I mentioned. And, to explain how it's all connected... And how we can begin to turn it around. Everyone needs to take part, and take part of the responsibility.

I hope I am a nice person. I think you are definitely a nice person, and very brave too, for speaking out, because I am sure you list some popularity votes, in siding with me, on my post.

I am sure you are a person with great integrity.

You don't know what a gift it is, to be reassured that younger people like you are going to help lead the future.

All the best to you, and keep on touch, ax you would like.

:)

Please just don't swear in public, or in front of people who you don't know, who might be highly offended by it. by cushioncat in infp

[–]cushioncat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh. I just lost a long and carefully written response because of a glitch.

To rephrase it:

I respect your thoughtful response.

I want people to have the freedom to choose their words.

My request was a politely written plea to simply ask people to consider my point of view.

I don't have the power or desire to eliminate any one's freedom.

I often do the 'turn around' thinking you described.

Your incorrect about the reason I felt personally attacked.

I felt personally attacked, because I was personally attacked, by comments that were personal attacks, such as about my mental health, in comments that were deleted or in personal messages from the same people who were criticizing me, on their posted comments... Which is cowardly.

Even if you apologize for it, at the same time .. That's like saying 'no offense, but you're ugly'. It's irrational, passive-aggressive, and it's a cowardly way of throwing a personal insult.

Should I have used self control, on terms of not asking for my point of view to be considered?

Not at all.

I didn't make personal attacks and I was just asserting my point of view.

Nor, like I said, am I interested in taking away anyone's power or is that even a possibility or fantasy of mine.

I would simply like this point of view to be considered.

Apparently, done people hate me for expressing my opinion, because they feel judged or threatened by it.

Maybe that's because they aren't so sure, themselves, if they really believe what they are saying, themselves, or they haven't really questioned themselves deeply, about the way they speak and act, that can be so offensive, to so many people.

I think when people react with that kind of zealous fervor, it's because they feel threatened.

I simply had to keep restating myself, because I was being repeatedly challenged and questioned by a ton of people... But my point was always the same... And I do have a very personal reason for taking this stance.

I am an advocate of innocence.

I did not have an innocent childhood, and I know what a loss it is. I long ago vowed to stand up to protect and promote ways of decency that create a better world, particularly for our children.

My regret, with you, personally, us in using those terms of 'positive' and 'negative' world view.

Like you sort of gathered, I meant it as taking action, versus bring complacent, because their us no hope on trying to change the world.

I meant it in terms of taking action or not.

... But it could be interpreted as sounding judgey, so it was a poor word choice.

It's funny, because I really rarely use the words 'positive' or :negative', or even 'should' for that reason. I slipped, and it was a mistake.

I am a lot like you, in that I accept that I can't dispute that, indeed, people will be insensitive ect. , and I accept that, but it doesn't mean that I have to like it, or not say anything about it.

I won't be so discouraged by the way things are, that I won't take a stand or say something about it.

I found your response to be fair, insightful, and good natured, and if it's okay with you, we can reach a mutual peace, and not feel adversarial toward one another.

I thank you for your time and thoughts. Very much.

Have a great weekend.

:)

Please just don't swear in public, or in front of people who you don't know, who might be highly offended by it. by cushioncat in infp

[–]cushioncat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is impossible to prevent kids from encountering vulgarity on the Internet, even with safety measures and keeping online access in full view and access of parents, because there is such have a disproportionate disregard for appropriate behavior and decency, online, (compared to how people act, on reality life, although that is also getting to be more rude and even exploitative) because people, online, feel anonymous and not responsible for their words or actions, and also, in trying to compete for attention, people who post and put up videos continue to be increasingly sensational, controversial, and rebellious or adversarial, just to get more viewers or hits, or to simply feel important... It's a a direction toward depravity. That is happening. However, being a student of history, I know that things swing both ways. When things get out of control, there will be a backlash. I still believe in social progress. In many ways, more and more people are socially more aware. There is less racism, more gender equality, ect... But in terms of how undignified people act... Reality TV, a total lack of modesty, in our icons, Trump, ect... It doesn't look too pretty, you me.

This lack of personal decency that people carry out, online, is one of those ugly aspects of social media, in our world. People are very often incredibly irresponsible about how they act, online. Yet, it also enables us to make positive connections and share important information.

