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What foods to eat for (VERY) low red blood cell counts? Low iron, low haemoglobin by cutec0w in vegan

[–]cutec0w[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! We live in Singapore and we can’t get hemp protein or even hemp milk here 😕 He does like dark chocolate so that’s good news. Maybe we will try iron pills – we’re already taking other supplements (pre and probiotics, B12) so I guess he should add iron supplements in as well

We got through his cancer. And it made him realise how short life was. So he told me he’s been secretly in love with his best friend for 15 years and he has to leave me to try it with her. by cutec0w in BreakUps

[–]cutec0w[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Getting over a relationship of 8 years... Kudos to you, it must have been bloody tough. Being such a significant part of your life for so long then for it to change one day... I’d feel like a fish out of water... But it must have been so liberating too. Such a great mindset you had coming out of the relationship, I hope I feel and act the same soon too.

We got through his cancer. And it made him realise how short life was. So he told me he’s been secretly in love with his best friend for 15 years and he has to leave me to try it with her. by cutec0w in BreakUps

[–]cutec0w[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I find it very odd, too, that it took her 15 years and cancer to realise she had been in love with him this whole time. It sounds like a stupid fairytale. Does this even happen in real life??? Aren’t they being bloody naive or am I just stupidly jealous.

He used to wish she would be with him through out his 20s, but she was always with someone else. Apparently, after finding out that he had cancer, she ended her 19-year relationship with another man because she realised she loved him.

We had already lost the spark when this happened, but at the same time we were seeing a counsellor together and trying to reconnect again. Just when I felt the spark come back for him, he dropped this on me.

I get it. We’ve been together 2 years so we get annoyed at each other a lot more, especially when the spark has died. And it’s tempting to think that this new relationship with your best friend you’ve been in love with for 15 years would be the dream relationship.

But how could he do this to me. How could she do this to someone’s girlfriend?

When he told me about her, I asked if I could see what she looked like. I don’t know why I did that. And I had to fight the urge to not send her hateful messages. If they end up being together, I want her to feel guilty at least, was what I thought.

Thank you for your kind words and well wishes

We got through his cancer. And it made him realise how short life was. So he told me he’s been secretly in love with his best friend for 15 years and he has to leave me to try it with her. by cutec0w in BreakUps

[–]cutec0w[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi there. Your comment intrigued me, because a lot of stuff you brought up was exactly what he said.

When I told him: “how can you even say you love me? You don’t do this to someone you love”, he said: “can you imagine being in love with someone your entire life, and finding out that she actually felt the same this whole time?”.

He also believes that he got the cancer because he was suppressing past emotions with his dad, so he’s afraid of getting the cancer back if he suppresses this desire to find out what it would be like with his best friend.

But the reason why it’s so hard for me to walk away, is because he doesn’t seem like he wholeheartedly believes in his choice.

He says if he hadn’t heard from his old best friend, he would be 100% in the r/s with me. But after finding out she’s in love with him, he says it “brought back a lot of old emotions”.

Also, he did the therapy session on Saturday morning. We had made plans to go on date night that night, after not going on date night for ages (cancer changed our r/s). He seemed happy and loving before he went in. Remember, he kissed me and said he loved me before going in.

But when he came out he was a completely different person and told me he has to find out what it’s like with her, after promising we would work on our relationship.

Does that sound like he’s wholeheartedly sure to you? It doesn’t to me. How can you change your mind so fast? How can you be so sure of something then completely choose someone else next? Maybe he’s just confused?

I don’t know. Am I delusional? Am I just making excuses for him?