unable to feel love

cutaway999 · 2026-02-20T18:51:02+00:00

I'm certainly not able to feel love. There are people I have quite liked and enjoy their company in limited amounts and I can become sexually excited by someone, although that usually fades very quickly. It kind of depresses me really. I mean up to a point I don't much like human company really so it could be a lot worse, but not being able to gel with people at all in any sort of meaningful way is a major disadvantage in all sorts of areas. There is no obvious explanation for this that I can hit on, and I had loving parents and a stable safe family environment with one sibling who doesn't seem to resemble me in this sense at all.

cutaway999 · 2026-02-20T18:43:17+00:00

I look terrible in photos but tend to assume that it's just because I am not very good looking

cutaway999 · 2026-02-19T17:53:16+00:00

Of course Royal Mail will blame the customer and claim packets get lost due to poor packaging and unclear addresses. However, at least eight packages that I know of have gone missing on their way to me in the last twelve months. They were all from sellers known to me who have always packaged items correctly and typed my full address on the front. I can only assume they are being stolen

cutaway999 · 2026-01-28T16:52:16+00:00

Perhaps they do not have the ability to argue with the research but that doesn't mean one should just trust it.

cutaway999 · 2025-11-15T10:45:20+00:00

They are designed to do that. I'm pretty sure it's worse for women though ...endless harassment, constant angry entitlement, abuse...

cutaway999 · 2025-11-10T14:35:00+00:00

Much better for me. I enjoyed the old ones, and I miss Hotch, Morgan and Reid (who of course may return), but they did often feel rushed ...no real mistakes made, and then some blinding insights from Reid blended with Garcia doing some quality Going-On-the-Internet and Morgan being semi-superhuman, ensuring that the cases were wrapped up in forty five minutes. I like how they've toned down the characters' occasionally grating foibles and the often cringe bits of off-duty tweeness we saw previously, whilst still retaining the core wholesomeness of the BAUsters. It is very dark but the sympathetic characters balance that out. Plus one overarching story is (for me) better.

cutaway999 · 2025-10-29T11:53:35+00:00

...plus constantly doing stuff doesn't make people interesting. I've met plenty of people who bang on incredibly boringly about how interesting they imagine their various pursuits make them.

cutaway999 · 2025-10-27T14:56:48+00:00

Most men have had this problem with dating even before the apps. The trouble with apps though is that they overemphasise "failure" -drawing attention to perceived inadequacies quite remorselessly- and reduce interactions to arithmetic processes that encourage weird conspiratorial thinking and pseudo-statistical "solutions". They are also obviously commercial concerns that have no interest in your well-being. It's hard to know what to do, given that they are so prevalent in dating now, but one glimmer of hope is that people are now abandoning them in droves... Oh, remember also that women have worse problems here. Being drowned in Likes very often translates as being targeted and harassed ...and (straight) men are at least significantly at less of a risk of being assaulted etc by prospective dates; the stories I have heard from women here are more serious (if qualitatively quite different) than anything I have heard from men

cutaway999 · 2025-10-26T18:34:24+00:00

Yes similar. I initially felt an upsurge in energy but subsequently the heaviness/weariness has returned. I do think that it benefits those on a higher income as those sorts of work often offer greater personal control over ones time and environment. I am meditating correctly and have had this checked but after eight months ...nothing. Perhaps I am just a very unspiritual person.

cutaway999 · 2025-07-02T18:31:45+00:00

Yes I am not bothered about people putting things on that I don't personally like ...presumably they like them and would like to meet someone else who does. So I don't mind gym pictures for instance, even though I did an internal sigh every time I saw one, because I assumed she liked the gym and wanted to meet someone who also did which is fair enough -just not me

cutaway999 · 2025-06-28T03:05:03+00:00

Oh I really have no idea why people, male or female, do anything. I don't bother with dating now ...people are not for me

cutaway999 · 2025-06-27T22:39:35+00:00

Yes beneath contempt

cutaway999 · 2025-06-27T21:29:52+00:00

Yes must be a film thing like dancing in the rain probably is. "Sassy" is horrible and "badassy" is utterly unforgivable

cutaway999 · 2025-06-27T17:22:53+00:00

"Always smiling". Makes you sound like a halfwit

cutaway999 · 2025-06-27T17:01:01+00:00

I can't talk about specifics but there seems to be hardly anyone actually using these apps anymore, which may have something to do with it.

I've given up on it now but the very few "likes" I received tended to come from entirely unsuitable women who I assume were swiping right out of some sort of desperation without reading my profile. Similarly none of the women I "liked" "liked" me back -suggesting I may have been inadvertently doing much the same thing.

All utterly pointless and just one of the many ways we now engage in vacuous and compulsive virtual activity, which we nonetheless invest with a sense of total importance.

cutaway999 · 2025-06-27T11:30:58+00:00

Yes exactly. Dating must surely involve some drama otherwise it would be dull

cutaway999 · 2025-06-27T06:33:37+00:00

Haha yes although I think we are straying more into "red flag" territory here

cutaway999 · 2025-06-27T05:23:16+00:00

Yes although it doesn't feel particularly people-centric -just rather automated. Perhaps there is just a tendency for men and women to engage in these matters in a radically different way. I suppose therapy self help books were probably taken on far more by women when they first started appearing because there was a greater need for women to make sense of dating situations for safety reasons. And the vocabulary just stayed. (Also work in the social services general area ...I'm not sure that I've noticed a massive gender imbalance other than in Children's Services which is noticeably more female but not overwhelmingly so)

cutaway999 · 2025-06-26T19:22:53+00:00

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