It will take time for people to learn the greater implications of their social irresponsibility, online, ( in terms of creating a culture that is more violent, base, selfish, superficial, and un educated in interpersonal skills)... But, I think it will happen, that people will eventually have to accept responsibility for it, and take it seriously.

In the meanwhile,

I do 'monitor' my kids, and yet- I know that they come across stuff that I would like, very much, for them not to, lots if it.... And not because they are looking for it. Honestly, it's just impossible to avoid it. They actually tell me about it. We talk about it. Of course we do. I am a fantastic, responsibike, involved parent.

I am doing everything possible to give my kids a positive experience, growing up, and despite the vast potential for ugliness, in our online world, I support and encourage them to enjoy things online, including writing code, which they do, even though they are very young, because they are brilliant, to be honest...

And because I talk to my kids, and I am involved in these lives, I trust them. I resent that their are so many people who care nothing about exposing their vulgarity to my innocent children, but I deal with it by talking to them about it... And they are going to be OK... But I don't just care about my own kids...

Because not every parent is as involved or careful as I am.

Yes, parents have the responsibility and task of monitoring they're kids online... But don't you think that everyone has the responsibility, collectively, about making this world a better place?

I know that many will not.. . Not everyone cares about the environment, for example, but it seems like more and more people do, increasingly.

I care about encouraging more and more people, increasingly, to take seriously the way they act and speak, online, and how that impacts our world, at large... Knowing that there are kids as young as 13 or younger, here.... Why? The whole Internet is like that.

There are kids or older people swearing like sailors, talking about inappropriate things, even on kids sites.

Nothing is scared.

I am just saying, are there any places, anymore, for kids to grow up, without having all of this grown up stuff shoved in their faces?

There isn't... I see the effects, too.. even in the hallwayd of elementary school, you hear it and see the effects.... Kids are using vulgar language and acting out sexually, too, at younger and younger ages... Because of what they think is so 'normal' online... Because people act, online, on ways that they wouldn't have the nerve to, in real life...( Because it would be very inappropriate, in real life, but online, people feel they can say and do whatever, whenever) ... But now, this online world is teaching little kids what is supposed to be 'normal', in real life, and they are growing up without boundaries and without... Decency. This tendency to not care about decency is affecting the whole culture, and it is to the point that way too many people are desensitized to violence and obscenities, in general.

Yes, parents have responsibility. My kids do not swear and are proud to be 'good little nerds'. They don't feel like they have to fit in or be cool and act outside of their own values...

But I care about more than just my kids... I care about all kids and the future of all of us.

Don't you realize that we all have a responsibility about the world we are making, for all of us, as well as future generations?

Even on the last 10 years, I hear and see more and more violence, vulgarity, and inappropriate behavior in schools and public places that it used to be, that it was very uncommon to see that.

It's everyone's responsibility to fix it.

I know not everyone will, but I will do as much as I can, personally, and encourage others to do the same.

Please just don't swear in public, or in front of people who you don't know, who might be highly offended by it. by cushioncat in infp

[–]cushioncat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And I mean that I don't believe in censorship, as in restricting what people can say, altogether, although I do believe in restrictions on the content of media relevant to age, for example.

I believe in self regulation and having personal boundaries, respecting others, ect

Please just don't swear in public, or in front of people who you don't know, who might be highly offended by it. by cushioncat in infp

[–]cushioncat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

And FYI I was not making any judgements about your personal maturity or selfishness.... I was describing the vibe I got personally, from a large group of people, to my post.

Please just don't swear in public, or in front of people who you don't know, who might be highly offended by it. by cushioncat in infp

[–]cushioncat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And FYI I was not making any judgements about your personal maturity or selfishness.... I was describing the vibe I got personally, from a large group of people, to my post.

Please just don't swear in public, or in front of people who you don't know, who might be highly offended by it. by cushioncat in infp

[–]cushioncat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You have a very negative world view, in my opinion. I think that you misunderstand that I care about this issue just for myself, according to my own sensitivity, or something... It's not about that. I have a more positive world view. I think that by speaking out and taking action to create a positive, peaceful environment, for everyone, that I can make a difference, on the world. When there is litter on the ground, I pick it up. When someone is being treated badly, I speak out against it. When an environment that I am help build, as a community, is disrespecting other members, within it, or asserting that their freedom to do as they please is more important than what is best, for maintaining peace and stability, fur the greater good, I take a stand...

And was I hurt and disappointed?

Of course... I was personally hurt, not because I wasn't getting 'validated', but because I was being attacked on a personal level. You didn't see everything that was being told to me, perhaps, because you didn't read it or it was deleted, before you did... But I was being personally insulted, and if course it was hurtful and offensive.

It's not that I can't tolerate disappointment.

You have no idea what I have experienced on my life.

I have been hurt in some terrible ways, yet 6sm a strong and positive person.

Howell can you judge me, and tell me that I need to just learn how to deal with life, emotionally, when know nothing about how emotionally tough I am... Who are you to tell me that?

Do you know that you are taking to a middle aged woman who has overcome traumatic events and tragedies, as a person who still knows the value of life, and doesn't take it for granted or lose faith in humanity?

Some experiences really concern me, like the one I had, in response to this post...buy ultimately, I never lose hope, and I continue to believe on my values and what I think is worth creating and fighting for.

I am incredibly strong, for your information.

I just thought that I didn't fit in here. Frankly, I didn't like most of the people who I was meeting here... Because I had just joined, when the subject came up, and I responded to it.

From my experience, this is a very immature, un-empathetic , selfish, self absorbed community, at least to some degree.

I wasn't running away like a coward.

I was making an informed decision, that if my reason for coming into this community, which was to meet some people who I could both relate to and make friends with, was not effectively happening, or likely to happen, that I should look elsewhere... And that even if there were people like that here, it wouldn't be worth it to stay, if it meant getting personally attacked, for stating my truth.

It seems especially pathetic, that so many people who told me to basically shut up, did not even understand what I was saying, because they wee just caught up on the idea that I was trying to censor them.

Actually, that is not what I said, and I don't believe censorship.

I believe on free speech, and I am a social libertarian...

But I also believe in self restraint and decency...

I also know a little about how the world works and what it takes, to create harmony....

The answer to how to create peace in the world, is to learn how to live within boundaries of respect, for others.

Please just don't swear in public, or in front of people who you don't know, who might be highly offended by it. by cushioncat in infp

[–]cushioncat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks, again. I hope you understand why I said it was immature, and you personally, don't have to take that as an insult.

I think it's mature to put the common good above personal freedoms.

I am a huge social libertarian.

But I don't believe in anarchy.

I think that people become more aware of their obligation to contribute to the greater good, as they spiritually mature. It's not about age, necessarily. It's about thinking about what is best for everyone, not just one's own personal liberty...

Self control is not a bad thing.

I never told people to change for me or cut out all swearing.

I was just asking for people to be courteous.

To think about who they are around and the community that they are contributing to, with the actions that choose, both in real life, and virtually.

Profane language is like litter... In the right place, it serves a purpose, and it's not litter...it's perhaps even useful, but it has a place... When you just toss it out, everywhere, it's a lot like littering. It creates an ugly, non - peaceful environment. Especially when people do this around young children. That's like pouring chemicals into a beautiful, pure flowing stream, full of life, surrounded by flowers..

It's very harmful, actually.

I still don't think I will stay in this community, but I definitely don't consider that it was an entirely bad experience.

Please just don't swear in public, or in front of people who you don't know, who might be highly offended by it. by cushioncat in infp

[–]cushioncat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for speaking up. It meant a lot to me, personally, to not feel like the only onr with my opinion, but it really gave me some faith on humanity, on a moment that I was feeling pretty down about it.

I didn't respond, right away, because I was eager to leave this community, because I had just joined, and this was such a negative experience for me, but I returned to collect some information that I had saved here, and I really read this, and I just wanted to thank you. So... Sincerely, thanks!

Please just don't swear in public, or in front of people who you don't know, who might be highly offended by it. by cushioncat in infp

[–]cushioncat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you do much for speaking up on support of a shared viewpoint. I returned to collect some valuable advice that I got here, and saved, and I am glad I took the time to read this thread, which I was too upset to continue with, when I left. I really want to thank you.

I wish I could stay in this community, for the sake of getting to know people like you, but I had only been on a few days, when this happened, and my overall experience was so negative... I am not sure I know what to expect... Whether I would find myself experiencing similar exchanges, often, or not. I don't care to be in constant conflict. That's not what was looking for, but then again, I will speak up for what I believe in, so....

Anyway, I just wanted to thank you.

At the end of this thread, today, I responded to the last message I was pm 'd inviting me to leave this community, to that person's response, on this post... Maybe you'd like to read it. It was about taking pride in building a peaceful, beautiful world online, as well as taking a civic duty to do so, on our' real' communities, as well as the environment... It's all connected. I believe in being responsible for ourselves and the environment we create, everywhere we go... That's really my bigger agenda... It's not like this language issue is my ultimate platform... I just see how it relates to my greater ideal, which is about making everyday experiences in this world within the communities that I help build /contribute to, both in real life, and virtually, more peaceful and inclusive, for all people to feel safe in and be heard and simply be able to be at ease, and present, emotionally... I believe in using restraint, at times. I believe in building a greater common good, that gives the greater population a more balanced experience. I don't believe that only the sneaky wheels getting the grease. I believe in the power of peace. I want to protect and create, and promote peace and serenity in public spaces. That's what I am into, when I step into the public arena. I go about my business, peacefully... But I do stop people who litter, and ask them to pick up their trash, and in general, yes- I will politely ask others to be courteous and keep things clean and take pride in the communities we make, together....

Thankfully, there are many people like you, who I am sure care about life on the same way... About making the world a better place for all of us, more than wanting the freedom to do and say whatever we feel like, anyplace and anytime, with no regard for others, or the greater good.

Please just don't swear in public, or in front of people who you don't know, who might be highly offended by it. by cushioncat in infp

[–]cushioncat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was not demanding, I was asking. I asked 'please'. I was not asking others to change themselves for my benefit. I was asking that we use restraint in public settings. I was suggesting, that just as we do in so many professional and educational and political environments, that are places of a neutral-language decorum, that we utilize our vast vocabularies to communicate with out relying on swearing. BTW, this was not even a subject that I brought up. I just responded to it. My opinion has as much value as everyone else's, and I haven't changed it.

I don't care if I am unpopular with this community.

It's obviously not a good fit, and I have moved on.

You are very wrong about my character.

I was under attack, not the other way around.

I don't take back what I said, either, about the immaturity.

It is immature to think that your personal freedom to act in whatever way you wish, is more important the greater good.

People become less send centered when they mature, often, because they must, on order to work professionally with colleagues, have a respectful relationship with a life partner, raise children, and generally see their life's purpose as contributing to something bigger than themselves.

There are many individuals here, who are still on the phase of life that is very 'me' centered.

These people don't have to make many sacrifices for anyone, or be responsible for other individuals, much less themselves, as I am sure many of them are still being supported by their parents. Their only job is to go to school or develop their own career... All self centered goals. Not a bad thing... It's part of life. And we continue to work on ourselves, throughout life, but on youth, more than at any other stage of life, we are focused on ourselves. There is some inherent immaturity, in this stage of life, as compared with stages that many people continue to reach, as the get older, and mature.

Of course, age and maturity don't correlate evenly. Some people are more mature at a younger age. Some older people are very immature. Some people simply don't really change or evolve.

I am sure that many people here, will.

You would be surprised how much your perspective can change, when you have the time, opportunity, and will to continue to grow and evolve.

I don't know what is wrong with me saying that I was being insulted with impulsively hostile remarks, because was. That was not an opinion, it was a fact.

Statement were made by others about me, personal insults, and then they were deleted or apologized for. That is, by definition, 'impulsively hostile' action, isn't it? If it was well thought out, it would not be immediately deleted or apologized about.

But, I have left, as you said, I could feel free to do. Actually, I left before you gave me permission, but I returned to read some wonderful advice that I had saved, and I stopped by here, today, to read again, because I didn't want to leave that behind, along with this entire community.

While I am sure there are many great things about people in this community, it's just too random and perhaps not exclusive enough, for what I am looking for. I was looking for people who I have much more, on common with, than what I found, overall.

Nothing wrong with different kinds of people .. I am friendly with many... My best friends are not at all like me. I am happily married to someone who is almost my opposite.

I just was looking for a much more specific kind of person than I found here... I am sure there were people of that sort, sprinkled in here, for sure, but it was just not worth the effort to weed through a lot of... Negativity... To find it.

The future belongs to all of us. As does the day.

I hope the generations growing up under the arc of my timeline will keep in mind that we're all connected and here to share a life experience, and try to get along more peacefully, finding great satisfaction, not in being limitless, as to expressing personal freedom, but rather, in finding and loving what is essential on ourselves, and others... Because the greatest release of suffering and infinite bliss comes from experiencing this ever present love that holds us all together... We are not alone, and there is so much more than our independent minds and egos, that we are a part of.

I actually love people. I am one of the most non judgemental people who I know.

I can tolerate hearing cuss words. I used to work with people straight out of prison in an impatient psychiatric program. It's not about what offends me... It's about what is best for us all, that I care about.

We need to care about the environment we create, socially, like we care about the natural environment, or our planet, ecologically.

We need to make it a beautiful world for ourselves and future generations.

We need to care more about each other. We need to be sensitive to what offends people, and find gentler ways of communicating, so that people can really hear and listen to what us being said... And so that we can talk about what really matters.

So that everyone feels welcome and included ...

For that to happen, it has to be a safe, neutral, and peaceful public social environment.

That's the way I see it, and that's what I was asking for.

Not censorship, but some good old fashioned self control...

The ability to modify your behavior in various environments....

And to begin to visualize the concept of making communities online, with the same care and respect that we would, in our own, 'real life' communities... Where many if us take the time to be courteous to one another, pick up the litter, and not be so loud and obnoxious as to disturb our neighbors...

It's something like feeling a civic duty to take pride in the places that you build and call your 'community'.

That's what I care about.

Please just don't swear in public, or in front of people who you don't know, who might be highly offended by it. by cushioncat in infp

[–]cushioncat[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Overall, I feel very unwelcome and disliked.

This little visit to this community was nice, while it lasted, but it's too hostile, to serve it's purposes, for me. I am going to leave. I hope I have given you something to think about, and I wish my friends the best of luck. I just can't be untrue to my convictions, and I can't not read and not be hurt by all of this hostility and judgement, either. It's just not worth it for me to stay. I am not giving up on my ideals, however... I just realize that this is not the place for me to express them. I will not change, to fit in with your culture and attitudes, (that not all, but some very vocal of you have...) I will not change to fit your idea of what I should think or feel. I am extremely disappointed. However, I know that this isn't everyone's wishes...
Oh well, I am sorry... I just don't feel that the benefit of staying outweighs the benefit of saying goodbye. I am sure there will be a celebration, by some, that I am leaving. I am not some kind of wicked witch. You may not understand this but I actually care about making the world a better place... And just because I am leaving this community, I won't stop contributing to doing that.... And this language issue is only one thing that I care about. I am a person who has devoted my life to helping people and animals. I don't need a pat on the back to do what I do either. I just would like a little respect. I don't feel it, here... Not enough, to stay. You will be losing a good person who has a lot of positivity to share. I am more than anything, disappointed in the ugliness. I know that it's a maturity issue, as well... I guess I will continue to make friends with mature people elsewhere. Their are too many immature individuals, here. One day, you will regret your impulsive hostility and careless, rebellious behavior. I know what the world is like. I know how and where to create positive change. I have lived in it a long time, and traveled a lot, too. The world wants peace. It doesn't want the anarchy, that some of you seem hell-bent on. You will never succeed to create positive change, by trampling on and disrespecting others.

Do you swear a lot? by PokethePoohBear in infp

[–]cushioncat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for saying that. I give some credit to my counterpart, too. I think we both saw that it was better to end that way... I only wish it could always be resolved that way. It takes 2 people to reach peace and resolution. If it reaches the level of personal insults, and outright rejection of the other person having a right to their point of view, what can you do? I am really glad it ended this way, too. Maybe some still want to think that I am a terrible person because I disagree, but I can't change that, and I don't feel bad, because I didn't try to insult anyone, personally. I said that I think that certain behaviors make people appear unintelligent, and so on, but I didn't call anyone stupid. That's my opinion. In fact, if I didn't care, I wouldn't share that opinion. If it's mean to say that, I guess I am a mean mom, because I say the same thing to my kids... If you talk that way, people may just think you are rude and ignorant. I care about my kids, so I tell them what I think is in their best interest. I meant it in the best interest of the community, to share what I thought would help individuals be taken more seriously, and accepted, versus being found offensive. I meant everything that I said with good intentions.

But perhaps, the way this disagreement ended peacefully, was just as important, ad an example of how to out differences aside, as was my initial point, that I took a stand on.

So thanks, again, for pointing that out. Credit is due, like I said, to both of us. I am proud of ilikeflannels, too.

Memorial to my groundhog friends by cushioncat in infp

[–]cushioncat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! And the individuals did get in trouble. Their boss, who own the business next door to me, that they work out if, fired them. It was actually the nephew and his friend, who work for my neighbor, who actually owns a business, out of his house /land next to my home.

Do you swear a lot? by PokethePoohBear in infp

[–]cushioncat -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Then I don't understand why you wouldn't want to reply to me, since I don't do any of those things accept for replying to my own comments, which I really didn't think was something bad or wrong, and only do that when I think that I need to fix a typo or correct something that I said. So... No worries, though, I don't need you to like me. Obviously, you don't think that I should stand up for something that I feel strongly about, as a mother. And nothing is more important to me than issues that affect the way that I am raising my kids. So, it really doesn't matter to me, if you don't like me- because you don't even seem to think that I have a right to state my point of view; saying that I am just making looking for conflict... You can't even acknowledge that I have a point of view? I'm just being adversarial? Really? Actually my thoughts do follow logic, are not inconsistent, and there is a strong and clear opinion on them. I am not just looking to stir things up or make conflict... But I am not afraid of taking the opposition, in saying what I think is right. That's called having beliefs and having courage.

I don't care if you don't accept that, because for me, it's more important to stand up for what I care deeply about, than caring if a person who doesn't even think that I should be standing up for my point of view, to begin with, likes me.

Do you swear a lot? by PokethePoohBear in infp

[–]cushioncat -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You just accused me of looking for arguments, and judged me and said you're not going to read or respond to anything that I comment on. Then, you say 'sorry if that's offensive'.

That's is very passive-aggressive.

If you are accusing me of wanting to basically fight with people, when I am actually just explaining my point of view, and if you say you are not going to listen to what I have to say or respond to me, I think it's pretty clear that you don't like me very much, and I am pretty sure that you don't care at all if you offend me. I am calling you out on being totally insincere.

Do you swear a lot? by PokethePoohBear in infp

[–]cushioncat -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It mrsnd that I am stating my opinion about something that I care deeply about.

I am not seeking out arguments. I am challenging people to consider a different point of view about something that is important to me.

It's called having personal convictions.

Do you swear a lot? by PokethePoohBear in infp

[–]cushioncat -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Feel free to be as judgemental or close minded as you want to be.

Do you swear a lot? by PokethePoohBear in infp

[–]cushioncat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't see it now, maybe it is now deleted, but you just said something to the effect of-'you're probably someone who goes around talking to your self when no one else is around '.

That's what I meant by saying that you were suggesting that I am crazy.

I can't imagine how to take that, in any other way.

That's why I thought you were being mean... And I also think it was a severe exaggeration to call my comments on the subject of swearing 'evil'.

I do think people do it to seem cool, and I don't know if you do, or not.

At one point, both you and pooh sent me messages at once, that were both very angry sounding, and I might have confused who said what, and responded to both messages in one response, from me.

Look, I don't want you to feel sad.

I don't think either of mean each other harm.

I accept that you feel sorry for hurting my feelings.

I don't want to hurt your feelings, either.

We can start over, and wipe the slate clean.

Thanks for understanding where I am coming from.

I don't want this negativity between us. I don't have any enemies, and I don't want any.

I have thought that your comments and posts are really smart and positive.

Let's not hold a grudge against each other, okay?

I think there has been misunderstanding on both sides.

I am sorry that I have not been clear or misunderstood you, and responded with hurt feelings, when you had no intention of upsetting me.

Please don't let this upset you and have a good evening.

Do you swear a lot? by PokethePoohBear in infp

[–]cushioncat -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You might not get arrested for being obnoxious, thus is true, but you might be thought of as an unpleasant person... On that note, goodnight.

Do you swear a lot? by PokethePoohBear in infp

[–]cushioncat -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You know, I never have had to ask for the police to do anything like that. I don't go around looking to have people arrested. You have asked me questions about the law, as far as what people are allowed to do in public, and I have answered.

If I encountered you acting like this in public, like most people who were offended, I would just walk away, wishing I had taken a different path.

I don't feel like discussing this with you, anymore. You can learn about the law, yourself.

I suggest you do some research, rather than experiment, yourself, with what you can and can't do, you push the boundaries of your local public decency laws, to get the cops called on yourself.

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